Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[okcis]

Originally Posted by naemlo

I have to salute u, maybe my male ego is high... a ger whom u have intention to marry, u still allow her to be fondled by dirty old men like me. BTW, since u can't support her, after marriage will she be allowed to go bed with strangers because of $$$? If u think after marriage, she will not demand $$$ then u are too naive. Her family, her uncles, aunties, cows, dogs, cats need to be well fed. Her furniture, bike, fridge, tv needs to be repaired or change. Her house needs to renovate... Get real, puppy love or honeymoon period is always sweet... reality bites.

If u still hopeful and looking forward to this relationship, then just go ahead... it is your life.

My ego is not low either but I cannot provide her enough for her to stop working. I do meet her everyday after her work though. Kind of to make sure that she gets home too. Given this, is there any way she could still be have other guys besides me? Hope that bro Hurricane88 can help to advise on this as well.

I understand what you mean. I don't think I can support her family in the future either, given that I am really poor. But for now, I try not to think too far yet, and enjoy the present. Just very concerned if there are any guys other than me who is in close contact with her.

I also know bro naemlo has been in this thread for one of the longest, since 2007. Can i also trouble you to advise on the above questions to hurricane88 bro? Will really appreciate it...

I understand that it's my choice after all. I don't expect that she is 100% true to me, given other bro's experiences. But I feel that I need enough 'evidence' to convince myself to get out of this now as I am too blinded by love. So it will really help if any bros have similar experiences to share -- that is, being poor but yet your GF is willing to meet you everyday after her work. Any real life stories on how this is only part of their plan?

Thank you again for helping. Really appreciated

[okcis]

Originally Posted by Th4r

They don't have to act to like you, they get fondled by wrinkled old men everyday remember? So easy to really like a young guy. Guys go see viet bx parents all the time.

And of course they genuine, tell her you can only give 1k angbao for marriage, see how more genuine they get.

Possible no other bf, possible you're the only guy in the world that think she's pretty and good enough to marry, even when working, why not? Doesn't mean she don't go hotels with her customers though, sadly.

Seriously, what do you think u can get out of marriage that you're not getting now? Most wl can't cook, don't know how to take care of family cos how they are brought up, most will love their families more than you, has shitty friends, can't speak english/chinese well to work normal jobs here.

Go take some night courses at smu etc hook up with a school mate more fun, seriously.

I don't really chiong in this scene, probably that's why I'm considered new to be exposed to all these and need to read on other bros' experiences. I meet her everyday after her work and will be with her till the morning. Are there any similar experiences like this? It would really help to convince me that there are still ways for her to mess around behind my back. Because right now, from what I see is that she doesn't go hotel with any other guys since I see her everyday.

Or maybe can bro enlighten me on their standard routines? What time do they usually knock off? Are they allowed to leave work earlier and go other places? I'm hoping she doesn't do so and pretend to be at work and only meeting me after that. I'm really new to this chionging scene and I have not seen much. So I don't know the "rules" for these girls in these KTV places.

Hope I don't offend anyone in this thread. Coming from someone who is really new to this, I genuinely want to get some advice and help....

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by okcis

Sorry that I'm asking so many questions. Hope that bro Hurricane88 can advise as you are one of the more experienced ones here. Thank you..

H88 is the right person with patience to answer so many naive questions...

[okcis]

Originally Posted by naemlo

H88 is the right person with patience to answer so many naive questions...

Bro naemlo.. I need your help too.. My post is being moderated so it has not shown up on the thread yet. I hope you can help in giving some advice..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by naemlo

H88 is the right person with patience to answer so many naive questions...

Wow kena arrow big time...

Hard to explain to guys who are weak and needy...a guy hardly see enough of WL or cheated long enough will never learn his lesson...is a bitter pill to swallow...

When a guy dun behave as though there are 1000 gals who love him and abundance mindset will become jealous and needy which kill any relationships...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Wow kena arrow big time...

Hard to explain to guys who are weak and needy...a guy hardly see enough of WL or cheated long enough will never learn his lesson...is a bitter pill to swallow...

Bring him to meet more pretties then he will change his mindset.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by okcis

Sorry Hurricane88 bro, I don't understand the first part of your reply. Does it mean that even though I see her everyday, I will not be able to tell unless I stay with her in Vietnam everyday?

See her as you are together with her 24 hours and not talk online...

Originally Posted by okcis

I have also learnt a lot about vietnamese culture from this thread. Have anything changed since 2007? Is money still very important in their eyes? And are they still as good as lying?

Nothing has changed...Woman in Vietnam still responsible to bring home money and no money cannot go home to visit parents...All taught by the same woman master....money first...so tell me wht a culture you have learn....

Originally Posted by okcis

And also, usually on average, how long does it take before they start exposing themselves and asking for money?

If you dun give money she can exposed herself within 1 month...most cannot last more than 6 months even you started giving her some money...can always try to ask your friends who she dun know to test her...ask her go hotel to fark...

Read my post...if you fell in love you already lost...dun ever touch WL...their objectives to make money and nothing else...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Bring him to meet more pretties then he will change his mindset.

seriously I am not keen to meet anyone here anymore...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

seriously I am not keen to meet anyone here anymore...

Right, same as me. A lot of ungrateful brats.

[okcis]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Right, same as me. A lot of ungrateful brats.

Bros don’t get me wrong. I do understand where you guys are coming from. If not I wouldn’t post here asking for advice. I just want to know if there are any stories of similar situation and setting. So that I can watch out for the lies.

Thank you for taking the time to reply.

[duckking]

Originally Posted by okcis

I am 24 this year and of course, I don't intend to marry her right now yet. Thank you bros for taking the time to reply me. I am sorry again if it offends you guys in any way.

He already said he is 24 years old. Why you guys need to give him so much stick ?

Originally Posted by naemlo

H88 is the right person with patience to answer so many naive questions...

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Wow kena arrow big time...

Hard to explain to guys who are weak and needy...

Originally Posted by naemlo

Right, same as me. A lot of ungrateful brats.

Maybe you guys are older and more experienced. But why need to shoot down a guy only 24 years old ? How street smart and worldly you were when you were 24 ?

I think these kind of mistakes, everyone makes, no matter age. Old man, experienced players, also get conned once in a while.

Maybe you guys think you should be harsh so that he will understand and learn faster. Even so, I think no need to call him naïve or week or needy.

You call people ungrateful. But people come here and ask for advice humbly and your attitude is, I find, dismissive and arrogant.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Right, same as me. A lot of ungrateful brats.

See what we meant....unhappy with our comment and then why bother to ask in the first place...now use the original nick to shoot back at us...anyway we knew all these pattern...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by duckking

You call people ungrateful. But people come here and ask for advice humbly and your attitude is, I find, dismissive and arrogant.

Ya, we are dismissive and arrogant.... it will be wise for u to take care of him.

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

See what we meant....unhappy with our comment and then why bother to ask in the first place...now use the original nick to shoot back at us...anyway we knew all these pattern...

Here we go again, same old shit again.

[duckking]

oh no no no, i dont play these kind of new nick old nick nonsense. I also not interested in all the upping n zapping points nonsense. All these things inside your head only. I have been here a long time but I just started to follow this thread, currently now at page 380+.

I have seen naemlo and hurricane posts many times, ranging from those a few years back. To be frank i agree with many things you guys have said. Very frank very direct n I think most are borne out of good will. I just dont know why your need to adopt such a superior attitude everytime. I think i not the first one to criticize your outlook in this forum.

you can say if people not happy why ask for ur advise, same thing, if u think he dont deserve it, why u advise him ? Same thing.

[duckking]

I read every page of this damn thread. My fav one on page 349. Donkey years ago. I like how this guy fucked naemlo n namelo has no reply ( except u know...saying " aiyah, u clone urself again i know these stuffs la..")

The problem with bullies is that when they meet a bigger bully, they become cowards.

Naemlo, i paste the following for u because i think you and hurricane can do with a bit of humility sometimes.

Originally Posted by Balls To You

Don't be bother by this kind of people online, his kind are a dime a dozen. These like of people like to stroke their e-penis online. Everything they must be better then you, everything they must be smarter then you, everything they must know more then you.

You say you F 10 girls..they must say they F 100 girls.

You say you buy this for $1, they must say I buy this for 50 cents.

You say you know ABC, they must say they know ABCD.

These messages only date back to around a week..image how many times he have cum while masturbating online.

No wonder girls always say guys will still behave childishly at certain aspects no matter how old they are. Everything also must compare, everything also must win then happy. A car overtakes you and goes into you lane, must overtake back then will be happy.

Looks like I can say goodbye to my points, oh well at least I have said my piece. Another thing, these people will always 1 side say.."So much point for what?? Can get free bonk issit??" then another side, go post porn at other section, go up people with high power, then ask them to up back.

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