Curious about life, culture and women in LOS

[Javanoob]

Originally Posted by ErnestK

Sorry pi Javanoob. Kop jai na...

Think my memory failing me.. After reading all the mega long posts (and upset in the process), I already seeing stars leaw.

Paisey paisey..

haha bro ernestk, joking la. all share share only.

[mackewell]

Just share my fav two songs in 2012 via Yes Sir Days which have been hogging on my mp3 player playlist for the past week.

[greener]

Thanks for these two songs. Appreciate it.

Originally Posted by mackewell

Just share my fav two songs in 2012 via Yes Sir Days which have been hogging on my mp3 player playlist for the past week.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by greener

Thanks for these two songs. Appreciate it.

Thanks, feel free to share wad u knoe abt los too, dun need to be MVs lah but dun spam lol......

[greener]

LOS is a special place to many men from Singapore. For any of us who start to get interested in something so foreign yet to attractive ( like a Thai lady), there is often a form of euphoria. And some times this euphoria last very long simply because there is so much unknown about the country,culture,language etc that keeps us interested week after week. In the very same light, this can also be explained with why people like to listen to Korean songs , Japanese songs or viet songs. The more we don't know the more interesting it is to try to find out more.

Taking interest in Thai lady is just one of the many forms of euphoria in a humans life.

Thailand is a great place to travel for us truly. With the good currency exchange plus the fact that we more often than not go there only for leisure. We pretty much see the best of everything. We " feel" that we can afford more things. We " feel " that everything is within our control and easy reach. This is simply because of the fact that we are there only for holiday plus the very good exchange rate. So such one sided rosy images allows us to " feel " that it may be so good to have this and have that Including having a nice beautiful Thai gf or wife and build a house and set up a nice shop there. But somehow the more we know, the more we don't know.

I find that Thailand is a great place to discover. People, culture, way of living, food, places for touring, language , attitude towards life etc, all are in a certain way attractive. The nice thing is to be able to link everything u learn about them up and slowly see the way they see, feel he way they feel. And perhaps it will come to a point when you will be able to decide with more certainty whether what you want to achieve now is really what you really want.

For me, I love the all the different aspects of the Thai package. I may not accept a lot of their believes or way of life but I have a respect for how they are who they are. Like many bros here who perhaps have great experience in the Thai scene, they have shared their great honest views. Most importantly it is the views from people from the same background as you more or less. So it is great to learn from their advice to make you wiser faster.

I have heard a saying, 100 of foreign men with Thai woman relationships 99 of them will not survive. The one who survive would still be met by a lot of issues. It may just be a very prudent estimate. And I think it is true.

Hope you can enjoy your exploration. Learn more see more. If u are serious then just put in some effort to learn their language. It will open your eyes to understand them in their truest form rather than listening to their often less than proficient English.

Regards

Originally Posted by mackewell

Thanks, feel free to share wad u knoe abt los too, dun need to be MVs lah but dun spam lol......

[vexsint]

To be frank, i frequent LOS quite often, for work (short period) and leisure.
I have godmother there, the decent one ok and she in her 40s, which i meet through work, can talk and link up as an repected elder.

But it nvr amaze me each time i went and culture shock me each time.

Confucius thinking rooted in us was main factor for culture shock. They are much too open about relationship and such. Life was tough and this emotional release has to come from somewhere.

Take my godmother, ditched by her hushand, with 3 kids still schooling, have to settle the school fees herself, yet now attached to a married man. man is not rich, had a head operation due to car accident(which my godmother pay for it),man not staying with her but with his wife.

that is thai culture, i m just barely accepting it, Welcome to LOS, u totally need to lossen urself and be not uptight about things when it come to LOS.it is not call land of smile for nothing. everything is a joke to them, inc themselves.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by vexsint

To be frank, i frequent LOS quite often, for work (short period) and leisure.
I have godmother there, the decent one ok and she in her 40s, which i meet through work, can talk and link up as an repected elder.

But it nvr amaze me each time i went and culture shock me each time.

Confucius thinking rooted in us was main factor for culture shock. They are much too open about relationship and such. Life was tough and this emotional release has to come from somewhere.

Take my godmother, ditched by her hushand, with 3 kids still schooling, have to settle the school fees herself, yet now attached to a married man. man is not rich, had a head operation due to car accident(which my godmother pay for it),man not staying with her but with his wife.

that is thai culture, i m just barely accepting it, Welcome to LOS, u totally need to lossen urself and be not uptight about things when it come to LOS.it is not call land of smile for nothing. everything is a joke to them, inc themselves.

Bro, not all pooyings are liberal abt r/s like wad u mentioned. Regardless of wad nationality, u haf culture differences and bad eggs in de basket, its how u filter them out and find de right one. Even so, i may not even find de right one when i am 50 yrs old lol.

However, no point being desperate and hard up and anyhow settle. I spoke to some of my married bros and they r still heavily involved in de comm sex scene as life is not good in marriage life. Goin thru de gruelling journey in finding de right one is fruitful( of cos u may b invovled in flings and short term r/s but tts how u learn their culture and mentality.) singapore girls also same wad, they are not tt open minded compare to LOS puyings but de divorce rate goin up due to a different set of problems...

[Spectrre]

Thailand is now undergoing a huge westernised revolution. If u are talking abt old traditional Thai pooyings, they are getting rarer and rarer. Their pooyings are sweet, they know how to treat a man, and they will stay faithful and give up everything if u r the one.

Sounds familiar? It sound like Vietnam girls too.

But Thailand is rapidly modernising and their standard of living is getting much more higher. They treat Vietnam like how we treat third world country. Their cost of living is getting real high and they have no qualms with sleeping ard as long as they feel attracted to the other party.

I have many horror stories of both working and non working pooyings in their attemp to bluff, lie or cheat their man's heart, be it intentional or not intentional.

Do u know that Thailand ladies are considered the most unfaithful lady in the world.

[vexsint]

Originally Posted by Spectrre

Do u know that Thailand ladies are considered the most unfaithful lady in the world.

unfaithful or not i dont know.. but from a few r/s with them based on my experience, they are more of extreme type, like u means like u, and when all is good, make u feel like a king..

when things go bad, they wont have 2nd thoughts of showing the black face..

[Spectrre]

Originally Posted by vexsint

unfaithful or not i dont know.. but from a few r/s with them based on my experience, they are more of extreme type, like u means like u, and when all is good, make u feel like a king..

when things go bad, they wont have 2nd thoughts of showing the black face..

There is a difference between like, love and treating u like a gig.

A Thai pooying may like someone but love another person and still keep a gig. And all 3 would have bed her on a regular basis.

[Spectrre]

Thai culture borders on the extreme of a mai pen rai mentality. Extreme to the max.

Thats why Thai pooyings dont like to quarrel much, they rather have a cold war unless the arguement is abt something extreme.

A typical Thai culture would be after work at 5, they seldom work ot, go home and sabai their time away drinking beer and so on. Dont give them any headache and all will be ok.

And this culture is where dillyporeans have a hard time coping with. A sillyporean man thinks that asking how is yr day, asking dammn lots of qns and pressuring Thai pooyings is care for them.
To them us headache, what they only want is to sabai sabai and mai pen rai the whole day away.

If u can gel well with their culture, u will find that Thailand is a very relaxed place to be.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by Spectrre

Thailand is now undergoing a huge westernised revolution. If u are talking abt old traditional Thai pooyings, they are getting rarer and rarer. Their pooyings are sweet, they know how to treat a man, and they will stay faithful and give up everything if u r the one.

Sounds familiar? It sound like Vietnam girls too.

But Thailand is rapidly modernising and their standard of living is getting much more higher. They treat Vietnam like how we treat third world country. Their cost of living is getting real high and they have no qualms with sleeping ard as long as they feel attracted to the other party.

I have many horror stories of both working and non working pooyings in their attemp to bluff, lie or cheat their man's heart, be it intentional or not intentional.

Do u know that Thailand ladies are considered the most unfaithful lady in the world.

Bro spot on, LOS is evolving into a more westernised country compared to sillypore. However, in asean, most countries are really about the same when it comes to finding traditional girls. Btw poll can be subjective lah, compared to thai lady being the most unfaithful, another poll saying singapore is the no1emotionaless country in the world, which one more accurate? lol... i take the latter anytime and i am sticking my life philosophy wif tt....

In vietnam and sillypore also, this kind of girls are getting lesser. Maybe i shld search for burmish, myanmmar or cambodian chicks instead hahahahaha, more simple minded. But it also boils down to fate and timing. I cant say for sure i cannot find a LOS pooying tt is simple but in terms of sillypore, seriously damn hard to find simple chick looking at the demographics and population....

The society is always changing and developing. Only less than 20 percent of the world population will not succumb to materialism, capitalism and become a follower eventually in this society. ITs a freaking arduous task to find tt kind of pooying but i think i am in tt less than 20 percent category. Finding someone who is in tt same category is better for me in terms of finance and maintaining the r/s lol....

I strongly believe thai pooyings are not that kind where they will go home after work. They may go have a drink and socialise or wad. For me , its fine lah, you must give and take mah. Where got the girl so perfect one? everything she suit to ur needs?

u also need to let her do what she likes sometimes. But if she not appreciative of your kindness then the problem starts. If she is grateful, she will go out with her frens but still remember you and call you, and buy food for u and do the simple things for you lah lol....

Men and women of all nationality are the same lah, both also will cheat, its also when u find out or catch her or may not even catch her in the r/s.....

Oh ya btw, thai pooyings i feel lah are quite hot tempered and emotional in r/s. Tts what i like about them, if she shows it but not towards the violent extent. That only shows she care about the longevity of the r/s and not just thinking about using materialism and other stuff to boost the quality of the r/s(if you get what i mean?)...

Just take it easy lah, i am already accepting the fate that i will come across tons and tons of flings and short term r/s AND still not even find the right one in life. But if i stay in sillypore(put my eyes on local chicks and thinking that the right and simple one will be there, no hard feelings here lah), i will stay lonely for a very long time lolx....

[Spectrre]

Originally Posted by mackewell

Just take it easy lah, i am already accepting the fate that i will come across tons and tons of flings and short term r/s AND still not even find the right one in life. But if i stay in sillypore(put my eyes on local chicks and thinking that the right and simple one will be there, no hard feelings here lah), i will stay lonely for a very long time lolx....

I support your views on staying in thailand and finding a right kind of girl as your teeruk and den riyaa. But you must open eyes wide wide. I am not an expert on thai culture or how their ladies think but i have seen more than my fair share of pooyings trouble be it WL in singapore or so call decent lady in thailand.

I go in and out of thailand for my seedy buisness when i am 23s, got sick of it 5 yrs later, during that 5 yrs, met my viet gf who is now my wife, also change line from seedy buisness man to reno contractor. So i have pretty much see quite a number of decent and not so decent ladies in thailand.

As i mentioned before, thai pooyings can have a multitude of lovers, gigs and so much more yet in their mind, they can still think, mai pen rai, in their heart only love one guy.

And they have this overly attachment to anything love and romantic, this is also the reason why almost 95% of their song are all lovey dovey stuff, heart break stuff, same goes for their movies and even their porn. This is also the reason why the current generation of thais love korean dramas and stuff so much.

And it is this overly attachment to anything love and romantic that makes them so easy to bed. You guys may think that i am being overly critical of them but i have really seen too many.

Once i met a thai girl, decent one, a office lady. We talk, went out for dinner and so on. This carries on for 2 weeks. Only at the end of 2 weeks, am i allowed to bed her. It was only then that i learn the shocking truth, she was engaged to another thai man, and was only 4 days away from official marriage. I than ask her why she want to go to bed with me, she mentioned that she had not try a foreign man before and want to do it before official marriage. She even subtly suggest we can meet up even after she marry but seriously i tell her no, i believe in karma.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by Spectrre

I support your views on staying in thailand and finding a right kind of girl as your teeruk and den riyaa. But you must open eyes wide wide. I am not an expert on thai culture or how their ladies think but i have seen more than my fair share of pooyings trouble be it WL in singapore or so call decent lady in thailand.

I go in and out of thailand for my seedy buisness when i am 23s, got sick of it 5 yrs later, during that 5 yrs, met my viet gf who is now my wife, also change line from seedy buisness man to reno contractor. So i have pretty much see quite a number of decent and not so decent ladies in thailand.

As i mentioned before, thai pooyings can have a multitude of lovers, gigs and so much more yet in their mind, they can still think, mai pen rai, in their heart only love one guy.

And they have this overly attachment to anything love and romantic, this is also the reason why almost 95% of their song are all lovey dovey stuff, heart break stuff, same goes for their movies and even their porn. This is also the reason why the current generation of thais love korean dramas and stuff so much.

And it is this overly attachment to anything love and romantic that makes them so easy to bed. You guys may think that i am being overly critical of them but i have really seen too many.

Once i met a thai girl, decent one, a office lady. We talk, went out for dinner and so on. This carries on for 2 weeks. Only at the end of 2 weeks, am i allowed to bed her. It was only then that i learn the shocking truth, she was engaged to another thai man, and was only 4 days away from official marriage. I than ask her why she want to go to bed with me, she mentioned that she had not try a foreign man before and want to do it before official marriage. She even subtly suggest we can meet up even after she marry but seriously i tell her no, i believe in karma.

Bro, so glad you have a nice vietnamese wife. A couple of my bros have viet wifes too. But i have missed my boat on viet girls lol, cant really find a good one but also dun really bother to go downhill to hcm or hanoi wif my bros to find the right one(the viet culture dont really appeal to me lah lol).

Thai pooyings are really open minded and once again thanks for reminding me that. Guess i can able to bed loads and loads of them, keep some of them as FB in short flings, but hopefully the right one just pop out in the midst of it. Of cos when the right one comes, give up the rest, draw the line, or else when you lose the right one, u will regret forever....

Bro i dig ur karma thing. I got one bro who is getting married to his viet gf soon, and me being the devil, wanted to organise an unforgettable bachelor party for him. He keep rejecting me but i know inside his heart he wants it but he really loves his girlfriend.

I respect that. i never think from his perspective lah, i was only thinking about him not ending his bachelor days on a bore. If i have a nice gf or soon to be wife, i also will think of karma.( read my signature lah, but if my gf or wife dun let me intimate or F, how to tahan and not look for comm sex ? lolx)

But for now, being a single and unattractive fella, i cannot hiam(choosey) too much and go out towards the LOS social circle and know more pooyings and see how it goes. Who likes the feeling of loneliness even though u cant find the right one after years? no one lah, mai dee, mai suk jai..... Of course i cannot be rigid and not try to know the bad eggs in the basket. Through there, then u will knoe if the right one exist bo? thru this lengthy process, u will understand their culture and language better. I foresee myself not knowing much syt, but knowing more milfs, divorcees, single mum, carreer minded unmarried women in this instance. So be it lah, its not always physical appearance, substance counts too lol....

Oh ya toking about entertainment and music, viet music abit emo lah, i cant take lol... Thai lovey dovey and emo level still ok for me hahahahahahah....

[Spectrre]

Also marriage to a thai pooying is not cheap too. Although they are slowly getting modernised, but some old culture tradition still apllies. You still need to take care of her whole village once married, if not whole village, at least whole extended family.

Not to mention the sin soot. Some mother in law nice, give back the sin soot, but most of the mother in law will keep the sin soot.

And its not cheap, if you marry a pooying when shes at her prime age, the sin soot can goes up to 250k thai baht, not to mention the gold ring, gold bracelet and so on. And the wedding ceremony.

In thailand, thais care about their face, so you can forget about your future wife helping you to save money on your future wedding.