Vietnamisation Program

[Torres_Mok]

I think more and more singaporean men are marrying vietnamese gals,as compared to few years ago. I think mainly is due to many singaporean gals have set unrealistic requirements on selecting lifetime partners. because of this many men are looking for foreign gals.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

I think more and more singaporean men are marrying vietnamese gals,as compared to few years ago. I think mainly is due to many singaporean gals have set unrealistic requirements on selecting lifetime partners. because of this many men are looking for foreign gals.

Until recently, singaporeans have the idea that those singaporean man that marry vietnamese gals are lowly educated, hold low paying jobs and are those that singaporeans ladies reject. This may be true many years ago. But nowadays, many highly educated singapore man are marrying vietnamese ladies. I know of a few post graduate degree holders who married vietnamese ladies. Many diploma and degree holders are also marrying vietnamese gals. I will not comment too much on singapore gals, but it seems that singapore man are finding it difficult to accept the behaviour of singapore ladies.

very often, i am mistaken to have `purchased' my vietnamese wife when i introduced my wife to them. I have to tell them that i was in saigon doing business when i met my wife. Sometimes i am angry with them, but often, i don't blame them as they do not know vietnam enuff. many singaporeans claimed that they know vietnam very well, but when u ask them some simple questions about vietnam, they cannot even answer. I was chatting with my long lost classmate some days ago. He claimed that he knows vietnam `pretty well' and told me that he has been there a few times already since 2000. So i asked him which part of vietnam he has been to, his answer was ` ehhh... ehhhh... ehhhh..... i think its Ho Chi minh city' Don't blame them, its typical singaporean.

[oldcar]

Very informative! But I think if I have read all that a few month back before I come to Vietnam, I will still be doing all the stupid thing I don't in last few month. Some how knowing it does not immune you from not falling for them!!!! And money is sure a problem, there no limit to it. Once you with them, they want their whole family to be living like your standard of living. So it not few hundred, few thousand, the more you earn the more they need!!! Even my boss here have problem, his wife is vietnamese, and the company cash book he holding now is never balance. One day the HK boss know of it he will be out.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by oldcar

Very informative! But I think if I have read all that a few month back before I come to Vietnam, I will still be doing all the stupid thing I don't in last few month. Some how knowing it does not immune you from not falling for them!!!! And money is sure a problem, there no limit to it. Once you with them, they want their whole family to be living like your standard of living. So it not few hundred, few thousand, the more you earn the more they need!!! Even my boss here have problem, his wife is vietnamese, and the company cash book he holding now is never balance. One day the HK boss know of it he will be out.

Money is surely the biggest problem. Besides the normal monthly `pocket money' for the parents, there will be extra demand. This month will be the mother is sick and need money for medication, next month will be grandma's birthday and the month after next, the brother will want a new motorbike etc. The list is never ending. Vietnamese gals are sweet, their breast are warm, their suck will leave you dry.... but think of their other demands before you fall for them. It took me more than 2 years to convince my wife that her family is truely a burden to us and we should save more money for our children's education

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Money is surely the biggest problem. Besides the normal monthly `pocket money' for the parents, there will be extra demand. This month will be the mother is sick and need money for medication, next month will be grandma's birthday and the month after next, the brother will want a new motorbike etc. The list is never ending. Vietnamese gals are sweet, their breast are warm, their suck will leave you dry.... but think of their other demands before you fall for them. It took me more than 2 years to convince my wife that her family is truely a burden to us and we should save more money for our children's education

I heard vietnamese gals will place their priority first for their family instead of their husbands or bfs, and I also heard they will not fall for a man at first sight?

[SingViet]

Its a widely accepted fact that vietnamese ladies place their family above their husbands. Every consideration is for their family first. But this can be changed thru time. Have lots of patience with your vietnamese wife and show her the correct way and correct thoughts. It may take some years, but eventually, i am sure that she will change and place you and your children first, above her family in vietnam.

I have gone thru the initial phase of marriage. During the 18 months of marriage, my wife placed her family above me and our children. Everything was for the mum, dad, brother, sister etc. Its frustrate me a lot. We argue almost every other day and i even thought of divorcing her. But for the sake of my children, i stayed on. I remember during our first trip back to singapore, my wife saw how singaporeans work so hard to earn a living. She saw how early my dad went to work. She started to realise that her family is really lazy. She didn't know before that foreigners slog so hard to earn a living. After that trip, her thinking started to change. I also explain to her about the different lifestyle and stress that singaporeans faced. Now, a few years later, my wife placed me and my children above her family.

As for falling for man during first sight, i am sure they do. But due to their hard life since young, they tend to fall for richer foreigners. You cannot blame them for placing wealth as top priority, but the reason why they want to marry out of vietnam is in search for a better life. A normal vietnamese village gal doesn't ask for much, just a man that loves her and can provide a simple life for her. You cannot imagine how hard is life in vietnamese province. Most of these provinces don't have drinking water and sanitary. They collect rain water in huge buckets for drinking, bathing etc. No proper roads but mud roads. This is how hard life is in the province. but of course, there are some better province like Can Tho, An giang and Vung Tau.

[lament]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Aiyoh, why always get tied up here and there in JC? Go to the source of gals la.. go to Vietnam and have fun. Maybe u don't know vietnamese gals well enuff... want to be with another vietnamese lady while u are married? Watch out for your dickie when u sleep. These gals are capable of anything

bro ...i am not just stuck here .... i think i know them as well as you do .....

anyway can u give me a buzz..... i need a favour from u......

[lament]

Originally Posted by SingViet

there are some better province like Can Tho, An giang and Vung Tau.

I kinda a sucker for girls from this province ........

[SexFreak]

Originally Posted by SingViet

This month will be the mother is sick and need money for medication, next month will be grandma's birthday and the month after next, the brother will want a new motorbike etc.

......... Very familiar leh ......... That's what my friend is facing throughout their 17 years of marriage and it's still on going.

And another friend of mine who is an expat, also married a foreign wife and due to his sound financial position, his wife always asked him to fly her parents, siblings, cousins, niece, nephew and even friends to Singapore for holiday and everything have to be paid for Even buying an apartment, she insisted on 4-bedroom type claiming that she needed spare rooms for her visitors .........

Well, like what some bros have pointed out, it all depends on luck !!!


Cheers !!!

[PS3SG]

Luck is one thing but it also depends on how much you are willing to provide

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by SexFreak

Well, like what some bros have pointed out, it all depends on luck !!!

Yea....Luck....Luck....

[Torres_Mok]

Today just walk past a few marriage agency at golden mile tower, some viet gals not bad looking, but after hearing all these stories, i now a bit scare of marrying foreign gals.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

Today just walk past a few marriage agency at golden mile tower, some viet gals not bad looking, but after hearing all these stories, i now a bit scare of marrying foreign gals.

You can try la. Maybe you will be one of the lucky ones

hi all bro of vietnamisation program, allow me to side track a bit here. recently i have 2 vietnamese friends who just got convicted & imprisoned for 6 weeks for an offence last year.They got into trouble when they paid someone to help them into JB & back to singapore to extend their social visit for another 2 weeks.CPIB caught that guy & my 2 friends got into trouble because of this . My question is how long will they be banned from singapore after their release? Thanks for the advice.

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by SingViet

You can try la. Maybe you will be one of the lucky ones

ban com on nhieu.