Why do men stray...? Do i start again??

[lurpsexx]

I'll start by saying :

Pull factors
initially due to excitement of paid n non spousal sex, the thrilling chase of another woman, the satisfaction with a unfamiliar partner, the re-fresh feeling of being in a new relationship, etc..

Push factors
Relationship issues with spouse, due to kids problems, in laws problems, financial problems, work problems, lack of communication, disinterested spouse, relationship cooled / not talking, sex no longer sensual just go thru the motion, spouse dislike our behaviours, spouse undergoing menopause, etc

I strayed initially due to tasted the forbidden fruit during my virgin ktv night out, then meet some like minded guys here in this forum for ktv outings, then went further abroad for new experiences, then tried local hook ups..
Starting was thrilling, due to the fresh experiences, n was addictive.. significant money was spent gathering life's forbidden fruits, n memories forged.. but in the end, I was stopped when my escapades was found in my phone, n my family significantly affected..

Till now, tho nothing much was said after this revelation, i can feel our relationships are now strained n confrontative.. i hv tried to be more tolerant, approachable, more helpful, talk more with them, do more for them, but at times the ugly responses i get, makes me wonder if somewhere outside, there is something better for me??

I'm fighting this urge now, but everytime i feel put down by those close to me, pushes me back to another's embrace, paid or not .. what do you think?

[Chua Soi Lek]

Stray bcos even if eat abalone everyday, on some days cai png can be nicer taste than abalone … lol

[weefred]

Most, or you can say all the men want to marry a pure and innocent wife. They want them to be virgin, end up after marry them for a year or 2 become bored already cause your wife not experienced in sex or just no sex drive at all.

If you married a nymphomaniac, your balls will be so dried every night, you don't even have the energy to look at other girls. That's my experience for my hotwife that I've dated for 2 years and married for 5. She's a insatiable girl that need sex almost every night, hands almost everytime inside your pants even when I'm washing dish etc.

That's my experience so far, I'm a cuck also, watching my wife insatiable appetite unleashed on other guy gets me turned on even more. So, if you're bored of your wife.... Nothing much can help, just remember to wash your hand before going home hahah.

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by weefred

Most, or you can say all the men want to marry a pure and innocent wife. They want them to be virgin, end up after marry them for a year or 2 become bored already cause your wife not experienced in sex or just no sex drive at all.

If you married a nymphomaniac, your balls will be so dried every night, you don't even have the energy to look at other girls. That's my experience for my hotwife that I've dated for 2 years and married for 5. She's a insatiable girl that need sex almost every night, hands almost everytime inside your pants even when I'm washing dish etc.

That's my experience so far, I'm a cuck also, watching my wife insatiable appetite unleashed on other guy gets me turned on even more. So, if you're bored of your wife.... Nothing much can help, just remember to wash your hand before going home hahah.

If a man wants to up your wife for you to watch. Do you have any criteria? The man needs to be tall dark and handsome? How about watching your wife defiled by a fat disgusting brute?

[Auxerre]

Cause men are not biologically designed to be one woman one man.

[weefred]

Originally Posted by Peacekeeping

If a man wants to up your wife for you to watch. Do you have any criteria? The man needs to be tall dark and handsome? How about watching your wife defiled by a fat disgusting brute?

Rich can already. Hahaha, she taken more fat disgusting brute than you might imagine. It's like watching JAV. Oh, her current sugar daddy is what you described.

[itguy2008]

TS, I am divorced. So I do not hope that you failed in your marriage like me.

Howeever, one thing you can consider doing to save your relationship.

Did you talk to your partner about it? Sometimes it starts from a simple feeling that both parties take each other for granted.

These thoughts then poisoned the relationship.

[Xgenre]

See a counsellor. The problem now is she needs to get the betrayal out of her system. If she can't let go, perhaps it's kinder for all of you to get a divorce. Kids growing up in an angry dysfunctional family will be affected.

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

See a counsellor. The problem now is she needs to get the betrayal out of her system. If she can't let go, perhaps it's kinder for all of you to get a divorce. Kids growing up in an angry dysfunctional family will be affected.

TS, this is a very logical and constructive suggestion.

[sexcision]

Originally Posted by weefred

Rich can already. Hahaha, she taken more fat disgusting brute than you might imagine. It's like watching JAV. Oh, her current sugar daddy is what you described.

Eh bro, I tot u mentioned she's pregnant and taking a break from this lifestyle? So this break is like concentrating on less guys? Lol

[weefred]

Originally Posted by sexcision

Eh bro, I tot u mentioned she's pregnant and taking a break from this lifestyle? So this break is like concentrating on less guys? Lol

When did i ever say she's pregnant sia hahhaa. We're taking a break cause she kinda bored liao, and she now got a somewhat sugar daddy. So not looking for more lo. It's risky also.

[norknork]

TS, straying is a damn jialat form of betrayal. I have been on the receiving end myself and yes, even more than half a decade later, I am still feeling the after effects. Have I tried counselling? Of course! But before you go down that route (which is possibly the best way to save and improve things), make sure you are good with telling the truth of everything. Your wife will have questions, very uncomfortable questions but you will need to answer them truthfully.

She may ask things like, so you like big nehneh? you like young girls? If it's yes, say yes. You may think it makes her more angry and it may. But at the end of the day, its about moving things on and hopefully a closure. If you say no, then she will just be wondering so why the hell you stray?!

So yes counselling is good but make sure you are really there for the right reasons and not just going for the sake of going.

[Xgenre]

Human beings are just born greedy. So what if a lady has a branded, limited edition $30k bag that is the object of envy to all her friends? Does it mean she will only carry this bag regardless of occasion, her mood or the colour scheme of her OOTD? No what. Ladies will continue to shop for bags to mix and match according to her current need.

Likewise, guys view pussy the same way girls view bags. If I have a supermodel wife that makes me the envy of all my guy friends, does it mean I should yearn or ogle at other pretty girls? Still will have normal desires to admire pretty girls and try other pussy/boobs. This is the logical answer.

However, TS's mistake is he didn't respect his marriage enough to hide the truth from his wife. Now that she is no longer logical, it's hard to explain logical answers to her. Best to leave it to a neutral 3rd party like a counsellor.

[WinterMelonTree]

Originally Posted by lurpsexx

I'll start by saying :

Pull factors
initially due to excitement of paid n non spousal sex, the thrilling chase of another woman, the satisfaction with a unfamiliar partner, the re-fresh feeling of being in a new relationship, etc..

Push factors
Relationship issues with spouse, due to kids problems, in laws problems, financial problems, work problems, lack of communication, disinterested spouse, relationship cooled / not talking, sex no longer sensual just go thru the motion, spouse dislike our behaviours, spouse undergoing menopause, etc

I strayed initially due to tasted the forbidden fruit during my virgin ktv night out, then meet some like minded guys here in this forum for ktv outings, then went further abroad for new experiences, then tried local hook ups..
Starting was thrilling, due to the fresh experiences, n was addictive.. significant money was spent gathering life's forbidden fruits, n memories forged.. but in the end, I was stopped when my escapades was found in my phone, n my family significantly affected..

Till now, tho nothing much..

you should let go of your family to let them have a better life. at this point i think they deserve better. your post is so ironic and hypocritical. first you made a decision to get married and be committed in a monogamous relationship.

then you broke that trust to eat outside. didn't even do it properly and got caught. now suffering the consequences of your own actions. and yet you sound like you're resenting the noxious reactions of your family? but this is entirely your own doing no? what makes you think that actions have no consequences? whatever push pull factors are all just arbitrary excuses.

further more i dont know if your "significant money" is known by your family or not. if it is, they will hate you even more because one of your so-called push factor is financial problem. so clearly the solution is to spend money in a ktv right? LOL
and its even more ironic that your post wasn't to ask for help on how to make amends. but to ask if you should stray again in a sex forum. the very reason why your family is in shambles in the first place LOL LOL

you are just waiting for the tiniest chance for people in a sex forum to enable you so you can avoid the real problem. LOL LOL LOL

should man up and get a clean break and provide financially. both parties will be rid of each other and you can ml/fl/escort/geylang all you want with nothing stopping you. why stay and basically continue to destroy the mental health of everyone? your kids are your literal flesh and blood leh.

and always remember consequences. the shittier you treat your family now, the higher the chance they will bite you back next time. especially when you're elderly.

not trying to be a justice warrior. i love to have fun myself. but there is a giant difference between having fun responsibly vs irresponsibly.

[Chateau]

Already have kids, always have the kids in first place.
If need be, go counselling.
Don't give reasons or excuse for what you did, cos what you want now is to salvage your family.
That is your one and only priority.