When is enough ? When to stop ? Who calls the shots ?

[pokeman71]

Originally Posted by gazelle

Let me share a story of mine.
I have just broken off with my FB who introed me to SBF. He was a very possessive guy. Controlling my freedom. Wanting exclusivity. He did not even like that i meet my guy friends. I ended it as i felt really constricted by him.

After we broke off or ended the sexual relation. He was still constantly messaging me. Calling me all sorts of names. Putting me down. Criticising me. I ignored his messages as i dont want to have any more contact with him. But he still bothers me even though i do not reply. He said that my reason for it to end was not good enough.
So was wondering if there is a correct method of ending a FB relationship?

Bo standard. I see him no up. To me, I had 2lovers, nos1 with me 6yrs plus liao, at first tot sian lian up liao dump her, then how i know, stretch over 6yrs plus, now is more like my mistress liao but no money involve as long as she is concern, only at time i give her.

Nos 2 just know her about 5months, same idea at first, now i dunno liao. If bro out there heart is soft de dun play this game.

That my 2cents of advise.

[gazelle]

Originally Posted by wally888

Find a new FB or BF. Introduce your new one to him......

Originally Posted by Xgenre

2. Tell him you got a new bf or FB. Guys find it easier to accept being replaced than being dumped. You don't need to really have a new bf/FB. You just need him to believe it.

If this really happens. He may go crazy and who knows he may go on an attacking spree. Would not want that to happen...

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Expose him in SBF since he is from SBF. Let other girls know how 'unsteady' he is. He will leave you alone if it means he will find it much harder for him to get future FBs.

I suppose he can get a new nick anytime. So even if his current nick is exposed. It will not be much of a difference. Just hope he will not give the next lady as much trouble.

Originally Posted by Sandunes

I sympathize with your plight, but care to share why do you remain his FB despite breaking up with him? Hoping to patch back with him or something?
cos from your description, his ego is taking over him which will affect and cause you to have a breakdown.

Never thought of going back into a realationship with him. too stressful. Just thought that a FB relationship should be fine. No complications no emotional attachments. But it did not turn out as what i expected.

Originally Posted by zacarie

Know exactly how u feel.

So we are in the same boat. Lol.. What is his status? Single also?

Originally Posted by zacarie

he even wished me luck to find a next better guy/dick than him...

Curious, have you?

[TheHornyDevilz]

As I understand it, legally speaking, it ends when either party says it ends. Anything more and the girl can report the guy for harrassment.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by gazelle

Never thought of going back into a realationship with him. too stressful. Just thought that a FB relationship should be fine. No complications no emotional attachments. But it did not turn out as what i expected.

sometimes, FB (fren w/ benefit) does not seems wat it seems, if one cant handle such 'r/ship' well. i'm one of them tat din handle the situation well when i had my 1st FB.

therefore, till date, i hv nvr had a 2nd FB as probably i'm abit skeptical abt FB type of 'r/ship' as there will more or less some emotional involved. thus, wat i hv said earlier... "it may not seems wat it seems"...

my humble 2 rmb...

[Sandunes]

Originally Posted by gazelle

If this really happens. He may go crazy and who knows he may go on an attacking spree. Would not want that to happen...

if like this, you will be stuck with him for a long time, the decision is up to you.

长痛不如短痛

cos from the looks of it, you are suffering quite a lot liao.

[alphonsus]

Gazelle,

From the perspective of your FB, perhaps its not a case of an ending between FBs but more of a breakup of a bf/gf relationship.

Ego of course play a part. His ego became bigger because you went back to him as FB. He may think you can't do without him.

End of the day, he's a looser and a bully. Dun just ignore him totally. Stand up to him when need to, let him know he does not hold control over you.

A bully is more afraid than what he is portraying to be. Hold your ground by swiping him back when you need to.

[whitegals]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Yea, you're supposed to give two (2) month's notice in writing or fuck two (2) month's worth of sex in-lieu.

Funny sial

[BigBoy2]

Maybe I should share my side of the story..... Please be clear and define what is a FB,......... Both parties should get it right from the start.....

I have a FB now, and due to work and some other commitment, we are not able to meet up frequently......sometimes one or twice in a spread over 2 to 3 months.... During times when we are more free, we would meet almost weekly...... We start by enjoying having sex with one another, and we promise each other that we can share and have some concern over one another, but never restrictive. Should any one party gets board with the other, we can stop anytime........ Hence there should not be any strings attached.

TS, in the first place he is your BF before which makes it worse, as he will never treat you as a FB, therefore it was never a FB thing Ruhr from the start...... So face it you would have to trash it out with him.

One last word, once you find your FB starts to get too sticky it's better to end it immediately, as it might turn out sour.........

[damianlee]

If you have any personal feelings towards your FB, then you are screwed up. control your feelings ? it doesnt really matters how he feels.

[charisme]

For myself i almost went into one w a married guy. but decided to chose the single guy over married one. less complication. he doesnt have anyone to ans to. can head out as n when. no curfew n all.

[AmeShin]

His behavior already prove that is far too risky to continue or end it properly.
Thus ignore and just move on

He got nothing to lose anyway cause he already had his gain

[BiRd13]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

It takes 2 hands to clap so if it's over, let it be. Move on.

Strongly agreed..


To: TS,

There's no 'notice' period or whatever you may want to call. It's about both party willingly...

[highlysex]

[QUOTE=gazelle;6638706]If this really happens. He may go crazy and who knows he may go on an attacking spree. Would not want that to happen...

Hello TS , one post and you have so many bros n sisters giving good advise not to worry about him. This kind of loser is just a barking dog.

If he get to much just report him to the police, if he is a normal guy i am sure he will back off

[cncs]

Hi TS,

I think your FB treats u like a GF more than a FB that's why the control. FB should understand that this type of relationship does not last. It's naturally that it will come to an end should one part calls it quit and there shouldn't be any hard feelings.

I have end mine quite sometime ago, we still contact each other but nothing more than that. Both parties accept the fact it's over.

Just ignore the guy once he found someone or something better to do he might just forget about everything and find his action stupid.
TS, u shouldn't be sad about this type of guy, there will be more guys in the near future for you to choose.

Good luck ya!!!

[bg102]

Sorry girl, I think he treated you more like his possession (worst than GF). If you want to end it you have every right no matter what the relationship. If he keeps harrassing you, you can always report him to the police!!!! Tell him that, it may stop him, I hope.