Do wives refuse to give husband sex because he does not give her allowance?

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by parrotkid

No. She is working and earns $5k a month. She gets to keep all her $. In the end, I have much less savings than her as I pay for most expenses.

Then I suggest you insist on having a joint expense account with her. Both put in equal amounts every month. Parenthood and family are joint responsibilities. Your efforts should reflect it.

She and you can keep a small personal account each for personal living expenses. To avoid quarrelling over small amounts. Try to balance it such that it is fair else one is living in heaven, the other in hell.

I have an additional joint account for joint savings. Whoever puts in more, doesn't matter.

Because our finances are set in this way, we never quarrel over money. In fact, it binds us closer. Shared weight, shared responsibilities, same objectives. In marriage, two become one. Any ideologies that opposes it make the marriage tougher than it needs to be.

[parrotkid]

Originally Posted by Gordonbleu

omg, bro what have you gotton yourself into...
If she is working, than both of you ought to share your family finances not you on the whole family burden.
Starting you both should have opened a joint account, monthly put 1k from each of you. Than settle all the common bills with these accounts eg. Common phone bills, utility bills ....
Man and woman are created equal, so must share responsibility
Good luck bro

She says her friends' husbands also pay for everything in the family but got give allowance.

[parrotkid]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

Then I suggest you insist on having a joint expense account with her. Both put in equal amounts every month. Parenthood and family are joint responsibilities. Your efforts should reflect it.

She and you can keep a small personal account each for personal living expenses. To avoid quarrelling over small amounts. Try to balance it such that it is fair else one is living in heaven, the other in hell.

I have an additional joint account for joint savings. Whoever puts in more, doesn't matter.

Because our finances are set in this way, we never quarrel over money. In fact, it binds us closer. Shared weight, shared responsibilities, same objectives. In marriage, two become one. Any ideologies that opposes it make the marriage tougher than it needs to be.

Her family upbringing and what her friends tell her makes her believe that if a man is unable to support the family by himself then he is a useless husband.
I believe there are many men out there who spoil market for the rest of us. They buy expensive jewellery and bags and shower their gf and wives with luxurious items. Seriously I dunno where they find so much money to do so.

[ol'coyote]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

Then I suggest you insist on having a joint expense account with her. Both put in equal amounts every month. Parenthood and family are joint responsibilities. Your efforts should reflect it.

She and you can keep a small personal account each for personal living expenses. To avoid quarrelling over small amounts. Try to balance it such that it is fair else one is living in heaven, the other in hell.

I have an additional joint account for joint savings. Whoever puts in more, doesn't matter.

Because our finances are set in this way, we never quarrel over money. In fact, it binds us closer. Shared weight, shared responsibilities, same objectives. In marriage, two become one. Any ideologies that opposes it make the marriage tougher than it needs to be.

agree...me too shared costs of household costs...
cos me earning more...household expenses are skewed more to me...
the rest...stashed in personal account...for me romps...
yo TS...better to have a talk wif the wife...

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by parrotkid

Her family upbringing and what her friends tell her makes her believe that if a man is unable to support the family by himself then he is a useless husband.
I believe there are many men out there who spoil market for the rest of us. They buy expensive jewellery and bags and shower their gf and wives with luxurious items. Seriously I dunno where they find so much money to do so.

Bro, best chance to tell her that your family upbringing teaches you that when a wife cannot provide sex, she is a useless wife.

I teach you a way to convince her. Tell her if one of you should pass on, money in personal account is very hard to extract. Need 1 year for straightforward Will or 3-5 years for intestate. Your kids cannot live on sunshine and love. Joint accounts bypasses it. Nowadays airplanes made of paper. Crash easily. Does she want her children to beg on streets for food?

[DemonicSS]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

Bro, best chance to tell her that your family upbringing teaches you that when a wife cannot provide sex, she is a useless wife.

I teach you a way to convince her. Tell her if one of you should pass on, money in personal account is very hard to extract. Need 1 year for straightforward Will or 3-5 years for intestate. Your kids cannot live on sunshine and love. Joint accounts bypasses it. Nowadays airplanes made of paper. Crash easily. Does she want her children to beg on streets for food?

haha, I like the concept of telling her that she is useless if she can't provide sex.

But really, Mojoe has a point too. Also, I feel that you should bring her to the table to talk to her to explain that it shouldn't be a situation where you pay for everything and she holds everything. As she will keep pointing about how others are doing, bring her back to focus that this issue is about you and her and not anyone else and explain that it is simply not fair. Ask her if she is willing to pay for everything and let you keep everything. Be prepared to get lame answers like "because she's the girl". Always remain calm and insist that this is called respecting each other.

Though on a personal note, there are some people who never grow up. I hope yours will get out of this idea soon and fast.

[parrotkid]

Originally Posted by DemonicSS

haha, I like the concept of telling her that she is useless if she can't provide sex.

But really, Mojoe has a point too. Also, I feel that you should bring her to the table to talk to her to explain that it shouldn't be a situation where you pay for everything and she holds everything. As she will keep pointing about how others are doing, bring her back to focus that this issue is about you and her and not anyone else and explain that it is simply not fair. Ask her if she is willing to pay for everything and let you keep everything. Be prepared to get lame answers like "because she's the girl". Always remain calm and insist that this is called respecting each other.

Though on a personal note, there are some people who never grow up. I hope yours will get out of this idea soon and fast.

The problem is that those useless husbands of her friends are the kind that can get manipulated easily by their wives and those wives keep singing praises of their husbands to make me look bad.
I look like I am the odd one out now.

[ol'coyote]

all the more you should stand firm...
the other husbands are probably looking at you...
tinking..."wah...he is man...wish could be like him"...
the other wives could oso be looking at you...
tinking..."wah...he brave...got backbone...wish my husband like him"...
who knoes...u may get lucky...

[MoJoe313]

DemonicSS,
Finally, you are on my side. LoL.

parrotkid,
I like this girls vs boys argument. Every time my wife tells me what other girls her age/level get, I shoot back with what successful men my age/level get too. Just say the word and straight away there will be two topless german blondes in a jacuzzi with me. No less. Thats what successful men my age do. I can keep lao er and lao san outside too. Why just 1 outside? Half her age, twice as pretty. She then diam diam.

Ya, she threw me the allowance issue before. Said her friends get it. So I asked her why she wants to be a paid woman when she can get access to all my money through a joint account? I can pay her like a kept woman and make her feel like a prostitute. I get sex, she gets money. But is that what she really wants? She diam diam. Never asked for an allowance in the last 3 years. LoL.

[DemonicSS]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

DemonicSS,
Finally, you are on my side. LoL.

parrotkid,
I like this girls vs boys argument. Every time my wife tells me what other girls her age/level get, I shoot back with what successful men my age/level get too. Just say the word and straight away there will be two topless german blondes in a jacuzzi with me. No less. Thats what successful men my age do. I can keep lao er and lao san outside too. Why just 1 outside? Half her age, twice as pretty. She then diam diam.

Ya, she threw me the allowance issue before. Said her friends get it. So I asked her why she wants to be a paid woman when she can get access to all my money through a joint account? I can pay her like a kept woman and make her feel like a prostitute. I get sex, she gets money. But is that what she really wants? She diam diam. Never asked for an allowance in the last 3 years. LoL.

.. its just a topic of interest.

But really, it's tough, but you would need to put your foot down when its too much for you to handle. I follow a Buddhist saying - you can only control yourself and not others. Unfortunately "others" also means your wife. Give everything you got and if you do not get what you want to receive, you may end up like that dude that murdered his wife before taking his own. Its sad that his wife was treating him so bad, but sadder still that he let his wife plot his course of life that led to it.

[4getful]

Originally Posted by parrotkid

The problem is that those useless husbands of her friends are the kind that can get manipulated easily by their wives and those wives keep singing praises of their husbands to make me look bad.
I look like I am the odd one out now.

TS no worry, i believe you are not alone. some wives even more jialat, demanding perfect foreplay. If make them not shiok during foreplay, you can forget about the happy ending part. As for allowance, the wife can apply to demand for it even during the marriage. We are living in an era where women peeing on our head n yet we still need to smile. There is a water cistern in the toilet that maybe leaking to flood all these causing many families broken down.

[parrotkid]

So far no brothers have shared how much allowance they give their wife if they give any.

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by parrotkid

So far no brothers have shared how much allowance they give their wife if they give any.

I give about 10-15% of my income to wife as allowance & pay for everything else in the household.

[parrotkid]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

I give about 10-15% of my income to wife as allowance & pay for everything else in the household.

Wow! That means if u earn $5000, u give about $500-$750!

[retsmas]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

I give about 10-15% of my income to wife as allowance & pay for everything else in the household.

Sounds like u do not hv a gd wife. Makes me doubt if she really love u. Sorry for being blunt. Could be her motive not to let u hv extra cash so that u cannot go hj, fj, bbbj etc. Ur wife is smart, maybe got polluted by her so call frens. She could be making up the story that her frens hubby gave much more allowance and more capable just to pressure u to work harder and willing give her money. Why not let her hv a taste of her own medicine... tell her that some of ur colg do not even give a single cent to working wife. For me, I didnt give a single cent to my wife when she was working. I dont even let her knw how much I save.. u hv to be MAN to be happy. Remember life is too short to live miserably...