A unmistakable feeling of loneliness

[Woodymah]

Bros, recently Im not sure it is because I am approaching mid life crisis and getting panicky that Im approaching 30 - I have been consumed by a growing,gnawing sense of loneliness and a certain darkness in my soul.

I recently been struck by what is known as "YOU NEED A WOMEN" syndrome. I find myself longing for someone to love and to talk too....

I also find myself having wild mood swings from highly ecstatic to downright brooding dark.. Its scary and it is affecting my work.. I cannot seems to concentrate on anything.

I am not sure how this feeling came about, but I believe my recent infatuation on a co-worker is the main source of this... I have also cut off my 3 "best buddies" from my life as I had been their dartboard and mockery for the past 18 years. Enough is enough. So here I am without real friends and facing this darkness alone..

It has driven me to find comfort in KTV, HFJ and all.. but the darkness is still unkempt and bleeding me dry as I end up drunk almost everyday.

This is my little cry for help bros... What can I do to put my life in order?

p:s Sorry for ranting here..

Woody

[kwaychup]

Hey bro,
1. you are not that old yet. just reaching 30? i'm past 30 and still single yet i'm still do not have the feel to settle down. but then different folks different strokes.

2. wild mood swings? keep it in check, no women/girls like a moody guy

3. your co-worker single or married? single? time to get the rusty guts out and use them. chat with them. being an emo guy here won't get ladies coming up to you either. take initiative.

4. no friends? refer to point 2 n 3. is it because of your mood swings and yourself that your PREFERRED to be alone?

5. finally, stay happy, get a hobby (not drinking and tnn). focus on important things at hand.

[Mr_don_juan]

Originally Posted by Woodymah

Bros, recently Im not sure it is because I am approaching mid life crisis and getting panicky that Im approaching 30 - I have been consumed by a growing,gnawing sense of loneliness and a certain darkness in my soul.

I recently been struck by what is known as "YOU NEED A WOMEN" syndrome. I find myself longing for someone to love and to talk too....

I also find myself having wild mood swings from highly ecstatic to downright brooding dark.. Its scary and it is affecting my work.. I cannot seems to concentrate on anything.

I am not sure how this feeling came about, but I believe my recent infatuation on a co-worker is the main source of this... I have also cut off my 3 "best buddies" from my life as I had been their dartboard and mockery for the past 18 years. Enough is enough. So here I am without real friends and facing this darkness alone..

It has driven me to find comfort in KTV, HFJ and all.. but the darkness is still unkempt and bleeding me dry as I end up drunk almost everyday.

This is my little cry for help bros... What can I do to put my life in order?

p:s Sorry for ranting here..

Woody

The comforts of KTV, HFJs is plentiful versus finding one partner to love and talk. Maybe your co-workers look happier but deep inside don't you think is pretty boring to see the same partner over and over again.

Yes all of us want women, who doesn't? But your life isn't over if a girl doesn't like you and they are NOT to make you happy bro.. you don't need a woman just when chiong HFJs long enough, there are so many women and so many options, you don't need any particular woman de.

Infatuation is like seeing ghosts.. which you need to demystified and deconstructed, and obsessed with wondering is she the one. some ghosts are very beautiful i understand... It’s like being obsessed with wondering if xiao qian will visit, only to learn that there is no xiao qian die long time ago liao.

[Bdrevel]

Simple, get a girlfriend. Then you will not get drunk or bleed dry by the vices you engage in.

Then again, I would enjoy the life you're having.


Beats being married and having kids. Now that is pitiful. No freedom.

[see see only]

TS,

Be contented with your status .......... get married or engaged with someone only when you are ready not just for the "loneliness" issue

At the same time, do not over-do anything, esp KTV, HFJ, FL, etc

[Coronet Peak]

I am already in my late 40's . Still single . But I keep myself occupied by having hobbies , learning new skills , upgrade my knowledge , do charity work with senoir folks.

[arsenal_84]

look for your passion again.

[wally888]

TS be strong. I believe this is only temporary.

Do go outside and socialize more, take up new hobbies, enjoy your life. Dunn think too much!

Very soon the dark clouds will be gone, be ready for the sunshine........dunn indulge in alcohol coz u may be ready to receive the sun when its out!

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Woodymah

Bros, recently Im not sure it is because I am approaching mid life crisis and getting panicky that Im approaching 30 - I have been consumed by a growing,gnawing sense of loneliness and a certain darkness in my soul.

I recently been struck by what is known as "YOU NEED A WOMEN" syndrome. I find myself longing for someone to love and to talk too....

I also find myself having wild mood swings from highly ecstatic to downright brooding dark.. Its scary and it is affecting my work.. I cannot seems to concentrate on anything.

I am not sure how this feeling came about, but I believe my recent infatuation on a co-worker is the main source of this... I have also cut off my 3 "best buddies" from my life as I had been their dartboard and mockery for the past 18 years. Enough is enough. So here I am without real friends and facing this darkness alone..

It has driven me to find comfort in KTV, HFJ and all.. but the darkness is still unkempt and bleeding me dry as I end up drunk almost everyday.

This is my little cry for help bros... What can I do to put my life in order?

p:s Sorry for ranting here..

Woody

Let me summarise your post into 1 word `HORNY'

[billgates]

What u r feeling is natural. U need to fill a void in your life. I suggest u take some time off to travel and perhaps find a life partner.

[arsenal_84]

single = less worries

[esssinine]

Life is what u make of it. U want to be miserable u will be, u want to happy u will be.
Happiness does not depend on material things or on a particular person
It`s from inside oneself

[jasdude]

Firstly excuse me TS. You said you been mocked by your SO CALLED PALs for 18 years? you are 30! so 30-18=12! so you being mocked since 12 years old? Can we know what they mock you for so long?

Second, join healthy activities , maybe SDU so you get to know more people, who knows cos you might meet someone there. You might find a good lay at KTVs but not a good wife thou.

Third, marriage is no joke and not a bus for you to hop on and off. Take your time and find the right one.

[GLHunter]

Originally Posted by Woodymah

Bros, recently Im not sure it is because I am approaching mid life crisis and getting panicky that Im approaching 30 - I have been consumed by a growing,gnawing sense of loneliness and a certain darkness in my soul.

I recently been struck by what is known as "YOU NEED A WOMEN" syndrome. I find myself longing for someone to love and to talk too....

I also find myself having wild mood swings from highly ecstatic to downright brooding dark.. Its scary and it is affecting my work.. I cannot seems to concentrate on anything.

I am not sure how this feeling came about, but I believe my recent infatuation on a co-worker is the main source of this... I have also cut off my 3 "best buddies" from my life as I had been their dartboard and mockery for the past 18 years. Enough is enough. So here I am without real friends and facing this darkness alone..

It has driven me to find comfort in KTV, HFJ and all.. but the darkness is still unkempt and bleeding me dry as I end up drunk almost everyday.

This is my little cry for help bros... What can I do to put my life in order?

p:s Sorry for ranting here..

Woody

Hi bro, if given a choice, i would strongly suggest that you do not have relationship with a co-worker. We all know its going to be messy, scandalized & mocked by the whole company if things goes wrong. If she doesn't seems to like you, let go while you still can.

Friendship in singapore are as thin as paper, generally. "friends" judge you by your "usefulness" and "fun level" to be with. Dun pour all your sorrows to them. they will eventually run away as they does not want to be drowned by your sorrow & affected by the "negative" energy. Just enjoy each other company & have fun. Dun go around looking for sincere friends. Some evil dudes will sense your weakness & come up pretending to be one. Then profit-taking & disappear from your life.

KTV & HFJ does not release the pain in you and you continued to be in pain, plus a hole burnt in pocket. You should regulate the frequency of going, alternate week or once a month. So the financial impact will not be so significant.

You are lonely now and things should pick up once you started making new friends and widening your social circle. You will be surprised how easy it may be when you start making the first friendly conversation & greeted people around you with a broad smile & a friendly greeting. Conversations & friendships may just kicked off like that.

For lovelife, do not despair as there are much more gals out there than you can imagine. If you have no luck locally, look beyond the little red dot. You will be surprised what you have been missing out in life.

You have to do something different to break out of this vicious cycle. Think positively, you will be fine.

[IM.xiaozhu]

You need a focus or goal.

Join activities and expand your social circles. Once you have blend into the group, you wont feel enptiness.