Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

My Ba Xa was a WL, and is still working now as a WL, just to implement and support my income.

but the most important thing is that i know that she loves me deeply. And that's why i marry her.

so she never "was" a WL...
good that you traust your bx...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Haha, not now, of course, now only sit sit, go out eat supper only. Touchy Touchy.

you meant you ok that she being touched or molested by men when she works...wow, I am very impressed how much you love her??...

if she was caught during any av raid...she will still be send back to Vn if she is on LTVSP...

yes, you are her ticket to sinkie...she will be patient with you till she has PR...then wait till the day she found another men who are willing to marry her and give her a better life then she dumped you...yet you still has to go thru divorce settlement with women charter protection...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by AdGuy

I said this and I say this again.

You think you understand your Vietnamese life partner? I quote 2 bros

1. "Do you dare put her to the test"

2. "If VBs can be trusted, pigs can fly"

no no my quote is ""If you trust WL then pigs can climb trees..."

[AdGuy]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

no no my quote is ""If you trust WL then pigs can climb trees..."

You mean pigs can't climb trees?

Oh whatever You get the drift.

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Haha, not now, of course, now only sit sit, go out eat supper only. Touchy Touchy.

Oh ok, as long as you are ok with it...and knows what you are doing then .....who cares??!!

[jklpoi]

Yeap, to tell the truth, i really dont mind a single bit about her working and being touched and grope by several men. I guess its just different set of thinking.

Why should i mind when she herself don't even mind.

Maybe because i am brought up thinking that external body contact is just that, touch here a little bit got SGD50-100 take leh, as long as heart belong to me, can liao.

If i can, i also want pple touch me here and there and give me SGD50-100. I will be more than happy to do it.

At least she is honest with me. And tell me what happen at work and so on. Who touch her where, who do what with her. During dating time, she will also tell me who go ST with her, who go ON with her, and how much they give her as tips.

As for AV, i stay very near her workplace, so really not an issue. I can be there 5 mins fully dressed in party mode should there be any problem. I make it a point that she will only be working when i am near her working place.

And if she is really bidding her time with me until she get her PR, then ok loh, i treat it as helping a fellow human being get a better life. Its not like i never get anything in return.

Maybe its just me, i am a guy who can take and put down things easily.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by AdGuy

If your salary is really 3-4K, and she really is willing to stick it out with you, she won't need to work.

As for you being a xiao bai nian, and saying that money goes into your pocket and everybody is happy, you have serious issues dude.

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

you meant you ok that she being touched or molested by men when she works...wow, I am very impressed how much you love her??...

if she was caught during any av raid...she will still be send back to Vn if she is on LTVSP...

Agreed with the 2 bros here.
Jklpoi, yur wife doesnt have to be a WL to earn $$. There are other ways and other jobs she can go try to meet the $1000 -$1500 per month.

If she kenna caught, means more trouble for u.
If i am you, i would definitely not let my woman get physical with other man in this kind of job.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Going to share some of my experiences.

I too hear of horror stories of Vietnam ladies asking for money for their families, buy this buy that. But somehow, my ba xa family is very different from typical traditional vietnam family. Its hard to explain, but you have to be there to experience it. Her mum only calls and ask for money for a few things.

1) House rent - SGD200+ every month.
2) Food, clothes, school fees, english school fees, tution school fees for my ba xa 2 kids. - SGD 300-400 every month.

She never even ask for medical fees when she has a genuine case of bad knees. I allow my Ba xa to work because i understand the hardship of living in singapore and she too understand it.

actually, after reading yur story i got question marks above my head like this:

Where yur MIL lives ha? Rent need S$200+ per mth?? That is at least 3300000VND! Maybe i snoob, i have never heard rent so high unless she stay in big houses or condos. Maybe bros can provide some info on this.

U mentioned yur MIL has many children, why her other children not contributing to the rent? If they are staying together with yur MIL, i see that they have every reasons to contribute.

Dont u have this kind of questions?

Also, why u still need to take $$ from her? U r earning 3k-4k not enough for u alone to spend?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Yeap, to tell the truth, i really dont mind a single bit about her working and being touched and grope by several men. I guess its just different set of thinking.

Why should i mind when she herself don't even mind.

Maybe because i am brought up thinking that external body contact is just that, touch here a little bit got SGD50-100 take leh, as long as heart belong to me, can liao.

If i can, i also want pple touch me here and there and give me SGD50-100. I will be more than happy to do it.

At least she is honest with me. And tell me what happen at work and so on. Who touch her where, who do what with her. During dating time, she will also tell me who go ST with her, who go ON with her, and how much they give her as tips.

As for AV, i stay very near her workplace, so really not an issue. I can be there 5 mins fully dressed in party mode should there be any problem. I make it a point that she will only be working when i am near her working place.

And if she is really bidding her time with me until she get her PR, then ok loh, i treat it as helping a fellow human being get a better life. Its not like i never get anything in return.

Maybe its just me, i am a guy who can take and put down things easily.

You sure have lots of pride. You are my hero .... !! where your wife work ? I go look for her for ST then bring her to ICA to chit chat with officer. solid la... My hero !

[zion1989]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Yeap, to tell the truth, i really dont mind a single bit about her working and being touched and grope by several men. I guess its just different set of thinking.

Why should i mind when she herself don't even mind.

Maybe because i am brought up thinking that external body contact is just that, touch here a little bit got SGD50-100 take leh, as long as heart belong to me, can liao.

If i can, i also want pple touch me here and there and give me SGD50-100. I will be more than happy to do it.

At least she is honest with me. And tell me what happen at work and so on. Who touch her where, who do what with her. During dating time, she will also tell me who go ST with her, who go ON with her, and how much they give her as tips.

As for AV, i stay very near her workplace, so really not an issue. I can be there 5 mins fully dressed in party mode should there be any problem. I make it a point that she will only be working when i am near her working place.

And if she is really bidding her time with me until she get her PR, then ok loh, i treat it as helping a fellow human being get a better life. Its not like i never get anything in return.

Maybe its just me, i am a guy who can take and put down things easily.

Mean she married with u still go lam tinh with customers?\
Bro you sure is ok with that? wait she contract any STD and pass to u leh?
Since married alr, i agree that she should seek other jobs for a living.
Even my WL (GF) also said, if she settle down with me.
She will not work as WL, i mean now i still not sure she going ST or LT with customers or not? but i believe she should respect you as a on xa and not to go hotel with any other guys

[jklpoi]

No la, no more ST or ON, only sit and chat. Matter of trust.

And my MIL is staying alone taking care of my BX 2 kids, and all her sons and daughter have their own family mah, so technically my BX is taking care of her mum cause her mum takes care of her 2 kids.

i am not going to pretend i am a expert on Vietnam but this is where she stay, maybe bros here can tell me whether the rent is worth SGD200. The district area is P6-Q4...i dont know is that the district number or house number. I just know where it is. around 10 min away from ben than market. (Mind my spelling mistake)

Correct me if i am wrong, with LTSVP, she cant work, can she?

Regarding my pay, this is where my trust for her come in. Last time, i drive big car, throw big money cause of my business, then casino come into my life and bring my downfall, lost all my asserts, went into jail for doing something illegal, on the verge of bankrupt and she still stand by me. She witness my highest point and my lowest point in life where basically i live like a dog, and she never even think of leaving me. So now i have a stable job, quit my gambling, and i still got debts to pay, thats why 4k+ is not enough for me.

[elth]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Correct me if i am wrong, with LTSVP, she cant work, can she?

call MOM to check la

[jklpoi]

Just to make it clear.

After marry, no more ST or ON!!!

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by vietboy

actually, after reading yur story i got question marks above my head like this:

Where yur MIL lives ha? Rent need S$200+ per mth?? That is at least 3300000VND! Maybe i snoob, i have never heard rent so high unless she stay in big houses or condos. Maybe bros can provide some info on this.

U mentioned yur MIL has many children, why her other children not contributing to the rent? If they are staying together with yur MIL, i see that they have every reasons to contribute.

Dont u have this kind of questions?

Also, why u still need to take $$ from her? U r earning 3k-4k not enough for u alone to spend?

If in HCM,$200 is not consider high for rental.My in law is staying by herself in HCM,My wife brother have his own family,salary $200++ as a driver,her younger sister factory job monthly salary only $100+.

Both can only 'eat themselve' so how to support their mom.Is common in vietnam that children cant even support themselve so dont talk about supporting their own parents and this trend is happening now in our sillypore

[elth]

Originally Posted by jklpoi

Just to make it clear.

After marry, no more ST or ON!!!

actually you remind me of some Vietnamese man also allow their gfs to go out with other man...

I know a gal have been working ktv or pub in vn and sg to support her family expenses...sometime in vn the bf will ride his gf to KS and wait for her to finish her job... so caring hor

Another gal bring her vn bf to come sg for 2 weeks...pay the hotel expenses and ticket for him... the man know his gal come sg to work KTV and go KS... but his logic is simple...the money she earn is for him to go oversea study...the poor gal due to cant find customer in KTV walk to LOR** to find cust and each time get paid less than $40 only... not including cd cost...

there is no right or wrong just up to each individuals