When is enough ? When to stop ? Who calls the shots ?

[gazelle]

Hi all,
was wondering if there is any correct method/ right way in ending a FB or lover relationship?
Are you suppose to give an advance notice?
Hope you hear your opinions. And please do share your stories if u do have any..

[gazelle]

Let me share a story of mine.
I have just broken off with my FB who introed me to SBF. He was a very possessive guy. Controlling my freedom. Wanting exclusivity. He did not even like that i meet my guy friends. I ended it as i felt really constricted by him.

After we broke off or ended the sexual relation. He was still constantly messaging me. Calling me all sorts of names. Putting me down. Criticising me. I ignored his messages as i dont want to have any more contact with him. But he still bothers me even though i do not reply. He said that my reason for it to end was not good enough.
So was wondering if there is a correct method of ending a FB relationship?

[blowsuckme]

don't think there is any proper way to stop cause it's isn't a proper relationship anyway.

on how to stop will depends on situation and people.

i used to have a sex buddy for almost 10yrs, of which the last 4yrs she was married!!
we only stop after she and her hubby decided to try for a baby.

still remember she broke the news to me after one of our usual sex meetings.
she even planned an overseas business trip so we could go along for our last getaway and after the trip we will just remain friends.

[Sandunes]

It will depend on the character of your FB as well in this aspect.

He might turn revengeful on you but i hope he is not this sort of person.
That is the worst that can happen, giving you threats of exposing you in your social circle.

But end of the day, you still need to move on with a new lease of life after him.

Ask yourself, are you able to get over him or is he able to get over you.

This is one of the crucial points to think about, cos things will turn out unexpected if mismanaged.

Just my 2 cents.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by gazelle

Are you suppose to give an advance notice?

Yea, you're supposed to give two (2) month's notice in writing or fuck two (2) month's worth of sex in-lieu.

[cuntarow]

Originally Posted by gazelle

Let me share a story of mine.
I have just broken off with my FB who introed me to SBF. He was a very possessive guy. Controlling my freedom. Wanting exclusivity. He did not even like that i meet my guy friends. I ended it as i felt really constricted by him.

After we broke off or ended the sexual relation. He was still constantly messaging me. Calling me all sorts of names. Putting me down. Criticising me. I ignored his messages as i dont want to have any more contact with him. But he still bothers me even though i do not reply. He said that my reason for it to end was not good enough.
So was wondering if there is a correct method of ending a FB relationship?

Hi girl, in ur case I think he wanted full possesion of u instead, does he have a full pledge gf or wife, if so than right from the start u both must play the game well status purely for fb only.

What u can do is a total isolation from this guy n gives yourself sometime to regain confi

[gazelle]

Originally Posted by Sandunes

He might turn revengeful on you but i hope he is not this sort of person.
That is the worst that can happen, giving you threats of exposing you in your social circle.

But end of the day, you still need to move on with a new lease of life after him.

Ask yourself, are you able to get over him or is he able to get over you.

Hope that he is not that kind of person. Yes. Life have to go on and get over him. But the ways he shouts at me with the name calling scares me. And the nuisance calls i receive. I think is it him.

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Yea, you're supposed to give two (2) month's notice in writing or fuck two (2) month's worth of sex in-lieu.

Wah. 2months? Lol..

Originally Posted by cuntarow

Hi girl, in ur case I think he wanted full possesion of u instead, does he have a full pledge gf or wife, if so than right from the start u both must play the game well status purely for fb only.

What u can do is a total isolation from this guy n gives yourself sometime to regain confi

Yes. He wants full control over me. He is single. He was my ex bf turned fb after we broke off. He was also posessive as a bf. We became fb after a time away from each other. And now he is acting like that. So hard to deal with him.

[wally888]

Find a new FB or BF. Introduce your new one to him......As for new FB role, u can consider me

[Xgenre]

1. Ignore him and hope he tires himself out. Since you have decided to move on, why bother about the names he is calling you? He is nobody in your life. What he calls you only matters as much as you allow it to bother you.

2. Tell him you got a new bf or FB. Guys find it easier to accept being replaced than being dumped. You don't need to really have a new bf/FB. You just need him to believe it. If you need a real FB to shake him off, I guess I can accomodate (taking pants off... ) but only if you are very sincere ok? Just kidding...

3. Expose him in SBF since he is from SBF. Let other girls know how 'unsteady' he is. He will leave you alone if it means he will find it much harder for him to get future FBs.

4. Explain to him that 'No more means No more'. All his SMS to you is proof in writing that he is harassing you. If he doesn't stop, tell him you will get a Personal Protection Order (PPO) against him. The way to get a bully off your back is to introduce a Bigger Bully on him.

[Sandunes]

Originally Posted by gazelle

Hope that he is not that kind of person. Yes. Life have to go on and get over him. But the ways he shouts at me with the name calling scares me. And the nuisance calls i receive. I think is it him.



Wah. 2months? Lol..



Yes. He wants full control over me. He is single. He was my ex bf turned fb after we broke off. He was also posessive as a bf. We became fb after a time away from each other. And now he is acting like that. So hard to deal with him.

I sympathize with your plight, but care to share why do you remain his FB despite breaking up with him? Hoping to patch back with him or something?
cos from your description, his ego is taking over him which will affect and cause you to have a breakdown.

Perhaps should change your mode of contact, unless he very free to camp below your house, this one wise, police can do something abt it. At least this method will relieve you of periodic unwanted harassment from him.

Hope it helps.

[bugmenot]

The fact that the r/s turned from BGR to subsequent FB does in one way or another, indicated one party is clearly not able to let go.

His overspilling egoism and possessiveness seems terrifying. As I previously quoted, 爱极生恨 (Extreme love bred hatred), sis TS I suggest you speak to a trustworthy guy friend regarding his harassments (not necessary to disclose the full Fb thingy), so that this guy friend of yours will be able to keep a lookout for you.

Just my bigger than bullcart-wheel 5 cents worth.

[Bronco]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

1. Ignore him and hope he tires himself out. Since you have decided to move on, why bother about the names he is calling you? He is nobody in your life. What he calls you only matters as much as you allow it to bother you.

2. Tell him you got a new bf or FB. Guys find it easier to accept being replaced than being dumped. You don't need to really have a new bf/FB. You just need him to believe it. If you need a real FB to shake him off, I guess I can accomodate (taking pants off... ) but only if you are very sincere ok? Just kidding...

3. Expose him in SBF since he is from SBF. Let other girls know how 'unsteady' he is. He will leave you alone if it means he will find it much harder for him to get future FBs.

4. Explain to him that 'No more means No more'. All his SMS to you is proof in writing that he is harassing you. If he doesn't stop, tell him you will get a Personal Protection Order (PPO) against him. The way to get a bully off your back is to introduce a Bigger Bully on him.

bro, agree and fully support wat u comment, guess he din know the rule & regulation wat is FB.. Game over call it a day lor!! why keep on pestering ppl for wat..u gain wat in the end..sigh!!!

Bro upz ur pts to show my support..

[yang punk]

A lady has every right to end a no-obligation relationship especially if she is not indebted to him in any way!

Maybe he is treating you as more than a fb...that's why. If it is only sex you want then I am sure there are lots of willing partners. Why return to such a loser? Tell him to grow up and leave you alone...

[zacarie]

Know exactly how u feel. i ended my 3mths relationship with my fb/lover. At first said to stay as friends but he still kept msging me more than what friends do. He even suggested 2hrs a mth for meet up for sex. crap. i rejected that. n even cut off as friends. tried to ignore his msg. but some just needed to be argued. he called me a whore, slut, bitch... kept harressing me with msges. even till yest. He seem like he cant let go n sore that i wanted an end to it.
I guess the only way is to just ignore n let him be..
Oh ya. and he even wished me luck to find a next better guy/dick than him... what a joke! And he's also a samster. wahahaha. So for sure he'll see this cause he's been following my posts..

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

It takes 2 hands to clap so if it's over, let it be. Move on.