Safe to travel alone with PRC GF back to China?

[colins]

Relak a little bro aczeta, once you go into a situation where, you perceive that she need you more than you need her (like what you illustrated that you are not there for her if she got into trouble) when in reality it is you who need her more than she does (which is apparent to me), this will give her lots of pressure to respond to you (in ways expected by you) and keep up with you on your level of commitment.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by colins

Relak a little bro aczeta, once you go into a situation where, you perceive that she need you more than you need her (like what you illustrated that you are not there for her if she got into trouble) when in reality it is you who need her more than she does (which is apparent to me), this will give her lots of pressure to respond to you (in ways expected by you) and keep up with you on your level of commitment.

Ya.. bro.. thanks. I know, fever got me a little weepy-wishy

Looking forward to my trip to Zhu Hai to see her next week so it will be a restful week for me from now till then

[aczeta76]

Hmmm...

Wat happen to TS's trip huh?

For me, fate decree I cannot go, down with serious throat infection and was on MC for 2 weeks. Juz got back to work today so I think I better clear my workload, rest and get well before I go see her.

No point going there when I am a sick bird... now hoping I can change my Air ticket for one in Aug or later..

haiz....

[colins]

Bro aczeta, I thought you're already there. Dun think so much la, draining your health away.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by colins

Bro aczeta, I thought you're already there. Dun think so much la, draining your health away.

Wat to do... suppose to be last weekend. Fever so call to change date to this thurs then still haven't recovered so no choice need to postpone again loh...

I am not too worried for her as she is at hometown in Hunan now.. so see how and when I can squeeze time to see her lah.

After this incident, I feel less upbeat about the viability of our long distance r/s since none of us can be with each other when in need...But I tink I will still visit her in another month or so .. perhaps go on a trip to another province with her.

[colins]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Wat to do... suppose to be last weekend. Fever so call to change date to this thurs then still haven't recovered so no choice need to postpone again loh...

I am not too worried for her as she is at hometown in Hunan now.. so see how and when I can squeeze time to see her lah.

After this incident, I feel less upbeat about the viability of our long distance r/s since none of us can be with each other when in need...But I tink I will still visit her in another month or so .. perhaps go on a trip to another province with her.

Build up your health first bro, if you intend to travel. Cos the types of virus is quite different in China compared to Singapore, if you go there fragile and weak, the infection can take weeks to cure.

On your long distance r/s, this is the natural way a lot of relationship ends. Its like the roller coaster no longer goes up and down and suddenly it doesn't feel like a roller coaster ride anymore, and you dun even know in the end what to call it. When distance comes in, a lot of emotions become one-sided.

Like to share this with you, dunnoe whether it'll help you but it helped me. Its from "Romeo & Juliet" by Dire Straits.

I can't do the talks, like the talks on the TV
And I can't do a love song, like the way it's meant to be
I can't do everything, but I'd do anything for you
I can't do anything except be in love with you

And all I do is miss you and the way we used to be
All I do is keep the beat and bad company
All I do is kiss you through the bars of a rhyme
Juliet I'd do the stars with you any time

[azzaro23]

Guys I am back from my trip. Will write a detailed account on what I did over there just to share with all the bros here once i am free.

By the way seek advice on 2 issues, is it really that difficult & cost a lot of money for my GF to get a visa to come to Singapore? From the way she told me is look diffcult.

Also she quote that during Olympics, visas issuing the China govt control until very tight. Any truth to that?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Guys I am back from my trip. Will write a detailed account on what I did over there just to share with all the bros here once i am free.

By the way seek advice on 2 issues, is it really that difficult & cost a lot of money for my GF to get a visa to come to Singapore? From the way she told me is look diffcult.

Also she quote that during Olympics, visas issuing the China govt control until very tight. Any truth to that?

Remember this my friend, it costs less than SGD2k for any family in china to live in relative comfort. Anything more is called greed.
If you're a seasoned traveller throughout China, you'll know costs of living there is like in SG 1to1 in terms of expenses.
But if you live on a lavish lifestyle like Paris Hilton, then SGD10k oso not enuff
Why would she want to come to SG again? Earn more money??? From where??? Definately not from you.

I once had a chick from Kabuki called Lili...went back to Fujian with SGD80k close to half a mil RMB! Helped her change the SGD to RMB cos my good pal owns a money changer.....was in close ctc & called me less than 6mths ltr to say she wants to come back here and need $$$$$$$ for visa.
I was likie...WTF??? RMB400k gone in 6mths...you gotta be kidding me!
Told her dun come back if wanna come back dun look for me ever......that was the last time we talked...so I tot hahahaha
Silence till 2mths later, she called me from a SG mobile to tell me she's back.....I asked her where she got the $$$$ from & 1 million and 1 excuses came out.
Ok so I tot FB oso can since now got new chick from Mirage.....one nite called me from Kabuki said drunk cry cry blah blah.....ok so I went to fetch her since i was at Mirage nearby...brought her home in Balestier.....had 1 round and she didn't seem that drunk anymore.....ACTING! Nabei...nvrmind me play along....then sob sob say she dun like this line and wanna be wif me and ask me to take care of her....here we go...ok how??? SGD5k a month can then I dun work just sit my time out here in SG just be wif me...I laff my bolls out then my mirage chick called...she home liao....best part, just across the road....then I told her, go follow the one who lent you the $$$$$$......
Washed up after a free fark....changed cross the road and proceeded to second round.......
Nvr heard from her again!

[lacoruna69]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Guys I am back from my trip. Will write a detailed account on what I did over there just to share with all the bros here once i am free.

Glad to see you back safe and sound. You went ahead despite warnings and advice from all the nice Bros here.
Now you came back one piece and you asked 2 more stupid questions.

It is very obvious you never learn your lesson.........

[otur]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

By the way seek advice on 2 issues, is it really that difficult & cost a lot of money for my GF to get a visa to come to Singapore? From the way she told me is look diffcult.

Also she quote that during Olympics, visas issuing the China govt control until very tight. Any truth to that?

for her to apply a visa on short term social visit to sg, may cos t up to 7000rmb if she go to a china agent. but if u r willing to do it for her, cost $30. go into ICA website n do a detail read up.

the control of visa during olympics is for outside people to enter china, not for china people to come out....

[Heart Break Kid]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Guys I am back from my trip. Will write a detailed account on what I did over there just to share with all the bros here once i am free.

By the way seek advice on 2 issues, is it really that difficult & cost a lot of money for my GF to get a visa to come to Singapore? From the way she told me is look diffcult.

Also she quote that during Olympics, visas issuing the China govt control until very tight. Any truth to that?

Happy to see you back here Shenyang is one of the Olympic cities.

I heard from fengshui master that this year China hit bad luck & Olympics will be a failure ..better don't travel there in August.

Awaiting to hear your FR ..

[Heart Break Kid]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Remember this my friend, it costs less than SGD2k for any family in china to live in relative comfort. Anything more is called greed.
If you're a seasoned traveller throughout China, you'll know costs of living there is like in SG 1to1 in terms of expenses.
But if you live on a lavish lifestyle like Paris Hilton, then SGD10k oso not enuff
Why would she want to come to SG again? Earn more money??? From where??? Definately not from you.

I once had a chick from Kabuki called Lili...went back to Fujian with SGD80k close to half a mil RMB! Helped her change the SGD to RMB cos my good pal owns a money changer.....was in close ctc & called me less than 6mths ltr to say she wants to come back here and need $$$$$$$ for visa.
I was likie...WTF??? RMB400k gone in 6mths...you gotta be kidding me!
Told her dun come back if wanna come back dun look for me ever......that was the last time we talked...so I tot hahahaha
Silence till 2mths later, she called me from a SG mobile to tell me she's back.....I asked her where she got the $$$$ from & 1 million and 1 excuses came out.
Ok so I tot FB oso can since now got new chick from Mirage.....one nite called me from Kabuki said drunk cry cry blah blah.....ok so I went to fetch her since i was at Mirage nearby...brought her home in Balestier.....had 1 round and she didn't seem that drunk anymore.....ACTING! Nabei...nvrmind me play along....then sob sob say she dun like this line and wanna be wif me and ask me to take care of her....here we go...ok how??? SGD5k a month can then I dun work just sit my time out here in SG just be wif me...I laff my bolls out then my mirage chick called...she home liao....best part, just across the road....then I told her, go follow the one who lent you the $$$$$$......
Washed up after a free fark....changed cross the road and proceeded to second round.......
Nvr heard from her again!

Totally agreed ..mi ever encountered something like this before.
That KTV girl asked mi to give SGD $3,000 to bao her as she too lazy work in KTV again.

[alsahaf]

Originally Posted by otur

for her to apply a visa on short term social visit to sg, may cos t up to 7000rmb if she go to a china agent. but if u r willing to do it for her, cost $30. go into ICA website n do a detail read up.

the control of visa during olympics is for outside people to enter china, not for china people to come out....

Ya guys, don't get conned by China girls asking several thousand SGD to get 'visa' to come over here.

If you don't mind being the sponsor (which means you are liable to pay SG Govt for cost of deportation if she gets caught say, in a KTV working), its nearly free. Just go to ICA and check.

Again, its only for GF types. Being the sponsor for someone coming to work in the nightlife scene has the above mentioned risks.

[colins]

Welcome back. From your question, I gather she wants to come over again? She should know how cos she's been here isn't it? If she is shenyang 户口, just need to ask a travel agency to apply the social visit pass for her. They'll just send her passport to Beijing and back. But if she got black mark in Singapore, dun need to apply. The visa restriction is not on local, only for foreigners visiting China, like us.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by lacoruna69

You went ahead despite warnings and advice from all the nice Bros here.
Now you came back one piece and you asked 2 more stupid questions.

It is very obvious you never learn your lesson.........

Can't agree more

And the 2 questions are such common and obvious ones that could only mean one thing. Such a classic.

But good lah, TS, at least you're willing to pen down all your thoughts and share here how it all unfolds. Hopefully, irregardless of how this classic tale will turn out, please continue to FR here on how it developes.

At least this thread can then serve as a good reference for any other bros thinking of traking this beaten path