Safe to travel alone with PRC GF back to China?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Your 2nd para contradicts your 1st

sorry for sound like a whining puppy, I am really not keen in walking down towards the stage of testing her out at this time as i am afraid to find out things that I am not supposed to find and caused my dream to shatter.This is called living in lala land and also lying to yourself

But i do understand the fact I have to test her out in one way or other to see if she willing to stick with me for the long run in better or worse....This is called total denial

[rebeldevil]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

sorry for sound like a whining puppy, I am really not keen in walking down towards the stage of testing her out at this time as i am afraid to find out things that I am not supposed to find and caused my dream to shatter.

But i do understand the fact I have to test her out in one way or other to see if she willing to stick with me for the long run in better or worse....

Bro u r seriously deluding urself man. U r preferring 2 play tis charade n living in a dream then face reality n its consequences. D longer u drag, d emotional scars r jus gonna b deeper. I'd hate 2 bear witness 2 ur descend in 2 oblivion or worst another statistic.

U need 2 take ur mind off her 2 clear ur head so u can think logically. Tell u wat man, if u're free tis wkend, can pm me 4 kopi or we go cheong ktv 2gether...

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Your 2nd para contradicts your 1st

sorry for sound like a whining puppy, I am really not keen in walking down towards the stage of testing her out at this time as i am afraid to find out things that I am not supposed to find and caused my dream to shatter.This is called living in lala land and also lying to yourself

But i do understand the fact I have to test her out in one way or other to see if she willing to stick with me for the long run in better or worse....This is called total denial

Guess at this point I am in totally denial... sad..

[colins]

To be frank, you are just feeling insecure. Probably dun want to get betrayed for the emotions you put in. Put it this way, sooner or later, its gonna happen this way (she leaves you) if you continue to torture yourself.

One question though, you are feeling insecure becos of her previous work in GL?

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by rebeldevil

Bro u r seriously deluding urself man. U r preferring 2 play tis charade n living in a dream then face reality n its consequences. D longer u drag, d emotional scars r jus gonna b deeper. I'd hate 2 bear witness 2 ur descend in 2 oblivion or worst another statistic.

U need 2 take ur mind off her 2 clear ur head so u can think logically. Tell u wat man, if u're free tis wkend, can pm me 4 kopi or we go cheong ktv 2gether...

thanks for yr offer bro will PM you if I am free.

BTW I also no mood to go anywhere also, can't pick myself up to do anything... machap like a zombie.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by colins

To be frank, you are just feeling insecure. Probably dun want to get betrayed for the emotions you put in. Put it this way, sooner or later, its gonna happen this way (she leaves you) if you continue to torture yourself.

One question though, you are feeling insecure becos of her previous work in GL?

yup bro that is one of the main reason. That y i feel so insecure and worst of it i am no in control of this relationship to a point sometime when I am alone i become paranoid is she doing something funny to a extend i start shivering non-stop.

Something mentally very wrong with me....

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

yup bro that is one of the main reason. That y i feel so insecure and worst of it i am no in control of this relationship to a point sometime when I am alone i become paranoid is she doing something funny to a extend i start shivering non-stop.

Something mentally very wrong with me....

Bro, from your profile, i can roughly guess you may belong to the more introvert type?
Even when i was involved, i was still cheonging, banging and look at my outcome......
You like life, soul, spirit & energy, every ounce all give her liao...that's very wrong.....
The bro who jio u kopi.....well go for it......from what you say, i think alot of people here can see, you need to get a life!
Go out, chill, la kopi, sian char bor...TN....can't be hogging tots of her 24/7

Just curious.....how many gals have you been invloved with all your life?
Hey, she's there, hv you ever tot how she's living hers now? I think you also know not as STRESSED & INSECURE as you rite.......so.....

[DO_YOU_BJ]

To the bro RD for upping me & saying i got balls to telling my story...tks
Well, one's demise can be someone's fortune
I belong to those who dare to do dare to say.....no need to be ashamed.....
I know many have read, i've got PMs from many bro's who actually commented that by reading my story, many are actually in the same situation too, some current, some went through it and so on........
If telling my story can help people look and wake up a little more...hey I've done my part.......

Well, if someone is drowning, i will stretch my hand out for them to hold...but if they refuse & drown, i've still done merit...agree????

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Guess at this point I am in totally denial... sad..

Azzarro, i feel sad for you.
Really wholeheartedly feel for you.
My closest 2 mates was wif me all the while talking to me trying to pull me out but i was in your current state............then
I feel i've done all that i can...online...wish you all the best.....

Just remember this, she came here for a better life.....is she can drop to rags for you...then she wouldnt have to come here in the 1st place......all the best.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Bro, from your profile, i can roughly guess you may belong to the more introvert type?
Even when i was involved, i was still cheonging, banging and look at my outcome......
You like life, soul, spirit & energy, every ounce all give her liao...that's very wrong.....
The bro who jio u kopi.....well go for it......from what you say, i think alot of people here can see, you need to get a life!
Go out, chill, la kopi, sian char bor...TN....can't be hogging tots of her 24/7

Just curious.....how many gals have you been invloved with all your life?
Hey, she's there, hv you ever tot how she's living hers now? I think you also know not as STRESSED & INSECURE as you rite.......so.....

Wish I can snap out of it also... for sure she is not stressed nor insecure in fact think she is happy back there.

Don't know why got a nagging feeling I might not have a chance to see her again.

Every few days she would throw like the kind of jealous small temper to me over the phone.

Keeping asking me am I still going to GL in a jealous way say if I want to go I can go she can no nothing to stop me, keeping saying that Singaporean men cannot be trusted even if they have a wife they will go out fool around....

Don't know if it is a sign that she feeling a bit insecure about me also in my sick head I would very much like to think that.

Anway she is the 3th girl I am serious about but she is the 1st that I am willing to talk about marriage with her openly. With my past 2 GFs when they talk about marriage i would avoid it like a plague....

Well for this month not really able to enjoy what i do in the past due to limited money resources even may have to decline good bro's in SB nice offers of jioing me go lim kopi & cheong KTV.

Been spenting quite a amt on her using cash & credit cards....

Yup do call me a willing sucker as I spent all this on her willing....

that Y sometime I do wonder she really love me as a person or my ability to give her a mininium sense of finaical security?

[colins]

Maybe this is why we should never fall in love with WL. Can see your pain. Keep on digging the cow's horn, so to say.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Wish I can snap out of it also... for sure she is not stressed nor insecure in fact think she is happy back there.Of cos she is, she earned some money & the potential of purse strings here she can rely on, who wont be!

Don't know why got a nagging feeling I might not have a chance to see her again.This is called insecure....anyway, what's yours will be yours..wat isnt...how you force also wont last

Every few days she would throw like the kind of jealous small temper to me over the phone.

Keeping asking me am I still going to GL in a jealous way say if I want to go I can go she can no nothing to stop me, keeping saying that Singaporean men cannot be trusted even if they have a wife they will go out fool around....Tell her go F spider...at least Singapore men weekend family day...farking chinamen where got time family day...24/7/365 cheong

Don't know if it is a sign that she feeling a bit insecure about me also in my sick head I would very much like to think that.Its not insecure dude, this is call reverse psychology or mind farking you......if i were you, i'll tell her i lonely, i need you not here then i how???? My didi hungry, i dun like diy then how.......reverse back la.....cant always be giving....sometime must take take abit...aka hang up and sell

Anway she is the 3th girl I am serious about but she is the 1st that I am willing to talk about marriage with her openly. With my past 2 GFs when they talk about marriage i would avoid it like a plague....

Well for this month not really able to enjoy what i do in the past due to money not enough...

Been spenting quite a amt on her using cash & credit cards....This is the 1st pot hole you are seeing....suggest u start relooking at wat you want & where you want to be when you reach 40...........after you see yourself, then see how you can add any other people in

[aczeta76]

Bro TS..

Never live beyond your means... I am also salary earner and though I earn a fair bit more than you, I nvr go into debt.. MY GF also know tat my acct will grow by at least 30-40% of my take home pay

So tt why she knows I can afford to take care of us. She always complains that I eat cheap food (Cai Fan) though and ask me not to save on food else cannot give her satisfaction

I wish you better luck and clearer thoughts. Rem, if u go into debts, all including her and your family will suffer.

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Bro TS..

Never live beyond your means... I am also salary earner and though I earn a fair bit more than you, I nvr go into debt.. MY GF also know tat my acct will grow by at least 30-40% of my take home pay

So tt why she knows I can afford to take care of us. She always complains that I eat cheap food (Cai Fan) though and ask me not to save on food else cannot give her satisfaction

I wish you better luck and clearer thoughts. Rem, if u go into debts, all including her and your family will suffer.

Yes I don't intend also to go in debt, no point bringing her over while in debt.

Cannot fulfill the promise of taking care of her don't think it is fair to bring her over like that.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Yes I don't intend also to go in debt, no point bringing her over while in debt.

Cannot fulfill the promise of taking care of her don't think it is fair to bring her over like that.

Erhh... but u are getting into debt mah..

There is NO FAIRNESS in the world. Choices are made by man.

Also, try to lose some weight. 90KG not very healthy

It is your life so live it your way... we can only share but ultimately, u make the choice