Curious about life, culture and women in LOS

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

Lucky if he is rich and able to afford the wife to be expenses, or the wife to be is the belong to Hiso category, otherwise, flight thru and fro for Thai big festival, house to stay using his own CPF, (provided enough, otherwise cash payment) and daily food plus some groceries, and basic necessities. And not to forget medical expense. Problem may arise if the guy can't afford.

So if you're marrying a local girl, I doubt this problem will arise, and I'm surprised, many Sg guys now falling for these thai girls, despite, it's against all odd.




I beg to differ, if you're able to earn a fortune by yourself, I think you won't marrying a old bald man wearing a 20K sgd Rolex watch driving Maserati.
Unless you're a gold digger.
My thai girls friends all choose their partner by not looking at their money, but at their heart, reason, they all holding a good job and able to be independent, and support themselves.

So to say, they need to get someone to bail them from proverty, thus they got no much choice but to be with someone they didn't love, normally this type of women, you know I know, don't want to stereotyping.

Sis, I'm glad your future husband don't need to earn 10k or 20k, just need to give you a comfortable life, but in reality, comfortable life needs money.

I don't quite agree with you. Marrying a local girl doesn't necessarily mean these problems won't arise. You might be surprised that a local girl's expenditure may be way more than a Thai girl's expenditure. Like what we have agreed upon, a relationship with a Thai girl may be difficult but it is not impossible. There are success stories... It's just how much effort both parties are willing to put in to make it work.

Well, let's just say at this moment I am able to earn a living by my own and am financially independent, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to find a financially stable guy to marry. And by financially stable I don't mean 10k or 20k of course, but I think 5-6k would be reasonable... Simply because, like you mentioned, a comfortable life needs money and judging by the steady increase in our standard of living, 3k would not suffice to provide a comfortable life for my partner and I.

Why I would choose a balding old man who wears a rolex and drives a Maserati over a young good looking chap who's earning 3k a month is not hard to guess. I am not much of a career woman and would love to lead a tai tai life if possible. I work for the money, not because I love working. So should the day come where I decide I would like to take a break from work and enjoy life for a bit, at least there is no need to struggle to make ends meet. With money comes happiness... Who can deny that?

[DegenerationX]

Originally Posted by flowbow

And by financially stable I don't mean 10k or 20k of course, but I think 5-6k would be reasonable... Simply because, like you mentioned, a comfortable life needs money and judging by the steady increase in our standard of living, 3k would not suffice to provide a comfortable life for my partner and I.

Why I would choose a balding old man who wears a rolex and drives a Maserati over a young good looking chap who's earning 3k a month is not hard to guess.

No wonder valets like me still single, can't find a wife.

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by DegenerationX

No wonder valets like me still single, can't find a wife.

Still single? Can't find a wife?

[DegenerationX]

Originally Posted by flowbow

Still single? Can't find a wife?

Ya. Very sad.....

[Nonteerak2553]

Originally Posted by flowbow

I don't quite agree with you. Marrying a local girl doesn't necessarily mean these problems won't arise. You might be surprised that a local girl's expenditure may be way more than a Thai girl's expenditure. Like what we have agreed upon, a relationship with a Thai girl may be difficult but it is not impossible. There are success stories... It's just how much effort both parties are willing to put in to make it work.

Of course I don't deny, marrying a local girls can have as much problem as I mentioned earlier, but if only you're marrying a gold digger.

Yup, there're success stories, and I don't really against marrying a Thai, but thats the reality problem, if you going to marry a Thai.
One of the reason why I choose to stay at the mountain with my Thai gf, is what I mentioned earlier, and my gf holds a master in Chula U, given that, she could get a decent job if we were to stay in Sg, but I choose not to, as I can foresee many other things will happen.

Originally Posted by flowbow

Well, let's just say at this moment I am able to earn a living by my own and am financially independent, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to find a financially stable guy to marry. And by financially stable I don't mean 10k or 20k of course, but I think 5-6k would be reasonable... Simply because, like you mentioned, a comfortable life needs money and judging by the steady increase in our standard of living, 3k would not suffice to provide a comfortable life for my partner and I.

5 to 6K that's quite a lot, I can't really comment on this as I'm out of the working society for quite sometimes. Maybe 5 to 6k is quite hard, but if 5 to 6k combine with your income possible.

Originally Posted by flowbow

Why I would choose a balding old man who wears a rolex and drives a Maserati over a young good looking chap who's earning 3k a month is not hard to guess. I am not much of a career woman and would love to lead a tai tai life if possible. I work for the money, not because I love working. So should the day come where I decide I would like to take a break from work and enjoy life for a bit, at least there is no need to struggle to make ends meet. With money comes happiness...

Yup, you got my point! You won't choose someone who is bald, due to your financially independent, but not for your thai friend who got no choice, in order to bail them from proverty.

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

Of course I don't deny, marrying a local girls can have as much problem as I mentioned earlier, but if only you're marrying a gold digger.

No, that is not what I mean. I am not a gold digger but I foresee having to go through the same problems that you've mentioned. I say this because my sister is one good example. And she's not a gold digger. Yet they are still struggling to survive even though my brother in law is earning what some people would call a "decent pay".

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

5 to 6K that's quite a lot, I can't really comment on this as I'm out of the working society for quite sometimes. Maybe 5 to 6k is quite hard, but if 5 to 6k combine with your income possible.

Is 5-6k really a lot? Nope, I'm talking about his pay alone. If he has to pay monthly installment for his car, and (in future) the house, plus daily expenditures... I think it is actually quite reasonable. Or maybe I have set my standards too high, though I don't think I will change my thinking

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

Yup, you got my point! You won't choose someone who is bald, due to your financially independent, but not for your thai friend who got no choice, in order to bail them from proverty.

No bro, you've got me wrong. You were saying that if I were financially independent I would not choose a balding old but rich man... But my reply to you was that yes, I still would, because of the points I mentioned previously. I think you misunderstood me there...

[Nonteerak2553]

Sista,

I'm confused! 555555+ anyway best of luck in finding your partner. Should you intend to come to the North do PM me.

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

Sista,

I'm confused! 555555+ anyway best of luck in finding your partner. Should you intend to come to the North do PM me.

Hehe it's ok, it was a nice discussion anyway.

I should be heading down early next year, either January or February. Or if ticket prices aren't expensive I might choose to spend Xmas and New Year over there. Hope to meet up with you for a drink or two there

[Nonteerak2553]

Originally Posted by flowbow

Hehe it's ok, it was a nice discussion anyway.

I should be heading down early next year, either January or February. Or if ticket prices aren't expensive I might choose to spend Xmas and New Year over there. Hope to meet up with you for a drink or two there

Yup, nice discussion especially from a lady's views. First time I encountered local girl loves Thai culture, other then the Budhha thingy.

New Year celebration at here are great, but not Xmas, and I'm returning to Sg with my gf for Xmas. Let me intro you some of my friends if there's chance.

P.s will return your favour by tomorrow.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by flowbow

Bro, don't mind me but there are MANY guys like you here in SG... And only the lucky ones end up getting hitched with these Thai girls. So don't get your hopes too high. All I can say is, if you have closed all your options and have decided that you will only get together/marry a Thai girl, chances are, you'll probably never get there. I don't want to sound like I'm dashing your hopes but I just thought that it'd be better for me to be honest with you.





I agree that cash is king... But this is not the case just for Thai girls. I believe all girls are like this... With money, I can make do with a slightly older guy who is not good looking at all. I know this makes me sound like a materialistic bitch but the fact is, who wouldn't wanna live a comfortable life?

That said, I don't need my guy to be earning 10k, 20k sgd a month. As long as he is able to provide me with a comfortable life, I'm satisfied. This is regardless of his nationality, of course.

After a lengthy revision classes for upcoming final exams in sch, a moody and tired me is ready to reply wif honesty yet harshness...

Sis i respect ur frankness, u sound cruel on my chances... But no way i am giving up and accepting my sad fate in sg..... When i started this thread, my first step is to be open minded and to open my options on matters of heart( if i bank on sg gals , i will rather die alone no offense...)

Due to my financial status( i am not rich) , i cant be setting numerous options all ard asia , more does not mean gd and its expensive to source all ard asean lets sae. I never said i will just blindy marry thai gf. Its not easy to find de right one. I foresee the worst case screnario of being single at 50 in los , so be it. However , i am not excluding cambodian , myanmmar and laos gals , they are nice.

Better than stay in a cuturaless sg where money and status reflects only mid and upper class can survive, y a lower class fella lik me will plan my future here in this island( i LL then stay here for now , its working and save.)

Looking at my expectations of my ideal future gf if u did see my previous post , its possible to find right gal given de solid amt of effort and time. In sg, wif the women charter thing and sg women hafin equal status wif we men, sg women esp chinese have alreadi forgotten to take care the ego of we men who worked hard to support the family. Seriously , females here being blinded by greeds and increasingly expectations in life, u say money and security ok liao but did it stop there? I dun think so...

The u blame on we men on going out find wl or mistress? Y we do tt? Cuz sex is horrible at home and life suck at home gradually coz its only abt ur female ego and ur needs and wants... We men work so hard got complain? Then after tt u come out act like poor thing nia as if we men never work our socks off making u chicks happy...

Decent pay we can bottle our pride and still buy ur expensive wedding ring and ur bags and we men still tink we can haf happy live wif u women, we men tahan ok liao, wad happen ? U dun appreciate nvm, u flock to caucasian and sae we no good wth....

Den we muz buy car to show tt social status backed by chinese face and ego factors in front of ur relatives showing u haf swagger.... We bo complain even thot we pay so much juz to make u happy which is unecessary...

There is so many local men going away find foreign spouse, foreign land for a reason. U think relocating is our choice? We bo pian and we do it. And sg men married nice thai women alot , at least better than sg gal ....

Stats is alreadi showing de truth and we men swallow our pride to gif u good life wif our decent pay and u cannot be campassionate and be understanding? U just simply want shoot us when we paid our dues? I dunno wad to sae..

Not attacking u flowbow , but ur words fuel me more, no way in hell i will just accept my impending horrible fate in sg, even if i dun haf thai gf or wife so be it, i can live at thailand alone coz relocating is a way betta option and i may see women who understand compassion and empathy and taking care of my ego and cook for me , and not harborin self centred agendas which can be avoided in this vicious and materialistic world... Hell burmese women i also can take man.... Its thankless to work so hard in sg and be blasted for problems tt are not created by men in most cases...

Its ridiculous to be nice to spoilt women in sg, kindness does not pay sia.... We sg men can argubly be de best and heartwarming husband in this day and age and thai women will be there to feel my futile efforts in the near future....

[flowbow]

Originally Posted by mackewell

In sg, wif the women charter thing and sg women hafin equal status wif we men, sg women esp chinese have alreadi forgotten to take care the ego of we men who worked hard to support the family. Seriously , females here being blinded by greeds and increasingly expectations in life, u say money and security ok liao but did it stop there? I dun think so...

Not attacking u flowbow , but ur words fuel me more, no way in hell i will just accept my impending horrible fate in sg, even if i dun haf thai gf or wife so be it, i can live at thailand alone coz relocating is a way betta option and i may see women who understand compassion and empathy and taking care of my ego and cook for me , and not harborin self centred agendas which can be avoided in this vicious and materialistic world... Hell burmese women i also can take man.... Its thankless to work so hard in sg and be blasted for problems tt are not created by men in most cases...

Its ridiculous to be nice to spoilt women in sg, kindness does not pay sia.... We sg men can argubly be de best and heartwarming husband in this day and age and thai women will be there to feel my futile efforts in the near future....

Wah, cool it bro... I removed some of your post in my quote because I thought it would be a bit too long.

Hmm, I will not type a long wall of text here to make my point clear, but all I have to say is that not all SG girls are like that. There are good local gems out there which you probably have not found, and there's nothing wrong in your thinking that you prefer foreign girls over local girls. Heck, even I would be honest to say that I prefer Thai guys over local guys but at the end of the day, I would still choose to marry a local guy after considering the many different factors.

Jai yen yen na, bro... Just like how you have chose to generalize SG girls and make them seem like the worst of the batch, I can say the same about SG guys, but it would be a pointless argument and would later turn out to be a battle of the sexes instead... Which is not the point of this thread in the first place, right?

All I wanna tell you is to keep your options open... I'm not telling you to settle with a local girl, but don't be too quick to think too highly of the Thais. I don't wish for you to be blinded and end up getting hurt. There are good and rotten eggs in a basket, and this applies to girls of every nationality. The local girls you have mentioned are the worst of the lot - unappreciative, uncaring and demanding of their man - but that doesn't necessarily mean all of us are like that. I have to admit there are girls who behave this way though, that is something I don't deny.

It's good to have faith and that is something I admire about you. It just saddens me a little when I read about how you have stereotyped all local girls when that's not true at all.

P.S: Cheating works both ways. In the orgies section, there are always married/attached guys looking for FBs. In the FL domes, there are always married/attached guys looking for paid sex. Do you mean ALL their partners treat them so badly that they have to resort to eating outside? I don't think so. I think some of these guys just aren't satisfied with what they have. When they have a gf who treats them really good, they feel bored. Some of them give the excuse that sex with their gf has become boring, but I personally find it a lousy excuse. There are always ways in which they can try to spice up their sex life... Being unfaithful is not a solution at all.

[ErnestK]

Well said bro. Am referring to bro Mackewell's post.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by flowbow

Wah, cool it bro... I removed some of your post in my quote because I thought it would be a bit too long.

Hmm, I will not type a long wall of text here to make my point clear, but all I have to say is that not all SG girls are like that. There are good local gems out there which you probably have not found, and there's nothing wrong in your thinking that you prefer foreign girls over local girls. Heck, even I would be honest to say that I prefer Thai guys over local guys but at the end of the day, I would still choose to marry a local guy after considering the many different factors.

Jai yen yen na, bro... Just like how you have chose to generalize SG girls and make them seem like the worst of the batch, I can say the same about SG guys, but it would be a pointless argument and would later turn out to be a battle of the sexes instead... Which is not the point of this thread in the first place, right?

All I wanna tell you is to keep your options open... I'm not telling you to settle with a local girl, but don't be too quick to think too highly of the Thais. I don't wish for you to be blinded and end up getting hurt. There are good and rotten eggs in a basket, and this applies to girls of every nationality. The local girls you have mentioned are the worst of the lot - unappreciative, uncaring and demanding of their man - but that doesn't necessarily mean all of us are like that. I have to admit there are girls who behave this way though, that is something I don't deny.

It's good to have faith and that is something I admire about you. It just saddens me a little when I read about how you have stereotyped all local girls when that's not true at all.

P.S: Cheating works both ways. In the orgies section, there are always married/attached guys looking for FBs. In the FL domes, there are always married/attached guys looking for paid sex. Do you mean ALL their partners treat them so badly that they have to resort to eating outside? I don't think so. I think some of these guys just aren't satisfied with what they have. When they have a gf who treats them really good, they feel bored. Some of them give the excuse that sex with their gf has become boring, but I personally find it a lousy excuse. There are always ways in which they can try to spice up their sex life... Being unfaithful is not a solution at all.

Hi sis,

Firstly terribly sorry for blowing my top on u in this way. I know its not good for a guy to anyhow do tis to a gal. However, i bottled this feelings for a while liao juz wanna let it out.

After some sort of rational thinkin, you are right, i am being unfair to all de nice sg girls out there by making such statements.i shld b open minded abit lah. Therefore, thanks to ur honest words, maybe giving 5 percent of my time in searching a local soulmate is not harmful afterall imo.

However nice sg gals either got bf or married. I remember i got one schmate , hes yandao lah but his local gf was chio also and she take de effort to cook pasta for him to eat at home during his national service time whenever he comes out frm his camp. Simply they can stay at home and eat home cooked food , so blissful, fucking envy him but he like korean boy lik tt lah i nth to sae...

Den i got one fren last got blood clot in his brain kenna hospitalized for two weeks last yr. his local wife straight away take leave few days, clean him up , feed him makan, his wife not chio but if i my fren i will touched to tears liao...

Of cos sg guys also got bastard ones too, instance , i got one bastard local guy fren who has angmoh blood, he has this nice gf( i know her gf too but i got no chemistry wif her cuz she say i like her kor kor lol...). She is nice to the stage she can wear veri traditionally when go out juz to make my guy fren happie as he dun want other guy to see his gf cleavage... When my guy fren bored , he will have violent tendency and will doggie her hard(she juz tahan for his happiness, i dunno he beat her boh) juz to make him feel shiok... At the end , my this female fren cry like shite when he dumped her a yr later coz he found a bustier new gf, knn fucker....

But den i really not so hard up to haf local gf tt i need to break up ppl marriage or r/s lah. I think in sg veri hard, wads left on the shelf is cmi gals( the looks i see liao i cannot intimate wif her how? I cant lie ma. I not picky also , i dun mind gals up to 40 yr old) haizzz wad to do, let me continue my hunt for thai puuying and peek for potential local girls occasionally lah lol.... maybe a few local fling wif local girls will change my perception abit hahahahahah....

Toking about unfaithfulness, i am a person who has high sex drive( i am not perv of cos), if i have new gf but she dont really like me to treat her like prostitute how? i cant force her mah, but then will i cheat on her on this situation? i really dunno man, i have my urges too leh lol....

[Nonteerak2553]

Mackewell,

Due to your lengthy comment I've difficulties in quoting your post.

I think I already included some of the reason during my disscussion with Sis Flowblow on the cons about marrying the Thai girl.

If you not strong on your finance, how you going to get a Thai girlfriend? Unless you're damn lucky to hit on a Hiso girl who willing to support you, otherwise be prepare to pay more than what you going to pay marrying a local girl.

If your finance is not strong, go and further your studies, find a good job and try to save as much money as possible. You're only 27, still got long way to go.

"Women depreciate as they aged and men appreciate"

Marrying a local,

1. She can find job and help you to contribute abit to the family.
2. Sharing CPF to purchase HDB
3. Better communication and understanding
4. Have many friends and not bored despite living in Singapore for eon years,
5. Able to use Medisave, and good medical benefits, and the list goes on.

I bet you don't want to marry, someone who don't care about getting embarrass in the public and shout at you? I think Sg girls is much on civilise and hardly will do this to you.

On the other hand, I think you already make up your mind and die die want to get hitch with a Thai girl, as a fellow samaster, I just can share my thoughts, eventually you the one who decide your fate.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

Mackewell,

Due to your lengthy comment I've difficulties in quoting your post.

I think I already included some of the reason during my disscussion with Sis Flowblow on the cons about marrying the Thai girl.

If you not strong on your finance, how you going to get a Thai girlfriend? Unless you're damn lucky to hit on a Hiso girl who willing to support you, otherwise be prepare to pay more than what you going to pay marrying a local girl.

If your finance is not strong, go and further your studies, find a good job and try to save as much money as possible. You're only 27, still got long way to go.

"Women depreciate as they aged and men appreciate"

Marrying a local,

1. She can find job and help you to contribute abit to the family.
2. Sharing CPF to purchase HDB
3. Better communication and understanding
4. Have many friends and not bored despite living in Singapore for eon years,
5. Able to use Medisave, and good medical benefits, and the list goes on.

I bet you don't want to marry, someone who don't care about getting embarrass in the public and shout at you? I think Sg girls is much on civilise and hardly will do this to you.

On the other hand, I think you already make up your mind and die die want to get hitch with a Thai girl, as a fellow samaster, I just can share my thoughts, eventually you the one who decide your fate.

Bro i know where i stand lah, i cant marry , i am not tt rich or mentally mature enuff for it. I dont like kids too so a bit problematic for the other half. Bro, of cos u dun go and bring ur issues wif ur gf or OC to the public and show it to everyone. Haiz, thai girl got subtle got siao siao one also. Sg chicks also have both kind, they wont shout at u, once u step into the hse , she go GAGA liao and start her pattern too lol, the neighbor will knoe so no diff.

U think i want to go thru the trouble of leaving sg to find gf or wife meh?. In the modern sg, i cant give a sg gf of mine a future(i can fling wif her nia), i will let her go eventually too to let her go have kids , have rich husband wif at least 5k salary(flowbow i agree wif u too hahahah i knoe my limits). Just that, for lower class lvl ppl like me in sg, we cant really survive and carve a future in sg.

I duno LOS can bo but i willing to try.... LOS not so expensive lah for retirement, sg cannot retire, if i force it, i maybe working at KFC during my 60s(kudos to our uncle, aunties for doing tt but i really not so brave) oh ya, where got so heng meet up wif rich girl in sg or LOS? , wait long long la.....

I wanted to pursue my bachelors in sports management via UK university but i had to decline my sch principal coz of funds lah. I can take 50k from my dad to pay for it but i dun wan. He can retire well wif tt fund. No money no degree lolx... if cannot find LOS gf, find laos or cambodia one(they are quite close to LOS girls mah hahahaah), maybe less realistic hahahhahahaha.... Ok , myanmmar, mongolia, laos and cambodia puuyings, here i come! open all my doors liao!!!!! all can speak basic eng one dun run from me hahahaah! macham perv....

Ok la u can say i no backbone, why dont work harder to earn more? i dun wanna assume i will earn more, i planning cautiously wif the lowest criteria for now...... of cos must save and save and save. So in sg, hardly will have gal want seat wif me cuz u will see me eat in kopitiam and not in fish and co or wad lol...

Women depreciate part, haizzzz canot always hourglass all this lah hahahahaah.... her figure will go away also eventually, unless u monitor strictly her diet, low carb! lol.....