Anyway I just got back from my business trip... and went out with one of my girl who I know in singapore and is working there. Free escort services hehe, but this time i ask a really a direct question to her why she choose to go out with me when actually another guy specifically came from somewhere abroad just to look for her. (nearly got into an incident with that guy). Is it because I got money.
The next moment she cried and say "No!!! if money i can earn myself don't need you and if I want money I would have ask you to pay me before you come." Then suddenly the next few days she insist on paying for dinner and transport. I was kinda shock. I spend the whole 3 nights with her and she even skip 2 days work to be with me. This was kinda of an experience for me she even told me she want me to be her boyfriend and she don't mind me having other girls... but maximum 3 lol... she will be definately one of the few girls which I will keep.
Hope to share more if time permits.
Cheers.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good morning!
Many bros hv reiterated their belief that confidence is very important in attracting the opposite sex.
You're very attractive because you're very confident. Period.
What is real confidence in a man?
Don't confuse it w/ arrogant, boastful, aggressive n domineering behaviour which is the antithesis of confidence. Such beta behaviour is indicative of insecurity n inferiority complex at the subconscious level, in the more primitive brain. It's a severe defect n deficiency the conscious brain is painfully aware of n is desperately trying to hide hahaha...such a man has fears, can't sleep if he loses half his fortune n feels dejected n frustrated if his favourite woman leaves him...
Here is a MAN w/ real confidence:
'If' by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Are u a nice guy, especially in the presence of a beautiful women of ur type?
I just received the following from a sex n RS guru:
Why 'Nice Guys' Are HUGE ASSHOLES...
You're incredibly mean to women, and you don't even know it (maybe).
I'm for real on this one.
And thank god you've got me to tell you,
because all the 'beat around the bush',
pussy people who surround you
in your everyday life will not..
They'll sugarcoat everything and feed it to you 'til your insulin levels
are JACKED-UP and you've got thinking-diabetes.
No thanks. I will never feed you anything coated with sugar
nor will I beat around the bush, ever.
You take your medicine straight, like a man, and
I penetrate straight into the bush. Obvi
But anyways, enough about me.
Back to you, the guy who might be mean to women without even knowing it................................................ ....
I refer to myself as a charming asshole a lot,
and I kind of mean it. It's more playful
than anything, and it's in my nature.
But a real asshole looks at you and sees what he wants
to see, instead of what is actually there.
AND HERE'S WHY YOU MAY BE INCREDIBLY MEAN TO WOMEN RIGHT NOW:
When you're out with a beautiful woman, do you see
her exactly as she is, or do you see more of the flawless,
future relationship partner you want her to be?
If you're like most guys, you're in the second category.
You let the chemical high of attraction camouflage all the little flaws
(if she's of the human species, there are many), all the telltale signs
of problems in her life and all the emotional issues in favor of,
"Wow, we're gonna build such a great life together."
Yeah, it's not just women that do it..
And here's what happens when you do this:
You become convinced by your distorted view of her
that she's the one..
You become attached.
You start becoming intensely outcome-focused
(instead of action-aroused).
You start creating these images and pictures in your mind
of your future together with her.
And al of it is BULLSHIT.
Because it's not real.
You ignored the fact that she has no female friends
(which should tell you A LOT) because she was hot
and blows you.
You ignored the fact that she doesn't work but somehow
always seems to have money, because she was hot
and blows you.
You ignored the fact that she never allows herself
to be vulnerable or that she treats the waitstaff at
dinner poorly, or that she finds the negative in everything,
or that she has scarcity views on money...because she was hot
and blows you good.
And she's not the bad one here...you are.
Because you refused to see her for WHO SHE IS.
You only saw what you wanted to see.
This what so-called 'nice guys' do.
They bullshit her with only the good, don't see her for who she really is,
and project this perfect human being onto her, a person that doesn't EXIST.
How. fvcking. cruel.
I've said it before, and I'll violently say it again:
'Nice guys' are the meanest, most manipulative people on the planet.
Fvck 'nice'.
BE REAL.
Now..
If this is you right now, GOOOOOD.
Now you're aware of it.
That's huge.
And now it's time for you to make the shift of
giving everyone you know a gift that almost
no one else is able to...
You're going to see everyone for exactly as who they are.
Including all the women you're seeing.
The good, the bad, the ugly, the TRUTH.
And when you catch yourself starting to project
all these perfect qualities on her, you're going
to STOP and think to yourself..
"OK, I'm going to stop seeing this perfect version of her right now.
Instead, I'm gonna see all the flaws, the signs, the truths. And from
that rare place of authenticity and well-hungness, I'm going to vibe
with the real her."
This newsletter today is important, I suggest you
come back and read it multiple times...
Dun mind I quote or re-post some old previous post.
Not sure if there is "Real Love"
Cheers.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good afternoon!
Every healthy heterosexual girl/woman wants a man who can be a provider and a protector; preferably, he is also confident, self-assured, completely comfortable in his own skin, dominant, courageous, ambitious, patient, accomplished, yet kind, gentle n compassionate. He must be a MAN with awesome emotional control and self mastery.
Such a man is very attractive to the most desirable girl/woman but that is not enough to get her emotionally n sexually addicted.
As I hv alluded to in the past, a girl/woman can only be sexually addicted to a man who gives her the most intense PVOs again n again. No ifs, ands or buts about it. True emotional addiction is a byproduct.
Also, IMHO, without sexual addiction, so-called 'true love' between a man n a woman is mere fantasy/curiosity which will fade eventually...
Let me give u a quote.
Real love is the love that sometimes arises after sensual pleasure: if it does, it is immortal; the other kind inevitably goes stale, for it lies in mere fantasy.
I had similar encounter with a girl when I was on business trip too. She insisted on settling all bills as she wanted to be a good host.
Thanks Bro WB for this nice thread.
Cheers.
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Originally Posted by sgbond
Good morning to Bro WB
What a lovely thread here and kudos to you.
A great post below about confidence.
Anyway I just got back from my business trip... and went out with one of my girl who I know in singapore and is working there. Free escort services hehe, but this time i ask a really a direct question to her why she choose to go out with me when actually another guy specifically came from somewhere abroad just to look for her. (nearly got into an incident with that guy). Is it because I got money.
The next moment she cried and say "No!!! if money i can earn myself don't need you and if I want money I would have ask you to pay me before you come." Then suddenly the next few days she insist on paying for dinner and transport. I was kinda shock. I spend the whole 3 nights with her and she even skip 2 days work to be with me. This was kinda of an experience for me she even told me she want me to be her boyfriend and she don't mind me having other girls... but maximum 3 lol... she will be definately one of the few girls which I will keep.
"I’d rather you get the gold medal and I get the silver medal…"
Excellent quote.
Bros hope dun mind I re-post old foprum.
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Originally Posted by fallen.angel
LOL. I think every gal’s horny period is different cos for my gal, it’s a few days before her menses. Her breasts would be swollen and she gets horny very easily.
On to food. Crabs for gals and prawns for guys. OMG!! I am very curious how you found this out cos this is the best-kept secret! To improve one’s “taohua” luck, gals should eat crabs (more specifically, crab’s roe) and guys should eat prawns (more specifically shells of prawns, or eat those dried shrimps that have their shells intact but you have to soak it in water to soften it before cooking). Well, there’s no secret really… the aphrodisiac in seafood is… *drum rolls*… zinc.
Preparation beforehand is very important too. A healthy and well-rested body will make sex more enjoyable. Plus, you will perform better.
Sex can become really dull and boring when you are doing it with the same gal, day-in-day-out, in the same place, in the same predictable sequences, in the same positions, with the same methods, etc… Spice things up by going to a different place/hotel/resort, or bring her overseas, or to a quick getaway in neighbouring countries or Sentosa, go for a couple spa treatment together, or if you can’t change the location: wine-and-dine her first, add music and different mood in the room, slow things up, speed things up, mix up the sequences, try new positions or stimulation methods, etc.
Remember how we get all sexcited in the office when we receive our gf’s sexy messages/pics and all we could do the whole day in the office is to think of bonking her the very moment we arrived home? Well, that works both ways. So find out what turns her on and do it – the anticipation is enough to make her wet.
Make love with her even before you make love with her – with all the preparations and anticipation… and make sure: she cums first. I always joke with my gal: I’d rather you get the gold medal and I get the silver medal…
Lots of wonderful information in this thread, I do have some questions though. This thread is mostly revolved around ktv girls hfj girls etc.. where there is money involved isnt the actual effect of these techniques somewhat skewed? how is it possible to accertain that the results are not directly related to monetary benefit? eg. a whore could say that a guy with a 3 inch dick gave her the best bang ever.
In a world where company is not purchased by money. will the techniques apply. As a person who is far short of the caliber of spending poweress from most of the postees. how would i even begin to get her attention?
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Originally Posted by warbird
Dear bro Weremonkey,
Tks for asking such excellent questions.
The psychological techniques work on every healthy girl/woman, WLs n non-WLs.
If you're unable to differentiate between real n fake orgasms, you better read up n learn from hands-on experience asap.
Yes, money is necessary to bed these girls. But the damage could be minimized. You could learn from bro FA who has spent very little n yet has got two singers vying for his attention haha.
I started this thread to discuss various methods of "pick up" to cut the friction cost of meeting girls. I hv met many girls, both here n in China, proposed BY n got accepted w/o having spent a penny. For various reasons, I hv consummated the "BY relationship" in less than 1/3 of cases haha.
BTW, I don't limit myself to KTV or HFJ gals in SG n PRC. Any unmarried gal of my type anywhere on planet earth is fair game. In some countries, my physical safety is my only concern which may deter me...
Money is a sensitive issue n a double-edged sword. Giving too much money can destroy attraction. Perhaps I'm old fashioned n outdated. But, IMHO, a real MAN should be a good provider n a bold protector of his women. Most importantly, he must be able to give them regular PVO n get them sexually n emotionally addicted to him. This IS the prerequiste for "true love," at least as far as women is concerned. Women r actually very simple n men r more complex hahaha.
There r men out there who believe their wife/GF/mistress/er nai r truly in love w/ them. They need to ask themselves only one question.
Have I given my women regular PVO?
If yes, congrats.
If no, their "true love" for u is suspect n may fade w/ time. You can write it down.
BTW, the role of men really hasn't changed that much in the last 50,000 yrs. It's in the genes of both men n women, in our collective subconscious minds. "Emancipation" of women n "gender equality" in advanced countries (including SG) have upset this relationship n have resulted in high divorce rates n misery for all parties. It's has been a lose-lose-lose situation.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB
The above old forum really helps me to understand better.
Thanks for the reply. There is no menace in my questions and i hope there is no offence. Im asking in a purely academic point of view. Im truely impressed by transforming a what has been percieved to be an art and breaking it down into a science.
lets assume we are talking about a pure player prespective. No dollar involvement. So not talking about BY etc. My assumption is that it will be next to impossible for a person whose financial output is next to nothing. to have almost a next to nothing chance of getting anywhere.
any advise on overcoming this?
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Originally Posted by fallen.angel
hmm… if you don’t give anything, how do you expect to get anything in return? A player who doesn’t pay $? Maybe not at my level. But even if you date a gal or your gf, you need to spend some money ya?
For the past 2 nights, I have been going out with a Korean model who is also a travel and food presenter. Nope, I didn’t picked her up at Embassy. She’s been here before and she is here again on holiday and we have been having dinners, drinks, clubbing and KTV (K-Box) and I’m meeting her again tonight before she flys back.
What I’m trying to say is that when you go out, you have to spend money ya? To me, its fair deal and its cheap – its better than hanging flowers to dancers or singers cos you get their attention to whole night. I know some rich people pay KTV gals $500 just to have afternoon tea.
What I’m saying is, you have to fun enough so that the gal actually enjoys your company and you, hers. You have to be very confident to be comfortable before you can start to enjoy each others company. Why would she want to drag you out every night? She has many friends in Singapore too but the fact that she picked you to spend every night in Singapore means you must have done something right. And no, I didn’t pay her for her company – only foot the bills for dinners, K-Box, and my own drinks (Wed nights are ladies night)..
I think the key point (about money) is spend wisely to get the most bang for the buck/mileage for your money spent... and most importantly to enjoy yourself
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Originally Posted by Weremonkey
Good point. but i wasnt refering to the expenses involved in taking a girl out that is naturally quite a given that guys do pay. I do specifically mean the flowers such. Is it possible to get the attention of a HFJ girl without hanging flower?
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Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ
Always remember y these girls r here in the 1st place. Make money.
Understand how they make money too.
Let me help in this area.
1) A singer in a HFJ makes money by going on stage to sing & customers hang flower. Before & after singing, she goes around tables to do her PR thingy to try to gain more flowers when she sings
2) A singer locks on a target to ensure she has continuous support from her customer/customers by having lunch, dinner, supper & sleeping with the customer/customers.
3) If she creates a void by not keeping her customer/customers entertained before and after working hours, how is she going to survive? She may still get some loose flowers but those can't really help her achieve her main reason for being here. $$$$$$$$$
Either club 9 on level 3 or iicon in parklane. Or they just live around there. Dynasty has 1 Korean the other day, just too fleshy though.
Rate is dependent on what game you have. Some get foc and then tip or hang later. Do what YOU are happy with doing.
Bro, tks.
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Originally Posted by marianna
Indeed very powerful stuff.
Thanks to Bro WB who wrote astounding forum.
Please continue to post more.
Thanks.
Bro, it's very powerful.
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Originally Posted by marianna
Bro WB
Noted with thanks.
I will possess absolute sexual confidence and to be animal in bed.
Will also remember to talk dirty in bed.
Really astounding advice.
Thanks.
Bro, tks,
You will get more girls of your type than you can handle.
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Originally Posted by SamYeh
I love talking dirty in bed too.
Very astounding advice indeed.
Cheers.
Bro, tks.
Could you share w/ us how you talk dirty in Mandarin?
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Originally Posted by shinjuku
Bro WB - chim leh! Need to research about Taoist sex.
Bro, tks.
Pls share w/ us your experience w/ Taoist sex.
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Originally Posted by x1nahma
Agreed, very chim. Going to do a research too.
Thanks Bro WB for this amazing thread!
Tks, bro.
Pls share w/ us.
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Originally Posted by saipan
Bro WB
I fully agreed with you.
A girl may have been abused since young and will be traumatised till adulthood. We guys will never know the past of any girl. So best to leave the questions unanswered.
We need to be very patience and have confidence to be with the girl you like. Time prevails and will tell.
When time comes must be able to give many dramatic CPVOs.
Hope to learn more from you.
Cheers.
Bro, tks.
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Originally Posted by saipan
Bro WB
Thank you for a very detailed account of the hanging flowers is a real waste of money, crazy n stupid.
"IMHO, hanging mega flowers is more abt ego trip n self aggrandizing than abt the singers. "
Well said quote.
Thank you so much.
Tks, bro.
I wrote more musings on HFJs on 7 May, 2015 #4017. I'll repost it below.
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Originally Posted by saipan
Haha, PRC men so rich.
Thank you so much.
Bro, tks.
Some are very rich.
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Originally Posted by sgbond
Good morning to Bro WB
What a lovely thread here and kudos to you.
A great post below about confidence.
Anyway I just got back from my business trip... and went out with one of my girl who I know in singapore and is working there. Free escort services hehe, but this time i ask a really a direct question to her why she choose to go out with me when actually another guy specifically came from somewhere abroad just to look for her. (nearly got into an incident with that guy). Is it because I got money.
The next moment she cried and say "No!!! if money i can earn myself don't need you and if I want money I would have ask you to pay me before you come." Then suddenly the next few days she insist on paying for dinner and transport. I was kinda shock. I spend the whole 3 nights with her and she even skip 2 days work to be with me. This was kinda of an experience for me she even told me she want me to be her boyfriend and she don't mind me having other girls... but maximum 3 lol... she will be definately one of the few girls which I will keep.
Hope to share more if time permits.
Cheers.
Bro, tks.
Good FR. Well done!
Quote:
Originally Posted by sgbond
Good effort to share nice guru post.
Yes need to be badass gentleman to get girls.
Hope to share more.
Cheers
Bro, Tks.
Become a badass gentleman.
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Originally Posted by sgbond
Bro WB
Another great post below.
Dun mind I quote or re-post some old previous post.
Not sure if there is "Real Love"
Cheers.
Bro, tks.
I think there is "true love" or "real love" between a man and a woman at a particular moment in time. But such "love" can't last forever. Nothing in this universe can last forever.
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Originally Posted by ScrewOldboss
I had similar encounter with a girl when I was on business trip too. She insisted on settling all bills as she wanted to be a good host.
Thanks Bro WB for this nice thread.
Cheers.
Bro, tks.
Well done!
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Originally Posted by SoongJongki
No doubt about it, a great post.
I also not sure if there is real love.
Thanks Bro WB for this fantastic thread.
Have a nice weekend.
Bro, tks.
...............................................
Good afternoon to all samsters!
Time really flies. The following was written on 7 May, 2015 Thursday just before 2 PM. A few hrs later I met 18 yo LS for HH at Dynasty, during which I told her I would BY her. She agreed. She is my oldest LP now.
I hv done minimal editing.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good afternoon!
Not long ago I reconnected w/ a long lost bro, DYBJ (abbreviated as YJ). He is a well-known samster who is purportedly very experienced in "bedding" singers but recently has chosen to retire from local night scene n has immigrated to a foreign country.
In bro YJ's opinion, I hv done well in my preferred field or comfort zone n I should move up to BY-ing singers. He believes that will be a real challenge n a real test of manhood as I'll be competing w/ many wealthy n experienced contenders. Must move out of my comfort zone, according to him. Apparently, he has done all that n has achieved the ultimate conquests, so he is happy to retire. I had another chat w/ him several days later in which I outlined my goals n desires which are radically different from his...
I disagreed w/ bro YJ completely on many points. He said he wasn't offended. Good for him. If true, he has earned my respect as a man w/ good emotional control. I wish him all the best. BTW, I hv learned a lot from him in my formative yrs in 2009 n 2010...Thanks bro YJ!
First, I like to comment on Bro YJ's voluntary "retirement." I'll never "retire" from making love to SYTS who are attractive to me. BTW, I'm a lao chee ko pek, whereas bro YJ is much, much younger, only middle-aged. He is many years from reaching his sexual prime because I'm only beginning to get close to mine. For me, to retire is to give up living, give up life. And, I don't dwell on past achievements or past glories. I only live in the present. The past doesn't exist, nor does the future. What I hv and what everyone has is the present moment, that is all. Even if you were at one time the Emperor of China, so what? No use if you're now a waiter and living incognito in Sg or in Argentina. Even if u hv fxked all the famous supermodels, beauty queens and actresses, so what? It's what you're NOW as a MAN, physically, emotionally, psychologically n spiritually, that really matters. I learn from the past n I plan for the future, but this should take only a few minutes a day. Don't spend hours, like most people.
Moreover, what is a great success to bro YJ or anyone else may mean absolutely nothing to me. To each his own. Some may think I'm a failure because I'm not a Nobel laureate in Physics or I'm not an American board-certified neurosurgeon. Some may think a person is successful only if he is the richest man in the world. I hv this to say, since our earth is a pale blue dot, being numero uno in anything in our world doesn't amount to very much. http://www.planetary.org/explore/spa...-blue-dot.html
I know my circle of competence but I never stay in my comfort zone. I'm expanding my circle of competence in ALL directions, every minute, every day. Everything is changing, the whole universe is changing, and we must change w/ it. If a man is wishing for status quo or trying to stay in his comfort zone, whoever he is n wherever he is, he is finished, kaput.
Back to why I shun hanging flowers...
1) Hanging flowers and getting into flower wars is for BIG SUCKERS aka patsies. Sorry for being so blunt, but I'm dead serious. The friction cost is exorbitant n it would be THE most inefficient way to get the girls /women of my type. It's more abt boosting a patron's fragile ego and showing off than abt the singers. Moreover, there are "fake flowers," fraud and money laundering, not something I want to get involved in any way.
2) By hanging big flowers and competing w/ other patrons for the singers, I'm announcing that I'm a chaser and that these singers hv higher social n sexual value than me. It's the same as putting big signs on my head and scream: Please look at me, I'm inferior, I'm insecure n I'm hanging big flowers so that you will notice me, because I'm a born loser, I don't believe I deserve you n I hv nothing else to offer u. This unmanly, needy n wussy behaviour is most repulsive to the subconscious minds of the girls. Of course I'll get their pussies if I hang enough but it will be extremely difficult to overcome their initial negative (mostly subconscious) perceptions of me. Even if subsequently I could give them PVOs again n again, it would not be enough to get them addicted.
3) The timing of HFJs is inconvenient for me as I sleep early. I go to SH at KTVs only twice a month n I always leave before midnight. "Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise."
4) It's very difficult to judge the physical attractiveness of singers inside the HFJs because of the lighting, hairdo, makeup and long evening gowns which cover their thighs and legs. But they can't fool me. I like to see a girl's bare thighs n legs clearly in broad daylight before BY-ing. Mummy J used to arrange my prospective mistresses to meet me in hot pants during the day haha.
5) Most successful singers are ruthless psychopaths and/or sociopaths w/ narcissistic personality disorder. They are poisons to me. What is one's goal or endpoint w/ them? Can't define success unless you hv a clear n well-defined goal. ST or BY? Beat out all the other customers to get their pussies? Or get them emotionally n sexually addicted? Marry one of them? Become a gigolo to them?
6) Singers are usually here only 6 months n it's difficult for them to return for the next 12 months. If I like a girl, I like to keep her long-term, until she becomes unattractive to me. Six months is just too short if a pussy is exquisitely delicious.
I also like to comment on several health myths.
Myth 1: A man reaches his sexual peak at 18-19. Nonsense. I hv yet to reach my peak.
Myth 2: It's normal for a man to gain weight as he gets older. Nonsense. My weight n waistline are the same as when I was 21. Look at Chen Lifu n Kirk Kerkorian. Google them.
Myth 3: It's normal for a man's BP to go up as he ages. Again, nonsense. My BP is actually slightly lower than when I was 21. And I don't take any medications.
Last but not least, how do I find time to go to HFJs? I don't even hv time to go to Shanghai where a lucrative business deal and several delectable high school/uni students hv been waiting for me.
Cheers!
Bro WB
BTW, I did meet a tall singer who just turned 19 in July 2016. She was tricked by a friend into becoming a singer in SG. She wanted to leave immediately, but the boss won't return her passport. A friend introduced her to me. She became my LP. She said singers were old and fugly. A middle-aged woman w/ two kids was doing well...Because she knew how to charm those patrons.
She left SG after 5 weeks. She couldn't get a student visa for SG. I got her to study at ESL in JB. She did well in her ILETS n got accepted to a reputable uni there. But she said JB not safe n she was too lonely at night. She went back to China n is waiting for a visa to come to SG. She is KT.
Really so many assholes in this world. The guru wrote nicely.
Such a good forum in the past and good for reading.
Well done.
Thanks.
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Originally Posted by warbird
Good afternoon!
Are u a nice guy, especially in the presence of a beautiful women of ur type?
I just received the following from a sex n RS guru:
Why 'Nice Guys' Are HUGE ASSHOLES...
You're incredibly mean to women, and you don't even know it (maybe).
I'm for real on this one.
And thank god you've got me to tell you,
because all the 'beat around the bush',
pussy people who surround you
in your everyday life will not..
They'll sugarcoat everything and feed it to you 'til your insulin levels
are JACKED-UP and you've got thinking-diabetes.
No thanks. I will never feed you anything coated with sugar
nor will I beat around the bush, ever.
You take your medicine straight, like a man, and
I penetrate straight into the bush. Obvi
But anyways, enough about me.
Back to you, the guy who might be mean to women without even knowing it................................................ ....
I refer to myself as a charming asshole a lot,
and I kind of mean it. It's more playful
than anything, and it's in my nature.
But a real asshole looks at you and sees what he wants
to see, instead of what is actually there.
AND HERE'S WHY YOU MAY BE INCREDIBLY MEAN TO WOMEN RIGHT NOW:
When you're out with a beautiful woman, do you see
her exactly as she is, or do you see more of the flawless,
future relationship partner you want her to be?
If you're like most guys, you're in the second category.
You let the chemical high of attraction camouflage all the little flaws
(if she's of the human species, there are many), all the telltale signs
of problems in her life and all the emotional issues in favor of,
"Wow, we're gonna build such a great life together."
Yeah, it's not just women that do it..
And here's what happens when you do this:
You become convinced by your distorted view of her
that she's the one..
You become attached.
You start becoming intensely outcome-focused
(instead of action-aroused).
You start creating these images and pictures in your mind
of your future together with her.
And al of it is BULLSHIT.
Because it's not real.
You ignored the fact that she has no female friends
(which should tell you A LOT) because she was hot
and blows you.
You ignored the fact that she doesn't work but somehow
always seems to have money, because she was hot
and blows you.
You ignored the fact that she never allows herself
to be vulnerable or that she treats the waitstaff at
dinner poorly, or that she finds the negative in everything,
or that she has scarcity views on money...because she was hot
and blows you good.
And she's not the bad one here...you are.
Because you refused to see her for WHO SHE IS.
You only saw what you wanted to see.
This what so-called 'nice guys' do.
They bullshit her with only the good, don't see her for who she really is,
and project this perfect human being onto her, a person that doesn't EXIST.
How. fvcking. cruel.
I've said it before, and I'll violently say it again:
'Nice guys' are the meanest, most manipulative people on the planet.
Fvck 'nice'.
BE REAL.
Now..
If this is you right now, GOOOOOD.
Now you're aware of it.
That's huge.
And now it's time for you to make the shift of
giving everyone you know a gift that almost
no one else is able to...
You're going to see everyone for exactly as who they are.
Including all the women you're seeing.
The good, the bad, the ugly, the TRUTH.
And when you catch yourself starting to project
all these perfect qualities on her, you're going
to STOP and think to yourself..
"OK, I'm going to stop seeing this perfect version of her right now.
Instead, I'm gonna see all the flaws, the signs, the truths. And from
that rare place of authenticity and well-hungness, I'm going to vibe
with the real her."
This newsletter today is important, I suggest you
come back and read it multiple times...
"Real love is the love that sometimes arises after sensual pleasure: if it does, it is immortal; the other kind inevitably goes stale, for it lies in mere fantasy.
Giacomo Casanova "
What is real love?
Not easy to explain what is real love?
Thanks.
Quote:
Originally Posted by warbird
Good afternoon!
Every healthy heterosexual girl/woman wants a man who can be a provider and a protector; preferably, he is also confident, self-assured, completely comfortable in his own skin, dominant, courageous, ambitious, patient, accomplished, yet kind, gentle n compassionate. He must be a MAN with awesome emotional control and self mastery.
Such a man is very attractive to the most desirable girl/woman but that is not enough to get her emotionally n sexually addicted.
As I hv alluded to in the past, a girl/woman can only be sexually addicted to a man who gives her the most intense PVOs again n again. No ifs, ands or buts about it. True emotional addiction is a byproduct.
Also, IMHO, without sexual addiction, so-called 'true love' between a man n a woman is mere fantasy/curiosity which will fade eventually...
Let me give u a quote.
Real love is the love that sometimes arises after sensual pleasure: if it does, it is immortal; the other kind inevitably goes stale, for it lies in mere fantasy.
14-12-2018, 09:17 AM
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