Hurting someone who is deeply in love with you

[asdfghjkl]

mdx.. i salute u as a real man!

[MachoDevilX]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

mdx.. i salute u as a real man!

Bro,

Maybe I am not a "Man"... Give some comments also leh...
I just offer some thoughts on how I feel and my opinions. I believe you have your own views as well.

[asdfghjkl]

strictly speaking.. i dun have any thoughts of my own.. its really hard to find someone who can come up with original thoughts like urs.. talent..

[secret75]

Had the same kind of experience before, that i had to reject the gal i was with then (let's call her "new gf") to go back to my ex-gf, who is now my wife. no regrets now, but my new gf was then so devastated and it broke my heart.

[euphoria777]

A gal loves me.....very very much.
I loves her too.....but not as much. Had told her honestly about it and suggested to break up, cos she deserved someone better.
She devastated...but refused, and hung on to the relationship.
Everyday, I try to love her more.....but love is a funny thing, if its there, its there, if its not there, its not there.
I dun dare to imagine one day i really have to leave her......

[freedom]

to that creator i was the same as you break up with my ex she asked for it.
what can i do?
nothing all i can do was smoke and drink to relax
for now i trying my best to stand up again and get things going
hoping one day i and her can be again

[Ignite]

After a coupla bad experiences with girls in the past, I've come to the stage where I have decided - "If someone's gotta get hurt in a relationship, I'll make sure it's not me".

Yeah, i know it's a kindda selfish thinking, but fuck it lah, I'm not in this world to please everyone, so must always take care of myself first, then see how............

[Cheri_Popper]

It is part and parcel of life as a Human Being!

I am sure that all of us had experience being rejected by girls whom we really "Love". At the same time, we have also crushed other girls' hearts by rejecting them. This is part of growing up for us!

I used to have a crush on a gal as a teenager, at that time, she was attached. She knows of my interest in her. As she was attached then, we remain as good friends, we went for movies, shopping, fishing, excursions together and even travelled to KL to watch the FAM Cup between S'pore & Kedah back in the early 90's. We even shared & slept on the same bed....but we did not do anything!! We were just great pals!

After a couple of years, she hinted to me that she was ready for a relationship with me as she had broke up with her BF as she realised that I was the one in her heart! But alas, I was already into a serious relationship with another girl. So I told her that we were not meant to be together! I know that I had broken her heart as I could see tears rolling down. That was the first time that I had seen a girl crying infront of me and it so really touching and at the same time, I was so embarressed!!

I invited her to my wedding a couple of years down the road but she never turned up. I guess that she had not forgiven me all these years!

[nirvana]

there is only one gal i love..but.. after 2 wonderful year, i let her go. cose i know she deserve a much more better life..
i love her more than anything else.. but i let her go.
i had her NRIC tattooed on my chest, her IC outside my heart....she live forever deep inside my heart
i wish her all the best..
she is the only and last gal i ever love..

^_^

Once is enough,.....

Thanks Bro Hustler, bro Devilx, I will try la

[alphalaw]

Originally Posted by traummy

seriously....i wish i live in that century...........

Me too wish that. Faithfulness, devotion and other stuffs all STILL existed then. Now... everything's u n ur own bizness, me and my own set of bizness, buay song split, buay gum = zao, it has started to become so unreal, I am finding it harder to breathe.

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

I personally find that knowing the fact that we have hurt someone deeply (emotions and feelings) is more hurtful then someone hurt us. Does anyone has the same view as me?

i felt very emotionally hurt by a ex-gf when she broke off with me years back. not becos i was not faithful.
i wrote numerous letters to the bitch begging for a reunion to no avail, called her on the phone and she lined up sarcastic remarks...

during those dark 2 to 3 months, i ate little, slept with a broken heart every freaking night, worried she might start loving someone else...

i was young. thanks or no thanks to her, i changed.
to coin a phase, " I GOT BETTER ".

from then on..... get hurt? never me.
i just need my carlsberg and marlboro, when i am not bonking.

[ct75]

Mmmm my personal view after observations is we(guys and girl alike) only feel bad that we have hurt someone who loves us when we are down and out.... when we need that someone who will be by our side but we have hurt in the past. When we are with our new other half and in honeymoon period.... I frankly dont think anyone of us will give a hoot about that person... even if we remember... its like errrr oh whatever......

[Tai_zi21]

Well Guess It Time to Share This Little Story Of Mine Le...

Abt The Same Case As Bro Castrol

Well I Like This Ger Alot,During the 8 months i really use all my heart to woo her! In fact we share alot of common interest and will never get bored of each other acc de! But well who know suddenly? a third party come in and worse still it my own friend wooing her! they both know abt it but they kept it from mi!

In the end i tell her pls F off from my life cos seriously i dun need her in my life anymore! may sound very da nan ren zhu yi to maybe some samster here!

Remember the day when i delete off her everything,hp,house no,sms,friendster! some how i know in my heart was crying! in fact for 3 months i make myself drunk everynite just to forget the pain that i had gone through!

But 1 harsh lesson i learn till today... Never Throw in 100% feelings to a Gal liao!

Sorry for my long story!

[KGB_LK]

Originally Posted by Siam_Bu

Bro, I understand that, my problem now is because my wife wan a divorce a year back, dunno wat happen no reason also

bro, had a similar situation yrs back, not married but been together for some yrs, and on the verge of it.

trust me, she wouldn't say divorce for no reason,

for my case, i was appalled too but when i took a back seat and analysed the siuation, I knew i triggered it. I was more concerned with going out with friends then her, paid more attention to other things then her. She was upset and hurt but turned a blind eye because she loved me much more than I love her. She endured all the nonchalant behaviour I displayed. However one incident made her decide to break off with me.

I knew at that point of time that if I fought for her back she would relent, but
I decide to give ourself sometime to cool off. Gave some deep thought and I realise how much she had done for me. Would I want her back, yes but more for selfish reasons, I knew I could not love her the way she loved me, actually
I dont really love her and I hate myself for that.

If I got back together with her, its more to make up for my behavior, compensation and I knew love should not be like that, love is not about making up for something. It would only make matters worse.

Painful as it seems, I decided to let the relationship go, because I don;t deserve her. It hurts me like hell to hurt someone who loves me much more than I love her because love is not like a tangible goods which you can make up for the shortfall with something else.

You owe money u can pay back, but love, you just live with the guilt for all the wrong things you have done and not reciprocated. Its just something which you cant make up for and thats where it truly hurts