How should I take things to the next level?

[boft]

Dear bros and sis out here, i have a problem which has been bugging me for quite a while. Hope to have advice from the more experienced ones out here

I have this close female friend whom I like for the longest time already, but as she was attached when I first knew her, I could only keep my thinking to myself. But recently, she broke up and is now single. As such, i began to initiate more meetups and there were times when she would initiate to meet up for dinner and drinks. We would often hang out together, be it just the two of us or with our friends (she was comfortable with meeting up with my friends and vice versa). When teased about how often we hang out together and that we should be together, there was no rejection on her side.

Now the problem is, how should I confirm that this is not something that I just wished would happen and that I can take things to the next level, as im afraid that if i rush things, things would become very awkward and i do want to keep her as a friend.

Any advice?

[katong]

This kind of situation, it's right to go with the mentality of YOLO.

Don't try, later other people potong jalan then you will be again forever alone with your right hand

[conquer]

Strategically, you need to know the reason why she broke up with her ex-boyfriend, whether she is ready for a new relationship, her feeling towards you... all sort of tedious procedures you need to go through to understand her state of mind.

But, I would recommend you to take the short cut: just ask. The answer usually would be yes or no. If yes, congratulations; if no, go for next target.

[DeanAmbrose89]

my advice to you is, since she break up with her boyfriend (not sure how long was it) but since u are not with her, maybe try to be by her side first like when she need a someone to be there and stuff, then if thing work well then pop the qn. but if you think it's about time liao then just confess and see how she would react. i wish u all the best and support to hope u get this gal that u like.

[DeanAmbrose89]

Originally Posted by conquer

Strategically, you need to know the reason why she broke up with her ex-boyfriend, whether she is ready for a new relationship, her feeling towards you... all sort of tedious procedures you need to go through to understand her state of mind.

But, I would recommend you to take the short cut: just ask. The answer usually would be yes or no. If yes, congratulations; if no, go for next target.

i agree to Bro conquer suggestion but do have a plan b in hand in case thing don't wrk out.

best of luck boft.

May the force be with u hahaha..

[Arexis]

If friend for long time, maybe kana friendzone already...create some spark, spur her emotion, get abit touchy and ask. Drag too long sure no hope. You will really rather she say No to you now than this drag on few more years...time wasted.

[Jebuschris91]

Originally Posted by boft

Now the problem is, how should I confirm that this is not something that I just wished would happen and that I can take things to the next level, as im afraid that if i rush things, things would become very awkward and i do want to keep her as a friend.

Any advice?

Honestly, you probably don't want to keep her as a friend. Which normal guy wants to see the girl he likes, end up with another guy when they have been hanging out and having meals together all these while.

So no, don't kid yourself. What you want is for her to be yours, not your friend.

Like what Conquer said, just ask. Actually, more of tell her how you feel. Tell her why you like her and then see what she says, if she rejects you, then she's been friend zoning you the entire time and then what's the point of you being so close to her, we are men, not women.
You're wasting your time on a female who will probably never want you intimately and you could be pursuing other women who would want to have intercourse with you and hold your hand afterwards.

If she says yes then good, problem settled. May you last long and maybe spawn a child or something in years to come.

[strikeback4]

Just tell her your feeling, how much you like her bla bla bla...

The longer you dilly dally about this. the faster she will be grab by other guys....

Even if she reject you, both of you still can be friends what right?

[DeanAmbrose89]

bro i like the way u say it.

[fringe929]

ah ya... just grab her hand when crossing road and after cross road liao, still keep holding on.... from there you will know where you stand with her...

3 scenarios : 1) she keep letting you hold.... just cont holding as she understood your meaning and is ok with it.
2) She drop your hand and look at you funny... just say "oh.. sorry" and cont on ur normal routine like nothing happened.... if she probe you about why you keep holding your hand later, means you are in luck as she just needs a confirmation on you wanting her as your gf.
3) She drops your hand and looks at you funny.... and don't talk about it anymore.... and suddenly keep trying to keep her distance by not jioing you out etc or take very long to answer ur messages or with just a 1 word reply.... means you kanna friend zone and she never see you as a male but as a friend all along.

[strikeback4]

Originally Posted by fringe929

ah ya... just grab her hand when crossing road and after cross road liao, still keep holding on.... from there you will know where you stand with her...

3 scenarios : 1) she keep letting you hold.... just cont holding as she understood your meaning and is ok with it.
2) She drop your hand and look at you funny... just say "oh.. sorry" and cont on ur normal routine like nothing happened.... if she probe you about why you keep holding your hand later, means you are in luck as she just needs a confirmation on you wanting her as your gf.
3) She drops your hand and looks at you funny.... and don't talk about it anymore.... and suddenly keep trying to keep her distance by not jioing you out etc or take very long to answer ur messages or with just a 1 word reply.... means you kanna friend zone and she never see you as a male but as a friend all along.

lol like ch8 drama

[virgone]

Originally Posted by boft

Dear bros and sis out here, i have a problem which has been bugging me for quite a while. Hope to have advice from the more experienced ones out here

I have this close female friend whom I like for the longest time already, but as she was attached when I first knew her, I could only keep my thinking to myself. But recently, she broke up and is now single. As such, i began to initiate more meetups and there were times when she would initiate to meet up for dinner and drinks. We would often hang out together, be it just the two of us or with our friends (she was comfortable with meeting up with my friends and vice versa). When teased about how often we hang out together and that we should be together, there was no rejection on her side.

Now the problem is, how should I confirm that this is not something that I just wished would happen and that I can take things to the next level, as im afraid that if i rush things, things would become very awkward and i do want to keep her as a friend.

Any advice?

Advice: if you are not going to open your mouth and ask, you are not going to get.

Girls likes guys to be confident and daring.

Since she didn't reject when tease, then you already stand a good chance. Don't miss it.

[Parfum]

Originally Posted by virgone

Advice: if you are not going to open your mouth and ask, you are not going to get.

Very true bro

[DeanAmbrose89]

waaa bro like this i kena a lot of friendzone sia

[sexcision]

Personally, since you both have been meeting with each others friends. I believe the feeling should be mutual, maybe go the the beach or somewhere quite after a regular dinner and pop the question? Try holding hands like one of the bro suggestions.
i believe u have a pretty good chance.
Go for it bro!