An honorable member of the Coffee Shop Has Just Posted the Following:
" I grew up in an almost totalitarian household which associated strongly with strict corporal punishment. My father showed very little love and my mother was mostly a screaming siren. Now that I think about it, it was because my father was in the army. He was a warrant officer who had a reputation of scolding and breaking down grown men into tears.
He used to scold and cane me all the time. I hated it. I even ended up in the hospital twice. He would never let me stay outside for too long by myself or with friends. When I was in primary school, I had to be home by 7.15pm or else I wouldn't be given any dinner. He would sit there and eat; we would only get to do so at 9. He would beat me and scream at me when I was out of line. Basically imagine growing up in the army from young but instead of doing push ups or running, it would be the receiving the fist or cane.
Of course, today I still resent him. But not as much as you think. Looking back now, I realized that everything he did, he probably had reasons, but was it unreasonably harsh? Yes, I do think so, but was it out of sheer anger? No. I resent him not because he punished me, but because the severity did not fit the crime; I once received 10 stokes of the cane because I failed my spelling. Just a f**king spelling test.
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Corporal punishment works, but only on some children.
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