Safe to travel alone with PRC GF back to China?

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Everytime you bluff yourself to adopt the wait n see attitude, you will just slide deeper n deeper.......look at it this way, like i and many bros here mentioned...the stuff that's emerging are all too familiar liao......
If you contunue this, you may reach a point of no return and then fade away in to a very dark dark corner......
You will need support but who's gonna do that afterall, you had your chance...like everyone is stretching their hand out to you to prevent you from drowning, but you just slap all the hands n slowly but surely....drown.....aint worth it.......
If that day does come, which i am sure everyone here can see it already, and you start coming for people to feel pity and encourage you, trust me, you'll be flamed like no tmr cos everyone and some even dare to pen their experiences to you.....but you chose to look to lala land instead....but i'm sure you cant be that dumb by then cos i'm sure you will never have the face to come back as your true self anymore.....

My mentality now is to grasp on to any hope of maintaining this relationship.

I was harshly scolded by a fr who is a seasoned cheongster telling me that my mentality now is like those who are ordering a bride from overseas.

For my case I am behaving in such a way like like someone who pays for a bride and still waiting in vain for the bride to come.....

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

My mentality now is to grasp on to any hope of maintaining this relationship.

I was harshly scolded by a fr who is a seasoned cheongster telling me that my mentality now is like those who are ordering a bride from overseas.

For my case I am behaving in such a way like like someone who pays for a bride and still waiting in vain for the bride to come.....

Well, since that's your decision, wish you all the best in your blissful marriage.....
There's 2 kinds of hope in life....
Realistic hope.......may not happen
Fat Hope.......Will never happen
Good luck

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by maninsinsha

So for bros here, do not think that just because they are not WLs, you are in safe hands.

Bro, nice sharing. So after all, would you say that she's after your money?

I read much about the women charter thingy here, just curious what's your damage like?
It's good that you've protected your asset before the marriage, read something about it from sam leong here too.

[Swordsman]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

I know all bros here had my welfare at heart but I am too wounded up in my little hole of mine.

I need time to see the bigger picture...

Bro get out while you still can at least spare your wallet the pain! To see bigger picture look to your finances.

[maninsinsha]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Bro, nice sharing. So after all, would you say that she's after your money?

I read much about the women charter thingy here, just curious what's your damage like?
It's good that you've protected your asset before the marriage, read something about it from sam leong here too.

Bro, in answering your 1st question, YES!!!! That's for sure. What I'm sharing here is that it doesn't mean that if she doesn't asked money from you initially, she won't be asking you for it later. What you might have lost in the beginning is probably peanuts comparing to what you might lose later on in your relationship.

My damage is an apartment in China which was bought when we first moved to China and some cash which she took from me. All in about S$150k but that was when she was still with me.

As for after I decided to pull the plug, nothing.... I did not pay a single cent for alimony either. I have planned well and I have a good lawyer who help me in diverting my money and assets before I throw her the paper.

[Heart Break Kid]

After reading last few pages ..I had to conclude that life is really hard for we S'pore men.

(1) Regardless of WL or not ..give you heartbreak

(2) PRC girls or S'pore girls.. give headache

(3) Got money or no money..also problem

[maninsinsha]

Originally Posted by Heart Break Kid

After reading last few pages ..I had to conclude that life is really hard for we S'pore men.

(1) Regardless of WL or not ..give you heartbreak

(2) PRC girls or S'pore girls.. give headache

(3) Got money or no money..also problem

Hahaha... There's a saying which goes like, "Women, you can't live with them, you can't live without them."

[Heart Break Kid]

Originally Posted by maninsinsha

Hahaha... There's a saying which goes like, "Women, you can't live with them, you can't live without them."

True ..but what I read is there isn't any women is worthwhile for us to go for it

We have to wary here wary there ..at all times our heart cannot eased

[zenarc]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

My mentality now is to grasp on to any hope of maintaining this relationship.

I was harshly scolded by a fr who is a seasoned cheongster telling me that my mentality now is like those who are ordering a bride from overseas.

For my case I am behaving in such a way like like someone who pays for a bride and still waiting in vain for the bride to come.....

Bro,

ppl said "LOVE IS BLIND", but we still need to open both eyes to see the realistic of marriage. If $$ is the fact of love then you have to think hard.
Marriage need $$$...
Divorce also need $$$ + long term maintence if have children...

If you can grasp, i believe u also can release...

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by zenarc

Bro,

ppl said "LOVE IS BLIND", but we still need to open both eyes to see the realistic of marriage. If $$ is the fact of love then you have to think hard.
Marriage need $$$...
Divorce also need $$$ + long term maintence if have children...

If you can grasp, i believe u also can release...

I am thinking about marriage with her and she also very keen in the marriage things with me also.

Well am doing long term planning for marriage on top of the small debt issues I am facing now.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

I am thinking about marriage with her and she also very keen in the marriage things with me also.

Well am doing long term planning for marriage on top of the small debt issues I am facing now.

May the heavens bless you.

Good luck and go spend your time more constructively away from SBF...since our advise seem to have no effect on you... u walk your own path so enjoy where that leads you too.

Live hard, no regrets.

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

3 incidents that led me to the ultimate plot to get even with her....

Am always looking forward to reading your detailed first-hand account of your relationship with China MM...Really gives me a different perspective view of them...

Up u my 3 humble points.


Cheers,
Techno

[shanshen]

Dear Bro DO_YOU_BJ ,

Read through yr life experience with great interest. Although my life isnt that glamorous as yours, (sigh!) u r de man, having 3 mistress and each knowing each other.

We all knows that tellilng white lies to get out of awkard situation is a way of life and everyone uses it. Those WL or KTV gals are here to money and once they made enough, the intelligent one knows how to invest their savings by buying houses back home or setting up retails shops. Some just go for easy money and think of landing a guy to feed them.

Given your status and KC experience, I wonder why u want to put her through a test by lying u r broke and allowing her go back to her old trade, knowing that as a KTV gal, she needs to sell her bodies to made lots of monies to keep up her previous life style. Just depending on tips along will not be able to feed her. You have unknowing put her in a state of unsecure mentality. Which honest man wants to live off a gals immoral earning?
This is normal and if I am a WL and my man is living of my immoral earnings, and if one comes along who is willing to take care of me..why not give it a try?

since u hve set up that mentality in her, she is feeling insecure as she thought u are broke and she would like to think of whether she has a future with you... so u convenient let her get back to a situation where she has to entertain many guys at nite and as a seasoned cheongster, we know that when one falls into the KC trap and the gal find him as good enough fish to bait, she goes for it, especially if that guy is showering her with love and care and maybe better than you leh (either being single or married with no mistress). That may sway her decision to go with that guy instead for a better future..PRC girls are very materialistic..

Bro, just my view and expressing out my thoughts the way i read into it.
Me too have similar short term relationship with PRC gals before but I am the one who always take the iniitiative to break up after i get tired of it. me hurt? to say no is a lie, yes i do feel miserable initially but it goes away in a matter of weeks.. hve not experience your level of miserable feelings yet..guess my feeling are not as deep as your involvement as I am into it just for the fun of it and get some real life experience of it.

No offence Bro, just speaking from my heart

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

May the heavens bless you.

Good luck and go spend your time more constructively away from SBF...since our advise seem to have no effect on you... u walk your own path so enjoy where that leads you too.

Live hard, no regrets.

Bro don't be mistaken I am turning all yr advices given by u & all bros here to deaf ears.

If there is any support & advices given by bros here I would have a mental breakdown already as I couldn't find a solution to my problems.

At least for now to all you all I am walking a path to doom, at least with all yr advices if it doesn't work out in the end for me the long road to recovery wouldn't be that hard & long.

I think the advice given by most bros are the same .... wanna play with fire, must be able to get burnt as the chances of getting burnt is damn high ... anyway, to each his own, I sincerely also wish you well and get what you want ..