Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 184

happy000 · #**2746** 17-02-2008, 02:49 AM

Quite a few agencies has already moved to Golden Miles Tower

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Originally Posted by Raidster1

care to reveal what price u pay for the tour? some don't include angpow for girl's family.

I passed by people's park, that agency is no longer there. dunno if they moved or closed.

Torres_Mok · #**2747** 17-02-2008, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

nope...been 2 yrs and his mum still not acknowledge her daughter-in-law

Your friend wife from what country?

SingViet · #**2748** 17-02-2008, 09:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

nope...been 2 yrs and his mum still not acknowledge her daughter-in-law

I feel that communication is very important between the the guy's mother and his wife. Both must be able to communicate under a common language. Most mothers speak mandarin and it will be very much easier if the wife speaks mandarin. Most often, conflicts or misunderstanding arises from failure to communicate. My mother has always told me that she hopes to have a daughter-in-law that can speak mandarin, so when my mum met my wife in Saigon several years ago, they hit off quite well. The next is that its always better not to stay under the same roof. This is personal experience, move out and stay alone with your wife, it will be easier for your wife and mum. The wife must also be able to `curry favour' the mother in law. Old folks like sweet mouth daughter in laws..... . The most important thing is when wife and mum fight, the son/husband is always in the most difficult position.

haojian · #**2749** 17-02-2008, 06:02 PM

I agree with SingViet.

Thom07 · #**2750** 17-02-2008, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

I feel that communication is very important between the the guy's mother and his wife. Both must be able to communicate under a common language.....The next is that its always better not to stay under the same roof. This is personal experience, move out and stay alone with your wife, it will be easier for your wife and mum....

I do agree that communication is important. Misunderstanding tends to arise due to the lack of communication.

But, regarding the issue of staying outside, it is kind of hard to achieve because need to wait until your wife got her PR then can apply for subsided HDB flat unless you are able to buy on the re-sale market. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Sha_Gua75 · #**2751** 17-02-2008, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Thom07

But, regarding the issue of staying outside, it is kind of hard to achieve because need to wait until your wife got her PR then can apply for subsided HDB flat unless you are able to buy on the re-sale market. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Rent a room or rent a whole flat...

SingViet · #**2752** 18-02-2008, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Thom07

I do agree that communication is important. Misunderstanding tends to arise due to the lack of communication.

But, regarding the issue of staying outside, it is kind of hard to achieve because need to wait until your wife got her PR then can apply for subsided HDB flat unless you are able to buy on the re-sale market. Correct me if I'm wrong.

If i am not wrong, your spouse needs to be at least a Singapore PR before both of you can enjoy subsidies from HDB. To buy new flat, a PR is needed from your wife. As for resale, as long as your wife got LTSVP, both of you can buy HDB flat, but without government subsidy of 30K or 40K (near to parents).

As for renting a whole unit of flat, its not cheap now. a 5 room flat in sub-urban places like Jurong west, CCk, Sengkang etc will cost you around near to $2k a month, if plus utilites, it can be up to $2500 a month.

I<3Ivy · #**2753** 18-02-2008, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

As for renting a whole unit of flat, its not cheap now. a 5 room flat in sub-urban places like Jurong west, CCk, Sengkang etc will cost you around near to $2k a month, if plus utilites, it can be up to $2500 a month.

That seems about right... (just room only, but includes water/lights/aircon) for $750/month in a 4-room flat in tampinese area.

Thom07 · #**2754** 18-02-2008, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

Rent a room or rent a whole flat...

Personally, I dont really like to live with "outsiders" under the same roof. If want lam tinh at night also must tone down the volume a bit.

Renting the whole flat seems too ex.

Nothing much. Just expressing my thoughts.

Anyway, any chance of a little "Sha_Gua" running around soon?

SingViet · #**2755** 19-02-2008, 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Thom07

Personally, I dont really like to live with "outsiders" under the same roof. If want lam tinh at night also must tone down the volume a bit.

Renting the whole flat seems too ex.

Nothing much. Just expressing my thoughts.

Anyway, any chance of a little "Sha_Gua" running around soon?

I think that we need to provide our spouse with proper living conditions after marriage. If cannot afford to buy or rent outside, then stay with parents for the time being. Sharing the place with others restrict freedom and to think that you are staying in the same house with others that you do not know at all. Worse come to worse, the other guys want to tackle your vietnam con gai.