Ex wife

lionel_s · #1 12-11-2012, 03:54 PM

Got divorced last year, but currently still iving together with ex wife cos of kids. Ex told me that we r free to do or go out with anyone we feel like. Not sure if she,s serious bout what she said.

DegenerationX · #2 12-11-2012, 03:56 PM

Pai seh bro, the point of your post is?

cocobun · #3 12-11-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by DegenerationX

Pai seh bro, the point of your post is?

point is looking for a gal to go out with him and test water...........

diesel · #4 12-11-2012, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by lionel_s

Got divorced last year, but currently still iving together with ex wife cos of kids. Ex told me that we r free to do or go out with anyone we feel like. Not sure if she,s serious bout what she said.

Do NOT fall into trap and please do not be soft hearted. A trap probably to sue you for more maintenance fees. Who knows?

S'pore is unfair. You can't set-up her (ex-wife) to sleep with men, so as to excuse and to avoid paying her future expense. It will not work. Remember, S'pore women charter protects her ultimately. However, if you were to bring a woman to sleep in your house. She can probably set you up nasty if she does it smartly.

My advice for you as a husband (lionel_s) - since both of you got divorced, do not mess with her anymore and leave her alone. Draw a line clear with her.

Of course, I would like to see couple reconcile, but not making use or fool both parties.

Whilst (if) your wife has really shown keen reconcile intention, then must be opened to everybody. Especially friends and relatives have to around to be witness. Not only protects you. Otherwise, one day argue again, becomes your fault again.

lionel_s · #5 12-11-2012, 04:25 PM

Thanks diesel.

How can i know if wife is serious bout going out with new friends or is she just saying that to spite me.

Or maybe she had already long timemago went out with new friends?

DegenerationX · #6 12-11-2012, 04:31 PM

TS, if you have applied and received the Final Judgement, you and her can do whatever you want. Final Judgement confirms your divorce and and concludes all court proceedings. So even you sleep around with other women, your ex-wife can't use it as a reason to sue you anymore. Because by this stage, you and are are already officially divorced and are separate entity

lionel_s · #7 12-11-2012, 05:05 PM

Yes,we had already went through everything. Officially divorced. Thing is that she told me that she wanna start all over again?
what does that means?
maybe i shouldmlook for a good talker to call her up n try to date her out so as to test if she,s really serious bout us or just wanna use me as a spare tire?

DegenerationX · #8 12-11-2012, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by lionel_s

Yes,we had already went through everything. Officially divorced. Thing is that she told me that she wanna start all over again?
what does that means?
maybe i shouldmlook for a good talker to call her up n try to date her out so as to test if she,s really serious bout us or just wanna use me as a spare tire?

I think you are missing the point here. Why bother so much about is she serious and wanna get someone to test her out?

Main issue is with yourself. Do you still love her and wanna start all over with her again? If yes, then just go for it. If no, then forget it. Either way, there is no need to get someone to test her.

By the way, you may wanna post this in Matters of the Heart Section. There are many good advice given by bros there.

simple2kee · #9 12-11-2012, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by DegenerationX

I think you are missing the point here. Why bother so much about is she serious and wanna get someone to test her out?

bro, i do agree with u.

lionel_s · #10 12-11-2012, 05:26 PM

thanks bros for your advices. really appreciate it.

cocacola2012 · #11 13-11-2012, 12:41 AM

Woman heart is like a needle in the wild wild sea, don guess it, you will never get it right!!

Make thing simple, if you still love her and wanna reconcile, then go and try; otherwise, stay clear ba!!

But one my view is don't ever bring anyone back to your house if you're care for your kids, because the 3rd party's appearance will definitely jeopardize and complicate your kids' mindset.

Watslov · #12 13-11-2012, 04:32 AM

Hi kittymeow,

I truly understand how you feel. I was in the similar situation when I was expecting my youngest child; my husband took one week vacation with his male frieds when i was 8mth, leaving me with two toddlers.
I choice to close one eye and let the matter Rest. In actual fact I hv chose to let him go and i became distant from him. i remember once I told him we were two difference entities leaving under one roof.

Thru out these ten over years the feeling of being cheated will not go away, it feels stronger whenever i feel him acting strangely. I have suffered few depressions and even hd suicided thots.

The reason I shared is to let u know my experience. Not anybody can close one eye till they die.

bigangry · #13 13-11-2012, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by lionel_s

Yes,we had already went through everything. Officially divorced. Thing is that she told me that she wanna start all over again?
what does that means?
maybe i shouldmlook for a good talker to call her up n try to date her out so as to test if she,s really serious bout us or just wanna use me as a spare tire?

she divorce u then want to start all over again? sorry but what the fuck is this?

IMO she just want to use u as a safe harbour while looking for a new ship to jump on board.

LovePotion · #14 13-11-2012, 09:08 PM

bro must be careful... maybe it is a trap... later if u fall into her trap... u might lost everything

xxFTOxx · #15 13-11-2012, 09:28 PM

As the saying goes...Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned. Trust me dun bother figuring it out. Move of with your life. Already divorced I think that sums everything out. Go out have fun....be a good future bf or maybe husband. But never ever forget the kids that you have. U can see other ppl but be a good daddy as well.

2 cents worth