Guys with Wife or Good GF still look for pros or flings. Why

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by Wins88

Bro, that's like IMPOSSIBLE! No women can accept this. WOMEN cant share. Selfish creatures. If women (and not men) learnt how to build a fire during prehistoric times - we will still be in the stone ages!

Hmmm... I wonder if wife or GF was a WL, will she be more receptive to her partner eating outside once a while?

[colins]

Bro goodpartner, I suspect in that case, the ex-WL wife or gf will be even more sensitive cos you got 'previous case' (else how to find WL as gf). And when you go eat outside, she'll give even more crap cos there is additional reason to feel insecure and think that you eat outside becos she was WL and therefore less dear to you.

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by Toyota Honda

Bros here, let me say something and debate.

There is a saying that..
Men who were very 'guai' (doesn't fool ard) before marriage or in the younger days tends to stray after marriages.

while guys who flirt and sleep ard are less likely to stray after marriage.

When I was working in Taiwan, a local gal told me her Mum's advise:

宁愿嫁浪子，不好嫁书生。

Translated to English:

Rather married to a gangster / cheongster than married to a studious, or guai guai guy. Reasons quoted are similar to your post.

A gangster, after those days of fighting, will eventually get sick of it, and appreciate much more the stable life of settling down. Also, gangsters tend to fark around more, seen more, been there, done that with sex & flings, not many things are that new to him. So he's less likely to stray. The other reason is, being more experienced, the gangster is likely better in bedding skills too.

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by roslee7

But if you look around us, more worse guy by having mistress in china or everywhere. At least , islam do legal way.

Why is having mistress worse? Islam do it the legal way because it is officially legalised / legislated by Islamic laws!

Originally Posted by roslee7

I mean, why i want to marry 4 wife?

This, u have to ask yrself. Different pple have different reasons, but the reasons are often similar.

Originally Posted by roslee7

I guess any religion can marry as much as they can right?

Which other religion legalises more than 1 wife?

[easybaby]

Originally Posted by 84gunner

Yes, u have your Rights, but u have Obligations too. U can't have everything & don't give, u can't have yr cake & eat it. U must give out something too.

So if a gal / woman were to challenge me, how would I feel if my gf / wife go "eat" outside? I will reply, as far as I am concerned, men & women are not equal, so this cannot be compared, it's not comparing apple with apple. If they wanna talk about their Rights (esp. legal rights in SGP), then please oso see if they have fulfilled their (moral) Obligations, though these obligations are not legislated.

You mentioned about the balance between rights and obligations... so what are your obligations? Have you fulfilled them to balance up with your rights to eat outside? No offence

[lightning]

Originally Posted by aces68

I have heard of this saying also, but honestly I think it only applies if the girl you marry is super-sexed minded.
If the OC is like what most bros here have, then I think LL no choice but have to stray also..

What will you do if your OC tell you :-
1. No frenching - cos very wet
2. No licking - cos it's dirty (well some guys don't mind but for the pussy lickers, this is torture esp if your OC got full brazilian wax , then you wonder why the heck did she get waxed in the first place if you don't get to enjoy it)
3. No BJ - cos dirty (no need to even talk about BBBJ liao)
4. Only insert and cummm (like dildo machine )

I think if you kena any one of the above taboo already quite chiam, but if kena all 4 of the above (like myself ), might as well become monk immediately..correct or not..so how not to eat outside ??


Just my 2 cents worth !

This is super sianz man!!! I rather explore my next partner and see before I commit

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by easybaby

You mentioned about the balance between rights and obligations... so what are your obligations? Have you fulfilled them to balance up with your rights to eat outside? No offence

Talking about rights, except Muslim Law, it has never been legislated in SG that a man can have more than 1 wife, not during the colonial days, not after Independence. When I posted about the balance between Rights & Obligations, it's talking on a wider perspective than sex.

For yr info, I had quit SG several years ago, I'd been living in China most of this period, with some time spent in Thailand, HongKong, Taiwan, Europe & Australia too. The only period I ate outside was when I was with my ex in China. That time, I was travelling extensively (for work), travelling 3 cities per week (all travel by plane!), within China. I was away from her for several weeks, work was quite hectic, I have my physiological needs & she's not beside me, so I patronised WLs lor.

When I knew I'll be staying in a city long enuf, or my schedule stable enuf for her to come over to be beside me, I let her join me. The 1st time was when she travelled 23 hours by train, from her hometown in Hubei province to Guangzhou. She checked my condom "inventory", and knew I used some. She immediately kicked-up a very big fuss. I told her I know I shouldn't do that, but I just needed to "release" but she wasn't beside me. Would she rather I pay a WL (commercial / transactional bonk), or get involved in an affair (non-monetary but more feelings attached) ? After a few hours, she managed to cool down, forgave me and said she knew she can't control me, especially when she's not beside me. Only thing I must promise her is that I must use caps when bonking other gals (I bonk her with cap too!). Would SG gals be so magnanimous?

Talk about obligation, I was the breadwinner, not only to her, but indirectly her family too. Besides financial support, I also made her & her family proud in front of their relatives & friends, in terms of socialising, they gained lotsa "face" (face is damn bloody important in China). I never ill-treated her in anyway, in fact, making her happy as often as possible. Whenever she's happy, seeing her happy face, I'm happy too. When she discovered the low-count of my condoms, I even apologised to her! Never in any way, disrespect to her nor her family.

I wouldn't regard it as my "right" to eat outside just because I'm the breadwinner. Frankly, when she was with me, she really bonked me dry (more than 10 shots a week!), some times (or periods), I just wish / needed a break from sex for the next few days! So I don't need to eat outside when she's beside me. In fact, I was over-fed, too much sex!!!

Some time ago, a chat with an Israeli guy, he also said that having sex with husband is the wife's duty, how can a wife refuse, unless she's sick or having her period? But well, if this is said to SG gals, the reply is likely, this "duty" is not legislated, or no law saying a wife cannot reject / refuse sex to husband for whatever reason(s).

Not to mention, it's Asian culture that a wife's duty is to "serve" her husband and bear children for him.

[old_yet_horny]

IMO.. Men's genes are engineered in such a way that we have the tendency/pre-historic "habit" to spread our "offsprings" around...

This is since "Jurassic" era... 1 caveman can have many many so called partners... and this kind of genes have been passed down to us till now..

So dun blame men for being so...Blame it on nature..Kekekeke..

[Xena]

This has fm the past been out of necessity, since women need to carry a baby for 9 mths b4 giving birth, so naturally men get fulfilment fm other women. So it has been like that and has now been institutionalised ...

[leonard87]

i am not a married man..but to me a married guy shouldnt betray his own wife..shouldnt betray the sacerd laws of marriage..recently i did found out my dad like been visitng prc..becoz at nite i been checking his handphone..and found already 3 evidence..if i find more i will confront him with my elder brother..and if he still denys it i will bring him to the court and sue him for adultery...

[loveShavedpussy]

Guys look for pros/flings outside is probably their wife/gf cant satisfy them sexually

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by leonard87

i am not a married man..but to me a married guy shouldnt betray his own wife..shouldnt betray the sacerd laws of marriage..recently i did found out my dad like been visitng prc..becoz at nite i been checking his handphone..and found already 3 evidence..if i find more i will confront him with my elder brother..and if he still denys it i will bring him to the court and sue him for adultery...

Ya, very holy, very law-abiding!

So u wanna betray yr own father? Sue him in court, have u considered yr Mum's, and other family members' / relatives' feelings? Washing dirty-linen in public, son exposing your own father? U feel happy when your parents' marriage breaks-up?

I wonder what u have been fed. I don't even really see ang mohs doing that!!!

[WOOHOO]

Originally Posted by leonard87

i am not a married man..but to me a married guy shouldnt betray his own wife..shouldnt betray the sacerd laws of marriage..recently i did found out my dad like been visitng prc..becoz at nite i been checking his handphone..and found already 3 evidence..if i find more i will confront him with my elder brother..and if he still denys it i will bring him to the court and sue him for adultery...

meaning of adultery=Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse.

You better understand what this word means before you use it. Many married men do not need sex from these PRC it's all about company and communication, attention and respect!! The way of being treated that is so diverse from being treated at home!! Bringing your father to the firing squad before even knowing what's going on?? If you really do so just remember that you yourself will reach his age one day or may even receive the same kind of treatment he may have gotten from your future wife ya!! Dun come crying at this forum when that happens!!

[84gunner]

Originally Posted by Xena

This has fm the past been out of necessity, since women need to carry a baby for 9 mths b4 giving birth, so naturally men get fulfilment fm other women. So it has been like that and has now been institutionalised ...

Wife's pregnancy may only be 1 of the reasons.

My gf's (from Ha'erBin in China) cousin, 1 week before her wedding, even asked me to organise the Bachelor's Party for her then husband-to-be (a Shanghainese), go have fun in KTV (in China)! Would SG gals be so magnanimous?

The gals' families, ie, my gf & her cousins', are quite rich & influential. When I went on holiday with her families while my gf is away in Canada, her uncles even bring me go visit WLs!!! Their theory is simple: men have this physical needs, if yr gal / woman is not beside u, especially because of her work (women's priority & duty to family comes 1st), then go WL. Don't get emotionally involved, just a transaction to fulfill physical needs only.

When some of my European associates were shuttling between Europe & China/Taiwan regularly, my gf, her cousin & the local gals were also joking, I should bring him go WL, "try the local products!" When I told the gals these ang mohs' wives are giving birth soon, they're too excited about expecting the babies to think about sex, these gals reply to me, "all the more they need to release! They must have pent it up there for a long time oredi!!!"

But of course, the bottom line is, after going to WL, don't ever go proudly declare to yr gal / woman that u did that. It's totally showing no respect to her, in fact, insulting her!!! If u can't bonk / "feed" her because u went to WL, then it's your fault. When it comes to bonking, the gal / woman at home should have 1st priority.

[vince_kid]

bro it simple ( diff calling which men loves to hear )