A fling that turn my life upside down

[coolfire69]

Getting really interesting...

Please continue, bro washabi!

[forumer]

continue please... getting interesting

[Max77]

1) most guys miss out the greatest gift of life from the female gender to get into a serious relationship, get married and divorce.

2) Hey TS, why don't u jus giv her life back to her.if she's destined to be ur's, she'll be back anyway.

3) Meantime, enjoy ur regular free fuck and passionate great sex while stocks last aye!

[badboyzbleu]

[otacon]

i hope it's not similar another famous story posted here before, the bf got someone to rape her n so she cannot be with TS

[Danvin]

The bf wants a threesome and he is bisexual.

[washabi]

Thanks to those brothers that up me and those that encourages and advise me.


I was shocked in what I read. In his blog, it was written he actually knew DD for many years and was her boyfriend for a few years. DD had tried to break up with him once, but he went into a depression and got crazy and threaten DD that if she leaves him, he will go oversea for good never to return. Below are some abstract from his blog,

Suddenly, I realise my character began to change, I started to speak differently to her.
I cursed her, giving her rude remarks.
She was shocked that this is not the me she knew...
I was always romantic, never curse, warm, forgiving, no foul words...
It was not me at all...

We went off to sleep and I did not sleep a drop.
I woke up early and was not myself.
I cried, she saw me and came to hug me.
But I was like talking to myself and looking at things around the house.

I kept talking to myself and I was finding for places to hide.
At one time I went into the walk-in wardrobe and was hiding around the clothes.

I wanted to go out but she kept all the house keys and my wallet.
She refused to let me out as she was worry that I might do something foolish.
She only let me out if she follows me but I wanted to go alone.

After 1 hour, she let me out, I ran but she followed.
I walked 1 round with her and came back.

I told her that I am considering to leave SG.
It will not be a temporary one but it will be a permanent one.
She cried so hard, she begged me not to leave her.
That she wants me to stay in SG and that she needs me.
She does not know how to answer to my mum as it will hurt the old lady heart.
But this is the only choice that I can do to forget her.
I am doing it for her and not myself.

She admitted to me that I am still her hubby, that she still have love and feeling for me.
That she don't want a break up...
Both knew that there was something that is preventing this break off.

Later, I tried to recall the happening but I can't fully remembered.
In the end, I told her that the doctor dignosed that I was suffering from depression.
1) weight loss, 2) eating habit, 3) lost of sleep, 4) get nervous easily, 5) At times, talk to himself. 6) He do not know himself.

She was in shock, she did not knew it and that she has caused this to me.
She told me not blame myself, to love someone can be very painful.

She now at this very hour is waiting for my decision.
Am I able to accept her back as my lover?

To some brothers, this might seen confusing. What happened was, DD tried to break up with him once before. She found someone, but her boyfriend refused to let her go and go into depression. In the end, he amazingly turned the table over and made DD guilty. After that incident, DD’s boyfriend started to check on all her bills, what she spent on her credit cards, check on her handphone call logs and messages, her bank statement, call her every hour to check where she is, emails, etc

At that time, I was angry and also pitied her. I confronted her about the blog. She broke down and admitted that the reason why she had to gave me up at the 11th hour was that she can’t bear to see him going into another stage of depression and that she doesn’t want to see him leaving Singapore permantently leaving his mother all alone here as he is the only child. I was hot, to me this is all just an act to keep her; how can this guy treated her like that; I wanted to confront him, but DD stopped me. We hugged as I comforted her and she cried herself to sleep in my arms. I was in no mood to sleep as I was more determine to “save” her from this guy.

To clear the air on why she didn't tell me about him when we met, that's because she treated me as a fling initially and she see no reason to tell me; but after she falls for me, she didn't tell me as she has no solution to her current situation until after I didn't accept her the first time.


P.s : Lolz, when I told my friend about this, he is more interested in the depression story so that he know what to tell the doctor to excuse himself from reservist.

[Cheonging101]

Hmm... Still sounds like a better BF than you are, bro TS!

[otacon]

it is a sad story, very eager to know how u save her from her depressed bf

[nine9nine]

TS, although many brothers here felt that you are an asshole but I remain neutral. I seldom respond to tread in Adult Discussion as everyone has his own life but this time I need to speak up.

DD's bf seriously needs help and the only person who can help him is his gf (DD). Your way of thinking is very selfish and ungracious. You had already 'ate' her and chew up into pieces and still not willing to let go? You wanna see something drastic then you happy? Your pride and ego forbits you to let her go. I can assure you if DD's bf is not in the picture, you would have treated her differently.

My 2 cents worth of PERSONAL opinion. No offense intended.

[GoldenMonkey1]

Very often, is only when you have lost somebody dear than you will realise that they are important to you.

Lets not blame the TS, it is part and parcel of his growing up. Yes, it did started on the wrong foot, but again, he is trying to make amends to what he had done wrong. It is not easy for a man to bring down his EGO.

However, I do not agree with you meddling with her laptop and finding out information that she didnt want you to see in the first place. It is not ethical.

As for her current BF, seeking help would be the best. In the event that you manage to convince her to leave her BF, and if anything happens to her BF, the 2 of you will be feeling guilty til the day you lay motionless in the coffin.

You need to be very aware of what are the consequences and repercussions of whatever decisons you and her make.

Be very cool headed when you make a decision.

Good luck.

[pussyidol]

Really interesting story.....bro washabi, more please..

Originally Posted by GoldenMonkey1

Very often, is only when you have lost somebody dear than you will realise that they are important to you.

Lets not blame the TS, it is part and parcel of his growing up.

Good luck.

That is nature of most people, and journey to be mature - becoming better man and woman

[badboyzbleu]

wow! DD bf sounds like romeo. always hide in the woods at night and hide in the room during day time! :P hahaha!

[coolfire69]

I have this feeling that actually, DD is the one playing with bro washabi's feelings & not the other way round...more to it than meets the eye...note bro washabi's thread title....

Regardless, this is very very interesting to read!

[washabi]

Thanks all the bro for both positive and negative comments.


I have to admit, I did tried to persuade her to leave him as I felt painful for her. I felt it was not fair to her. She claims she loves me more than him, but didn’t want to leave him because she doesn’t want him to go through another round of depression. I felt she was noble but yet sorry for her as she had to go through all these. I wanted to protect her, love her; thus I can’t bear to see her going through all these. At the same time, I also slowly turn my anger towards DD’s boyfriend into pity, so after a while I stopped trying to persuade her.

Seriously I did entertain the thought of wanting to leave this relationship; but then every times her “I love you” would melt my heart. This relationship is no longer a fling but emotion is involved in it. I hung on to it, at times hoping she will one day choose me. So officially I become a “mistress”.

Months passed and we have our many good times. I remember celebrating her birthday and seeing her so happy was a joy to me. Despite a typical “mistress” life, like last minute can’t meet me coz the boyfriend meeting her; or when I talking to her over the phone, boyfriend call I have to put down the phone; secretly meeting her; I was still pinning on the hope that she will one day choose me.

One day, a bomb shell drop on me. She called me one night and told me her boyfriend has proposed to her and she has accepted the proposal. They will be getting engage three months later. I was stunned after I heard the news; immediately I knew all my wishing thinking hopes about being with her was destroyed.

That night I couldn’t sleep at all. Finally I came out from my bed and on my computer and wrote her a letter at 4am in the morning. Of course I created an email account where her boyfriend has no access to and put it there.

This is an abstract from the letter

Dear DD

It really took me sometimes before I decided to write this letter to you and with great difficulties and pain. For the past many days, I have been thinking a lot about us, what we are doing, where we are going and I found no answer. I knew it was wrong for us to carry on, but the heart has ruled over my head and that I still wanted very much to see you and be with you; however I think after yesterday conversation when you told me about the engagement, I knew it is all over for us.

My world has collapses. I stayed up the whole night pondering what is happening. Up to now, I did not come out with any conclusion. I believe you know this relationship meant a lot to me; I rather end it now and keep the good memory rather than things turn ugly for all three of us later.

Even as I am writing now, it brings back so many of the sweet memories with you. Do you know what is the one of the most enjoyable thing I have when with you? It is when you are happy and seeing you smile. It is like a God’s mission for me to make you smile, and by seeing you smile, you have melt my heart and bring joy into me too. I will never forget the day when we celebrate your birthday together; it was so thrilling seeing the excitement you shown on your face as we took the bus to Jurong. Remember the words you told me at the Pub when I asked you whether are you comfortable there? Maybe you have forgotten, but not me. To me, seeing you happy is more than anything else.

I remember then when we first started, it was meant to be a fling, but who would have known it ended up having a relationship evolving. During then, our so call first break up, I was so sad that I knew instantly something is amiss in me because disappointment and sadness grabs my heart. I knew you didn’t have a good time too. For the first time, I have experience my true love as never in my life I have experience this feeling with any girls I dated.

I remember then, we finally got a chance to meet for lunch. I guessed you were sad, and the first thought I have in my mind was to make you smile and happy. I spent that morning searching and learning the song 安靜 and sang to you on the staircase. It was our song. You cried and then break into a smile, that’s all it matter to me and that is to see you smile.

I guess by now you know that you meant a lot to me. I was so worried for you when you came back from your trip sick that I didn’t even bother whether is H1N1 or I be infected; all I knew was that I was worried sick for you and I wanted to fly to you to take care of you and see you. I would have fly down if you have not stop me but still, I am so glad and thankful that you have allowed me to accompany you to see a doctor and let me cuddle you in bed to sleep and buy lunch for you. My worries for you did not stop for the next few days until I knew you are well.

The second break up was like a stab in my heart. I still remember I treated you badly because I was shocked and disappointed. I did not know how to react and up to today I felt so bad in treating like that.

Then, I knew my love with you is so strong that I am prepared to take back my house for you. I was fantasying everyday for that many days about we living together; it must be so sweet and happy. Unfortunately this dream did not happen and like the word I used, it was pure fantasying.I was confuse why you have make that decision, but I choose to respect you because I told myself “loving one person doesn’t mean having her by my side, as long as I know she is happy”; at least that’s how I console my friends.

But I have to admit, that statement is noble and is hard to exercise. It was not an easy period for me. I missed you very badly, I wanted to be able to dote on you, able to protect you, able to do things together with you. In the end, I knew I can’t have any of those moments with you, so I convinced myself just by seeing you and spending some times with you will be good enough.

By some luck, I managed to stumble onto your boyfriend writing about his past experiences with a breakup. At that time, my heart went out for you and him, and only then I understand why you have made this decision. The air has clear for me. I told myself I will wait for you as your decision is not of what you want. I will give you times to settle and I will support you in all ways.

However after learning about the engagement, I knew and understand that you have made your final decision. I guess you know what you want and I will respect your final decision. I have told myself I shouldn’t hold any hopes of us being together anymore.

By continuing on what we are doing only bring more pains to me and you, I hope for your understanding that I did not choose to desert you and as for me, do not worry for me. No doubt I will be sad, but I am strong and I will try my utmost to live by the noble statement, that is to “not having being with you and yet wish to see you happy”.

And because it is you, I wish from my bottom of my heart you and your boyfriend well and happy.


After she read this letter the next morning, she called me and cried over the phone saying how sorry she is; but I was firmed in the break up as I knew that is the last straw for me.

We did talk over msn and occasionally over the phone, but I have set in my mind that our conversations were strictly friends. It was very painful in my heart, but I guessed all good things have to come to an end.

Tick Tock, tick tock….as the day for the engagement is drawing near, it’s like waiting for 2012 to happen. Lolz.