No sex after the birth of first kid

[aph22]

There are many factors as other bro’s have said. It’s quite common and the suggestions are all worthwhile. I found that just touching (simple hug, kiss on cheek in morning etc) is very reassuring to wives. Later on they like the human touch and my wife started to get the drive back just before her monthly cycle. She would sometimes back up into me while we’re sleeping or about to which would be her signal that she’s ready. Good luck !

[ttmsbf]

Originally Posted by sbwow

Your wife throws a bit of tantrum and you start to do all the work. HAHAHA.
Looks like someone is on the verge of an unhappy marriage. HAHAHA.
First, you complain about no sex.
Second, you complain about doing all the chores.
Third, you shall complain about getting cuckold. HAHAHA.

First, I'm not complaining that I'm doing all the housework. Noting that my wife is busy with the kid, the least I can do will be the housework.

Second, why mention someone getting cuckolded when there was no mention of the wife being close to other guys or any signs of derailment? You find joy in other's misery? You can sleep better when others are feeling down?

[ttmsbf]

Originally Posted by aph22

There are many factors as other bro’s have said. It’s quite common and the suggestions are all worthwhile. I found that just touching (simple hug, kiss on cheek in morning etc) is very reassuring to wives. Later on they like the human touch and my wife started to get the drive back just before her monthly cycle. She would sometimes back up into me while we’re sleeping or about to which would be her signal that she’s ready. Good luck !

Great to see that there's suggestions of sorts from some of the Bros here.

I've been actively trying to compliment my wife and to initiate some hugs and kisses every now and then. I really hope that we can find back that feeling where we mutually enjoy such intimacy like how things were like before the birth of our kid.

[ttmsbf]

Originally Posted by StealthBomber

Local singapore woman generally have it very good here. Husband work a job and still help with some household duties. Best life for a woman in south east asia region.

In neighbouring vietnam, a lady I knows told me: if the husband got a job and contribute his salary to the household is already considered very good already. At a minimum, don't drink, don't beat the wife, good already Their standard very low.

Difference is that many Singaporean women are educated and have a career of their own. If the household doesn't employ a maid, both couples need to contribute towards home making.

While mine earns less than me, some earn more than their husband. And I believe things like income dictates who wears the pants in the relationship and has more say in it.

[kryptoz]

Originally Posted by ttmsbf

We primarily feed him formula, supplemented with breast milk.

I became the primary guy in doing housework, to cook and I also help to look after the baby whenever I can. But my wife is perpetually du lan whenever my kid cries (not that I'm not fed up either. Just that I tolerate with it).

So everything looks wrong to my wife and emotions take over whenever my kid is unhappy.

it will take a couple of years to get things back to pre-kids. keep helping out at home, look after the kid, bring the wife out for dates when you have help to look after the kid. try to keep her mind off the kid.
if you have a second child, it will get worse. when the kids gets more independent, when she will have more time to herself, that's when she transitions out of mum mode and back into woman mode. that's when her libido may come back.

[ttmsbf]

Originally Posted by kryptoz

it will take a couple of years to get things back to pre-kids. keep helping out at home, look after the kid, bring the wife out for dates when you have help to look after the kid. try to keep her mind off the kid.
if you have a second child, it will get worse. when the kids gets more independent, when she will have more time to herself, that's when she transitions out of mum mode and back into woman mode. that's when her libido may come back.

You experienced all these personally before?

If so, do you remember how many years did it take for you to regain intimacy with your wife? How did you tahan over those years?

[pokey93]

Originally Posted by ttmsbf

First, I'm not complaining that I'm doing all the housework. Noting that my wife is busy with the kid, the least I can do will be the housework.

Second, why mention someone getting cuckolded when there was no mention of the wife being close to other guys or any signs of derailment? You find joy in other's misery? You can sleep better when others are feeling down?

His thinking must be sinkie pwn sinkie, can sleep well

[sbwow]

Originally Posted by ttmsbf

First, I'm not complaining that I'm doing all the housework. Noting that my wife is busy with the kid, the least I can do will be the housework.

Second, why mention someone getting cuckolded when there was no mention of the wife being close to other guys or any signs of derailment? You find joy in other's misery? You can sleep better when others are feeling down?

I was merely speaking the truth and you know it. HAHAHA.
She treats you nothing more than a slave. HAHAHA.
She doesn't care about you or your fucking feelings. HAHAHA.

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Angmolover

I am always amazed about the number of Manginas in this forum. LOL. I think all u fuckers better cut of your lancheows and make cheebyes out the hole.

1) Understand the TS is asking about his wife sex drive. The TS is a fucking pwhipped mangina. This is not the forum to discuss women sexual health problems. Read the title. It's to discuss sex. Since it's his wife that has the sex problem, there is no place for it here in this forum.

Wow. Amazing thread. It even attracts the forum mad dog to make attention seeking comments. The best way to treat a mad dog is to laugh in its face and then ignore it. Woof woof

[kryptoz]

Originally Posted by ttmsbf

You experienced all these personally before?

If so, do you remember how many years did it take for you to regain intimacy with your wife? How did you tahan over those years?

we still have sex but less often. it's much better now. it took around 4 years before her sex drive improved slightly.
maybe because both of us exercise more, so we have more energy and she feels more confident about her body.

[WinterMelonTree]

i think this is the watershed where you need to see her with a clear distinction between mother of your children vs lover w/ sexual satisfaction.

the former is more important.

as to satisfying needs, there are no needs that cannot be satisfy with a couple of 20yo mouth wrapped around your dick.

just dont be addicted lol

[Pathypo]

To keep the passion growing you need to help your wife forget she is a mother first, if not all she can think of is baby and duties and work. help off load some of her pressure from her plate like taking over night babies duties, if can get parents or in-laws to help once in a while go on dates with your wife without the baby, re-kinder that loving passion. how you want to have sex when its the least important thing on her list as compare to our list where we need to cure our blue balls.

slowly but surely dont jump the gun, take it slow enjoy the foreplay, just kiss her know her erotic spot and get her motivated, you can alway stop at 2nd base if your wife not ready to jump back in on the game just tahan abit this is a long raod to re-kinder that sex drive.

[keano]

Take time.. As long as possible. It's for the long haul for your kids.

Don't keep pressing her else depression might set in..

Kids are just being kids.. So many stages.

Baby.. Infant... Toodler... Child, big kid.. In no time, your kiddo would be a child and u guys have free time.

Ask in law or ur parents to help at night then u guy can sneak out for a quick movie... Slowly, slowly build up the romantic rs again.. U cant blame her. She is the mother for your child. Rem that.

And don't eat out if u are guilty.. It would make u feel worse.

Take care and send our sammyboy bros greetings and welfare check on urself, wife and kiddo.

U need to take care of oneself too.

[itguy2008]

I went on Monk mode for 5 years with my ex-wife, after my first born.

[sbwow]

Originally Posted by itguy2008

I went on Monk mode for 5 years with my ex-wife, after my first born.

I went on Monk mode till I hit 69. HAHAHA.