Khmer Diary

[Faidenk]

The Khmer New Year is on the 13th April, so for those who are intending to visit during this time, you may want to know the entire place will more or less be dead. Most businesses will be closed, and these include bars. Most Khmers will go home to their provinces for the New Year. Some KTVs, particularly if they ‘specialise’ in Viet ladies, might be opened. I suppose things will slowly stir back to life by Monday the 18th.

My FB asked me to go back to her province with her. Although it would be a wonderful break for me, I am quite disinclined to do so. Going would involve me meeting her parents and relatives. I don’t know what she has told them about me already but I am not ready for that kind of relationship. She’s 26 and divorced from her no-good two-timing husband 4 years ago and now looking to hook up a no-good two-timing SOB who still regards her a FB – me, never mind that she shaves on my asking, possesses one of the tightest pussies I have had, buys me the sweetest of mangoes 3 times a week, as well local snacks, and eats only veggies to keep her waist trim and slim. This invitation to meet the folks serves a notice of sorts for me. So, I told her I will be going back to Singapore during that period.

Sigh, why does women always complicate things? Doesn’t she know there’s a new law in place regarding foreigners marrying local girls? The new law is designed to protect the interests of the local girls and stipulates that foreigners marrying local girls must earn at least $2500 a month, and foreigners older than 50 years old are not allowed to marry local girls.

Well, I don’t qualify because I am already more than half a centenarian. Halelujah! This is probably the only time I get to appreciate the fact I am on my way to being an old geezer, never mind that my hair is thinning and that I put on weight just looking at others eat, and half the time I need a boost of half a Kamagra to stand up to the vigours of the job at hand.

There are always ways and means of getting around the law here in Cambodia and the foreigner who is dead keen on making a Khmer maiden his blushing bride ought not fret. The Khmer people’s ingenuity will surprise.

My buddy, 48 and a bachelor, has been looking at this angle to retrieve his hard-earned CPF and is downtrodden to know he has only 1 and a half year to look for a bride. He could of course pay any girl here to marry him, you know, a green-card marriage, but he reckons he's getting on in age and might as well marry for love and start a family. Men have that biological clock as well, you know, besides sex. He reckons if he got married say in a year's time, he should, with a little greasing of palms, get his citizenship in 3. So theoretically, he would be able to withdraw all his CPF and after selling off his paid-for HDB 3-roomer, there would be enough for him to live a lifetime in relative comfort here in Cambodia. There are 'fixers' who could arrange that citizenship, I was told, varying amounts of USD20K to USD30K were mentioned. I knew of a Malaysian 'fixer' who even showed me his Cambodian ID card and who claimed even the town he lives at had his name on the town's birth register, but this guy borrowed $30 from me on some excuse that the company was late paying his salary, and I have not seen him hence.

Anyway, we, my buddy and I, were just talking earlier today about micro-financing and he thinks putting up an initial $50K, he would be able to double his money in less than a year, lending a couple of hundreds here and a couple of hundreds there at 20% interest. Yup, micro-financing.

In an interesting note, Koreans are banned, according to a friend, from marrying Khmers due to many cases of Khmer girls being ill-treated in Korea or sold into slavery there. I know the Koreans have a bad rap for being rough, I’ve talked to enough girls working in KTVs from China to Philippines to Singapore to reach that conclusion, they have that sadistic streak in them but surely that doesn’t warrant the ban. I mean what’s a little handcuffing, or spanking that nice smooth ass between lovers. It must have been a little more than that, then.

[modusoperandi]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

In an interesting note, Koreans are banned, according to a friend, from marrying Khmers due to many cases of Khmer girls being ill-treated in Korea or sold into slavery there. I know the Koreans have a bad rap for being rough, I’ve talked to enough girls working in KTVs from China to Philippines to Singapore to reach that conclusion, they have that sadistic streak in them but surely that doesn’t warrant the ban. I mean what’s a little handcuffing, or spanking that nice smooth ass between lovers. It must have been a little more than that, then.

I think it's usually a case of not just rough sex (which I find SE Asian girls can handle fine) but Korean men pretending the girls are their regular servants to be treated as such even during the non coitus hours of the days. Making SE Asian girls regularly lose face like this is and being made to serve some ill tempered wrinkled kim-chi smelling Korean granny is probably like hell on earth. The rice paddy, destitute neighborhood boy, and corrugated tin field shack looks mighty fine after this sort of treatment.

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by modusoperandi

I think it's usually a case of not just rough sex (which I find SE Asian girls can handle fine) but Korean men pretending the girls are their regular servants to be treated as such even during the non coitus hours of the days. Making SE Asian girls regularly lose face like this is and being made to serve some ill tempered wrinkled kim-chi smelling Korean granny is probably like hell on earth. The rice paddy, destitute neighborhood boy, and corrugated tin field shack looks mighty fine after this sort of treatment.

Off the topic, actually I find Khmer girls quite hardworking, and quite capable too, more than the men although not to the level of the Vietnamese women.

One of the main difference I find between the Vietnamese and the Khmer - well, in HCM everyone rides a motorbike, be they a manager, supervisor or entrepreuner. In Phnom Penh there are more luxury SUVs, mainly Lexus, than you'll find per capita anywhere. A friend, on a bet, brought me to observe at a filling station, to see how many of these drivers of big SUVs fill their tanks to the brim. He won the bet, as only 2 out of a total of 20 fill it up. Which reinforced his opinion that the Vietnamese work to hide their wealth, whereas to the Khmer, face is everything, big cars, houses, never mind if they only have $20 in the pocket.

Back to the topic, in these case I think the govt's move is justified. The behaviour is just despicable.

[Zaryl]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

buys me the sweetest of mangoes 3 times a week,

speaking of mangoes, I supposed to buy on the last day yet I am hooked on this Viet gal introduced by a friend (the gal who came with me to your cafe) at Casa disco..

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by Zaryl

speaking of mangoes, I supposed to buy on the last day yet I am hooked on this Viet gal introduced by a friend (the gal who came with me to your cafe) at Casa disco..

Hahaha! Forgo the Khmer mangoes for Vietnamese mango, I suppose you must be a very good reason. KH mangoes, although very sweet and agreeable, is more often eaten unripe, the Khmers like it sour, dipped in a salt, chilli & MSG mix (would you believe that? MSG?)

But don't knock the Vietnamese variety, they're soft, tender and act as an aphrodisiac, especially when they're hanging on a sweet and nubile Viet girl.

[BlueDragon193]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

Hahaha! Forgo the Khmer mangoes for Vietnamese mango, I suppose you must be a very good reason. KH mangoes, although very sweet and agreeable, is more often eaten unripe, the Khmers like it sour, dipped in a salt, chilli & MSG mix (would you believe that? MSG?)

But don't knock the Vietnamese variety, they're soft, tender and act as an aphrodisiac, especially when they're hanging on a sweet and nubile Viet girl.

Wow, sound advice.

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

Sigh, why does women always complicate things? Doesn’t she know there’s a new law in place regarding foreigners marrying local girls? The new law is designed to protect the interests of the local girls and stipulates that foreigners marrying local girls must earn at least $2500 a month, and foreigners older than 50 years old are not allowed to marry local girls.

Well, I don’t qualify because I am already more than half a centenarian. Halelujah! This is probably the only time I get to appreciate the fact I am on my way to being an old geezer, never mind that my hair is thinning and that I put on weight just looking at others eat, and half the time I need a boost of half a Kamagra to stand up to the vigours of the job at hand.

There are always ways and means of getting around the law here in Cambodia and the foreigner who is dead keen on making a Khmer maiden his blushing bride ought not fret. The Khmer people’s ingenuity will surprise.

Further to the above-mentioned law that forbids men earning less than $2500, and men over 50 from marrying Cambodian girls, here's something I CnP from Stickman's site:

The Cambodia situation.

Before everyone gets up in arms over the new Cambodian law forbidding marriages between Cambodian women and foreign men over 50, it is important to note the following: Foreign Ministry spokesman Koy Kuong said, "We are preventing fake marriages and human trafficking," adding that the government was aware of cases, documented by rights groups, where Cambodian women were sent into prostitution or "used as slaves" in their husband's home country.

Cambodia imposed a temporary ban on foreign marriages in 2008 to prevent human trafficking, amid concern over a sharp rise in the number of brokered unions involving South Korean men and poor Cambodian women. That ban followed an International Organisation for Migration report that said many Cambodian brides suffered abuse after moving to South Korea in marriages hastily arranged by brokers who made large profits. So, fat western slobs in t-shirts, relax! It is only your North Asian cousins the government is worried about. Besides, you only have to leave the country with your fiancée and get married elsewhere as the law only pertains to marriages within the country.



So there, if you're not Korean, you can still marry that 'song-sa' of yours.

Damn! I thought I had it good.

[maddog_mlvn]

Bro Faidenk, check ur inbox.

[Glock]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

never mind that she shaves on my asking, possesses one of the tightest pussies I have had, buys me the sweetest of mangoes 3 times a week, as well local snacks, and eats only veggies to keep her waist trim and slim

haha ... can i borrow her ?

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by Glock

haha ... can i borrow her ?

Haha, I would if I could. Come to think of it, I didn't say that in jest, and I wonder why I feel that way. She's a 'good' girl, doesn't smoke, drink once in a while, doesn't ask me for any money but accepts the odd $10 or sometimes $20 I give her in the morning. Hell, she doesn't even let me see her pussy, even after 3 months. I am sure it looks cute, having been shaved at my prompting by our third 'outing'.

Why do I feel nothing for her? Why do I feel nothing for the rest of the girls I have screwed in Cambodia thus far? Is it the language barrier? That didn't stop you guys for falling for Viet, Thai or Khmer broads without a word of the local language. Must be the age then, mine. Age clads one's heart with a protective coating making it impervious to those butterfly flutters. Call me callous, call me heartless but that's the way I feel. Mind you, not that I treat them disrespectfully, I do, just that, well, the moment the little buggers are released, I sometimes wonder what the fucks was all the fuss about. She even commented on it once.

Because of our working hours, we haven't been anywhere as a couple, not that I think we're one, I'm sure she thinks we are. Not dinner, not a movie. It's home, shower (not together), then it's the bed. Have my evil ways with her, then sleep. I send her home by late morning and I don't call her until I feel a stirring in my loins some days later. Anyway in the event she is entertaining the thought of us being a couple, I hope I'm doing a good job dispelling it from her head.

Having said all that, she's a good girl and deserves a better deal than a old heartless unappreciative coot like me.

[maddog_mlvn]

Bro check Ur gmail. Anything PM me in SBF, seldom log into that email a/c.

[modusoperandi]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

Having said all that, she's a good girl and deserves a better deal than a old heartless unappreciative coot like me.

Here's something that worked for a friend of mine who was "intimately" involved with his ex girlfriend for 3 years..

He managed to engineer a relationship between her and another friend of his by passing her along down the road thereby absolving himself of guilt and giving them a relationship that turned into something long term. He told me he was already bored after year one but stuck around because she was a good enough girl and fun to hang out with at times. That wouldn't always work out but it's better than breaking some woman's heart who has played fair.

So find some lonely dude who fits her criteria (as well as yours) and do some behind the scenes cupid social engineering.

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by modusoperandi

Here's something that worked for a friend of mine who was "intimately" involved with his ex girlfriend for 3 years..

He managed to engineer a relationship between her and another friend of his by passing her along down the road thereby absolving himself of guilt and giving them a relationship that turned into something long term. He told me he was already bored after year one but stuck around because she was a good enough girl and fun to hang out with at times. That wouldn't always work out but it's better than breaking some woman's heart who has played fair.

So find some lonely dude who fits her criteria (as well as yours) and do some behind the scenes cupid social engineering.

That's going to take some 'engineering', and what happens if the friend I pass her to turns out to be an even bigger son-of-a-bachelor than I am. 'Tainted goods' (I mean it in a 'good' way) even though she is, I think she deserves better.

I think the best way is to let the relationship die a natural death. I ended many of my relationships this way - meet less frequent, prolonging the interval each time without any confrontation or arguments and before long it's over without any animosity.

Giving her as little as I did is part of my strategy - so she wouldn't be dependent on me as a source of steady income and to save me some $$$ (didn't I mentioned I am a son-of-bachelor?). I give sporadically, most times a $10, occasionally a $20 (coming holidays, birthday, New Year etc) and sometimes none at all. Damn, I make myself so dispensable.

Maybe I'll post 2 Stickman threads on How To Be A Player dated 2005. This guy is a master. Later.

[Faidenk]

As promised ...... CONNED by Anonymous ... 21/10/2005


http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/Reader/reader2067.htm



Over the months I have read many stories about this Farang getting “hurt” and that Farang getting “hurt” and this one being drained of cash and that one catching his prostitute girlfriend with a different customer and blah blah blah. Please, why does it seem that everyone wants to play the poor victim and sing the sad songs after they knowingly, and willingly, get the very treatment they permit? Remember one can only be conned if they allow themselves to be conned. Any nickel grabbing street corner chicklet peddler with lice can tell you the basic fundamentals of self preservation. Why does it take a bargirl with no education to make you feel as if you were born yesterday?

Anyway in the hopes to help some of you guys save a little pain and cash I would like to introduce and share some of my experiences and rules with you. If you begin your journey with the approach that you want the most bang out of your vacation, and the least cost impact then listen closely. I have been to Pattaya three times this year alone and plan to continue as long as the statistics stay in my favor. When the tide changes I’ll simply alter my venue, change cities, sounds easy doesn’t it? The truth of the matter is it really is simple.

To begin with learn to play “their” game. When they tell you they like you, you tell them how much you like them. If they say the “love” word then you use it equally and as liberally but generously dust it with enthusiasm. After the first night which in all likelihood you’ll pay cash, tell them how much they mean to you and how much you want to be with them on a relationship level. Trust me they’ll home in on you faster that Opra on a BBQ. They’ll label you as a potential savior and give you more loving than you may want. All the sex for the duration of your stay for free. Imagine that?

To begin with no matter what don’t tell them when the bye bye flight lifts off the ground. (Comply with Stickman’s basic rules of privacy and providing real data). When the day comes say you need to go to BKK for the afternoon on business. Tell her you’ll see her tonight at Tony’s and ask her to dress sexy for you when you get back. Ask her to wear that special black mini dress just for you. Catch your flight and realize your savings. You can imagine the number of crying Text messages and voice messages that you’ll get after that. All claiming that you lied to them….but back up a minute, who lied to who?

Generally speaking, I usually pay the 1000 baht for the first night but have yet to open my wallet for sex with that particular bargirl after that. Other than buying meals which is dirt cheap because they usually hate Farang food and always want that crappy Thai spicy green roadside stuff. Find a good restaurant that serves both and budget in an extra couple bucks to fuel the skank. Also don’t forget to give in once and a while to the guilt burden on your back and buy her the occasional cheap pair of shoes. Always with the promise to go to the designer malls later. She’ll wet her pants.

Usually what I do is get one on the string like this, I keep telling her how much I love her and cannot imagine life without marrying her and asking if she will have my babies and wanting to support her family only after I get to know her a little better and anything else she wants to hear. Remember, play their game.

When I need a little variety I’ll approach her with caution on the subject of threesomes. If the initial reaction is not harsh then I press the issue. I sometimes even cry telling her how much I love her and her only but my life time dream has been to try it with two women at the same time. I don’t want to continue into my years without trying it at least just once. Oh just once and never again. Usually with a little reluctance she will agree as long as she picks the girl or calls her friend for a second opinion. After she hangs up the phone chances are ones already grabbing a motorbike taxi and breaking speed limits to get to your hotel. If she consequently picks an ugly one that particular night tell her that even if she wasn’t your true love you could not have sex with that particular specimen.

I have yet to see anyone of them decline to fulfill my deepest desires as long as I only try it once and not want to make a habit out of it. You see, Thai ladies are very resilient and no matter how angry or hurt they appear, they don’t have the ability to take the crosshairs off your wallet and will be very forgiving. Even to the point of asking for your forgiveness which is usually accompanied with a lot of tears and words like “I no believe you”. Good God I could retire if I have a baht for every time I heard those ones.

You see as long as you give them an inkling of hope that they will be included in your will or you’re about to declare her your power of attorney complete with all your immediately liquidable funds they will hang on. Good God will they hang on. And hang on with a vengeance. They hate the thought of saying goodbye to your stash when another bargirl might get what they have invested so much time on. Hence the jealousy and insecurity they all seem to share. The realities are they only see you as “time invested” and “return on time investment”. If you can get one to spend more than two days with you she will not let you go easy. All part of the game.

I advise you to slowly withdrawn your affection, if they ask you what’s wrong? Tell them “nothing” Darling, why you ask. Tell them you “love her today more than yesterday” and want her to be your bride. She will consciously hear your words but internally she will sense something is wrong. She will work even harder to get back what you initially gave her. Tell her maybe the first threesome happened too fast to know if you liked it or not and wouldn’t mind trying one more time. If she objects don’t get upset, just act a little depressed. Again she will see this and connect it with the “something’s wrong” syndrome and want to find a way to make you love her again.

Hold out until the threesome happens otherwise your efforts are wasted. In fact I had one bargirl in July pleading with me to have sex with her and her two friends at the same time as long as I loved only her and helped her with her visa.

Another cool tip is when you’re at a bar with her, single out any other bargirl in the area and send her a drink. Whatever you do don’t accept to tap glasses with the bargirl but just send her a drink. Most girls will come over and offer to tap the glass with you but graciously decline. Tell her you love your girlfriend and only wanted to send a drink. No more, don’t even look again in the other bargirl’s direction. Let your soul mate think her fortunes may disappear in a flash. Just smile and watch the expression in Princesses eyes. This confuses the crap out of them. But yes indeed her effort into oral sex will amplify like never before. You’ll be exhausted long before she is.

If you don’t get the most enthusiastic sex that night after listening to a couple hours of tears and “I no believe you” and how she could never love another man again after you, then you didn’t get it right. Keep practicing until you get it going, find your zone. You’ll know you own them when they approach you with a butter knife or something equally as ridiculous and ask you to kill them because they cannot live like this. That’s when you introduce the concept of what “true love means” i.e.: Tell her for you true love means she must worship your penis or arrange sex with her sister. Whatever you can imagine. Might even be a good time to ask for anal if you’re into that.

Anyways, I could go on and on forever. I think you get the concept. Give all your heart in the first two days and slowly withdraw it until she’s a babbling submissive sex object. Ready to do whatever your craziest desires can conjure up. Do you remember the reason you came to Thailand in the first place?

If you still feel like you’ve been taken for a ride by Princess bargirl then try this one for points. I executed it myself.

This waitress at Tony’s kept smiling at me and showing me all kinds of attention. I asked her to meet me the next day and she said yes. She had some excuse to not keep the appointment. We exchanged mobile numbers and after that she called me daily but never seemed to be able to actually meet. The calls and texts continued much to the dismay of the current bargirl I was working. I explained it off as attention from just a friend. Like I’m sure you’ve all heard it from them when their phones ring. We all know what a “friend” is. Part of the game.

Anyway the story was the same every time, she cannot meet me but she needs money from me because she wants to quit work at Tony’s and go back to school. One day we actually met at the beach and we talked for hours. She told me she wanted sex with me as soon as we could. She talked so sweet I even felt movement in my pants. She explained that she will call in sick that evening and spend the night with me. She just needed some new clothes on the way to the hotel so I thought why not. She immediately went to the most expensive stores in the plaza and picked out whatever she wanted.

Continued.....

[Faidenk]

........ Continued


CONNED by Anonymous ... 21/10/2005


http://www.stickmanbangkok.com/Reader/reader2067.htm



Continually I declined to purchase the goods for various reason such as too big, I no like the color, looks funny on you etc etc. Eventually I agreed on a cheap pair of shoes and paid the 250 baht. As we were leaving the plaza she told me she now needs to go to work. I said no problem and waved goodbye to both her and the movement.

Everyday the same thing, all kinds of text messages on the phone telling me how much she loves me and misses me and wants me. I had to put my phone on silence to not distract Princess and her investment. However I did tolerate it because I thought she was cute and wanted one day to see her naked.

Shortly thereafter I returned to work in Europe and the texts continued. The only deviation was the escalated desperation for money. In fact she told me she quit working at Tony’s because of me and will wait for me only if I gave her $1000usf. I figured why not capitalize on the situation and “play” their game a little to see if I could score one for the Farangs.

So I told her I was working in Bangkok and only had time tomorrow at 13:30 to meet her at the airport to give her the money. If she came I would give her not just the $1000usf she asks for but $2000usf if she took the 2 hour bus ride to come and get it. She was so excited she had her friend that spoke better English call me to confirm and secure such a fortunate hit. I could feel the screams of eureka via satellite throughout my body. I’m sure they thought “pay dirt”, oil, hitting the big one, even possibly “bingo” in whatever language they really use.

The next day my phone started ringing at approximately 05:00 local and didn’t stop until at least noon. Then the text messaging began with “I no believe you” and “why you lie me” blah blah blah. I took it she was a little annoyed.

In the end, I’m counting 1-0 but she keeps sending me texts crying for me to see her. Tell me how much she could do for me if I let her love me. If she wasn’t so damned cute with those long legs I would ignore them but being a Farang I am tempted to succumb to the abyss. I guess the games not over yet.