I have promised Bro Warbird that I will share an insight when I returned to Singapore and here is me delivering on this promise.
Please kindly note that I am currently am NOT a patron for a BY and that my last BY was more than five years ago. This alone should serve as a caveat that whatever advice I dispense here may not necessarily be salient or have sufficient recency to be of use to you here. The world of BY, like a lot of social phenomenon, evolves and changes while still operating on certain core fundamentals.
Talking about core fundamentals, I shall talk elaborate about one important aspect here in this post: The identification of a prospective BY (in a KTV setting).
A KTV setting, ipso facto, advantages you at the outset and frames the relationship dynamics that is quite analogous to a BY. A prospective BY has to put on her best behavior, present her best appearance, tolerate your idiosyncrasy – all for the almighty dollar.
I would presume here that you would already know the difference between a wife, girl friend(s) and BY(s) by now so I shall not delve much into this except to underscore the fact that a BY’s time and energy “must” revolve around you. For a price! .... mostly monetary!
As an analogy, you are like the sun, giving life sustenance to the BY’s earth. Without you, there is no life (as we know it) in the BY’s world.
(BTW, it’s a sex forum, so do not start talking about planetary microbial life, panspermia etc here in this thread. I am not a Michio Kaku or Carl Sagan!).
To get a person to organize her life around you takes a certain personality type. It’s really YOUR choice what behavior turns you on, it may even be a “dominatrix” (in this case, it’s only apparent power i.e. facade). The key to it, is that with a snap of finger, you can assert your demands onto a BY and she has to submit to it.
For me, I therefore prefer to find a personality with a predisposition to OBEDIENCE in all my BY relationships. You may tame a wild horse or find one that has a tendency to be domesticated. Both can be championship racehorse thoroughbreds. Do NOT equate feral and wild as being more passionate and more physically robust to deliver on sensual pleasure. An OBEDIENT personality can take on behavior that is wilder, more spontaneously passionate than a wild one. Just trust me on this one ……
Now that I have provided a conceptual framework, let’s delve into the nuts and bolts: The praxis itself on how to identify an OBEDIENT personality.
(To be continued as I got to run an errand …… but here is a “teaser” for my next posting on identification of an Obedient personality)
“One favourite modus operandi of mine is to take your prospective BY to place where she is not familiar with the food.
It’s good that a prospective BY possess an attitude of openness and receptivity to trying out new things. Not will this allow you to introduce sexual fetishes down the line, its also a gradual way to ease a girl who is a neophyte and “virgin” to the world of BY.
As a suggestion, know that there are still many China Girls who eschew “raw” taste of sashimi or can’t take the aroma or “strong” taste of curry. Once you persuade a prospective open minded BY to enjoin you for a meal whereby she is not familiar with the food, it’s actually good that your prospective BY do NOT like the food served.
You can now show your “displeasure” on her attitude and “force’ her to have an some additional bites and serving. This is the part whereby you have to observe her body language very carefully. If she is insistent that she does not like the food and that no amount of “persuasion” can make her eat any additional food, she does NOT possess an obedient personality.
If however, she forces herself to eat more of the food that she finds distasteful to her palate, she just puts another proverbial “tick in the box” in the OBEDIENT personality test.”
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Originally Posted by warbird
Bro Justime,
Thanks so much for ur insightful n witty post. You're still -a true master of BY.
Your "obedient personality test" is brilliant!
In fact, this is also one of many tests that can be used to qualify a prospective legal wife.
I invite u to contribute regularly to this thread if you hv the time.
Hope that you could join one of my outings soon.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB
I was reading these few posts just now and found them very interesting. Bro Justime is a master class.
This statement was clear and tell the whole truth.
"I would presume here that you would already know the difference between a wife, girl friend(s) and BY(s) by now so I shall not delve much into this except to underscore the fact that a BY’s time and energy “must” revolve around you. For a price! .... mostly monetary! "
If for me I also like to have a obedient gal but my wild side will tell me to go for a wildhorse gal.
Please keep up your posts and I shall contribute whenever possible.
Good morning to all samsters,
I like to express my sincere gratitude for all your posts, sharing of experiences, insights, and support of this thread.
I'm leaving for the Gotham City airport later today and will arrive in SG this weekend.
Due to heavy workload and commitments in SG, I may not be able to reply to all the wonderful posts immediately. I shall do my best.
Yeah, all men should aspire to be a PRESTIGIOUS MAN. Self-assured, tough-minded, assertive but easy going, kind and very comfortable in his own skin. And developing a skill that brings value to society...
A prestigious man brings value to society and is a giver. He will leave the world better than he found it.
Do u know what are the four most dangerous words in cheonging, BY-ing and, in fact, in EVERY man-woman RS?
This (my) girl is different.
No, she is NOT! NOT to me n billions of other men. It's a pure illusion in the mind of the hapless man who got deeply KC-ed.
So thought the "Sexiest Man Alive" Johnny Depp about his wife Amber Heard, a bisexual golddigger. I assume that King Fuchai must hv thought Xi Shi was somehow mysteriously different from all his other concubines. Billions of men in human history also thought their women were somehow unique, yeah?
But YOUR girl, no matter how beautiful, sexy n perfect YOU think she is now, will get old, ugly, sick n die. Her beauty n uniqueness are temporary n illusional, at best.
I'm a member of a wechat grp of KTV gals n hoes. There are 498 members. I use a female ID to get in. Why? Because “知彼知己, 百战不殆"
Simple deduction tells me that almost ALL PRC gals who come to work in the nite scene in SG hv previously worked in brothels, saunas, KTVs, private clubs/hotels or as 141 gals in China/HK/Macau and elsewhere.
The difference when they come here? They are older n uglier now. Oh, there is another difference.
(From post #4342 "Picking up KTV gals outside KTVs")
The value of their pussies would shoot up 300-1,000 %. Even more if they get BY-ed haha. Most of them would play hard to get in SG. Imagine a hoe turning into a nun right after landing at Changi haha!!
Therefore, we must put everything into perspective and don't treat these gals as if they were virgin nuns, ok?
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB
I enjoyed the post above and many more in your prestigious thread.
This (my) girl is different.
The above statement I heard countless times from my close friend.
But YOUR girl, no matter how beautiful, sexy n perfect YOU think she is now, will get old, ugly, sick n die. Her beauty n uniqueness are temporary n illusional, at best.
This statement above is also true. All gals get old and those working night life aged doubly fast.
The value of pussies increased the moment land in Changi airport. Wonderall these gals think big with their stupid pussies.
You’re sitting at the bar when you see her looking at you.
She’s smoking hot and totally your type…
… and she’s smiling and making eye contact over her pink girly drink.
You’re thinking about going over there and talking to her…
And that’s when the voices start.
What if I screw this up?
What if I run out of things to say and look like a dumbass?
What if she’s an ice cold bitch and humiliates me in front of everyone?
What if everyone sees me get rejected and I get laughed out of the room?
Look, man.
Let me ask you a serious question…
What action do you take in that moment?
Do you go for it, or do you back down?
Do you plow through your mental barriers and emerge victorious and confident on the other side?
Or do you let your fear of rejection keep your ass glued to that stool at the bar…
… and quickly order another drink so you can pretend like you didn’t just wuss out?
Look, if you fall in that second category, I totally get it, I really do.
But you don’t plan on staying that way, right?
Of course not. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here reading this right now.
Well, the cold, hard truth is…
When you make the bold decision to step off that comfortable bar stool and approach the women you really want…
Yes, you will get rejected from time to time.
But that’s okay!
You just need to know how to handle it, so it doesn’t ruin your mood and wreck your chances with every other girl.
So let me give you some rock-solid advice that I wish I would have known when I was in your shoes.
Here are 3 things you must do if you get rejected:
1 - Take the high road. Even if she’s being a huge bitch…
Don’t react to her. Be BETTER than that.
She doesn’t even know you - she’s just emotionally reacting.
It may not even have anything to do with you - you can’t know or control that.
A confident guy would never allow himself to get flustered or thrown off by things he can’t control.
2 - Smile. Even if you’re seething mad on the inside…
Because no one else knows that you just got rejected...
UNLESS you show it on your face.
Then it’s obvious, and every other girl who sees that will probably reject you too.
3 - Move on immediately. Find another girl, a friend, a bartender… literally anyone else to talk to.
The last thing you want is to stand around by yourself, feeling butt-hurt because some random girl who knew you for 1 minute didn’t like you…
It does nothing for your confidence, and it makes you less attractive to every other girl.
So make like Taylor Swift and shake, shake, shake it off, bro.
Make sense?
You can totally see yourself doing that, can’t you?
You’re goddamn right you can.
And now nothing can stop you.
Get out there and make it happen this weekend.
Rooting for you,
- Mike Wright
A prestigious badass gentleman would feel sorry for the hot gal because it's her BIG Loss.
BTW, I hv an outing to Lido for SH today and coming Monday. Pls see my previous posts for terms n estimated damage. Confirm asap.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB
You have a very good and popular thread here.
I wanted to comment above. Many of us guys will feel that we can never ask for sate with beautiful hot gals. In our mind we wanted to ask but chicken out.
The reality was the gal also trying to choose us. So is the same game. If she is attached then her bf will be around and sureno guys will try to ask for date.
A friend of mine who may have read your thread or some books have plenty of ways to ask for date. One was meet the gal when she go toilet. Or slip a pc of paper in her hands when her bf not around.
It is true that often the gal loss if she did not choose you.
Hope to read more of your masterpiece here.
So jeep the up with the effort of updating this thread.