when i'm expecting

[Subaru75]

Hi kitty maybe u have to close one eye if u Want to maintaince this relationship and not to forget ur child is coming soon ,so if u can't accept it.what will happen , and who will be the one to suffer and r u prepare for this .i believe u want to satisfy him but u say he have no interes,mayb he have ur interest i mind and want to wait till u give birth den he will start to have sex with u.most important thing do not get angry as no use crying over spilled milk ,if u need someone to talk to feel free to pm me

[kittymeow]

Hey Subaru75

close one eye? i think i have closed too many times according to my limits.
the past rshps i had before i got married, just one time of any infidelity and i will call the rshp off. with him, it's more than once that i have chose to forgive.
thinking back, it's so naive of me. I don't believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater" then. Now, i am tasting my own 'desserts' ?

i am comtemplating the thought of divorce right now. Either way, i think i have to suffer? But who knows, it might be better for both of us.

Angry? i am more like disappointed.

sure, thanks.

[sane]

Originally Posted by kittymeow

close one eye? i think i have closed too many times according to my limits.
the past rshps i had before i got married, just one time of any infidelity and i will call the rshp off. with him, it's more than once that i have chose to forgive.
thinking back, it's so naive of me. I don't believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater" then. Now, i am tasting my own 'desserts' ?

i am comtemplating the thought of divorce right now. Either way, i think i have to suffer? But who knows, it might be better for both of us.

Angry? i am more like disappointed.

sure, thanks.

Hi gal, the main focus now is not on your marriage but on your baby. Concentrate on your health, then focus on your baby. Once the baby is out, it's very mentally and physically draining. Have a good confinement to regain your health and figure. Be confident, have self esteem.
Perhaps u can take this time to bond with your hb too. If he prove himself to be a good dad, good hb, it's up to u whether to give him another chance. Once given, don't harp on the past or look back.
Make it clear to him. If he foil it again, u might want to decide on the next step. That might be the ultimate.

[Subaru75]

Originally Posted by sane

Hi gal, the main focus now is not on your marriage but on your baby. Concentrate on your health, then focus on your baby. Once the baby is out, it's very mentally and physically draining. Have a good confinement to regain your health and figure. Be confident, have self esteem.
Perhaps u can take this time to bond with your hb too. If he prove himself to be a good dad, good hb, it's up to u whether to give him another chance. Once given, don't harp on the past or look back.
Make it clear to him. If he foil it again, u might want to decide on the next step. That might be the ultimate.

I strongly agreed,now most important is to give birth to ur baby and after. Giving birth if ur husband are taking good care of both of u mother and baby just forget abt the past and move forward ,some time u will have to forget and forgive .who don't make mistake .maybe u also did but not so grave type and nobody know abt it .my advise is u need some one to talk to before u kanna depression .talk to ur friend open up so u will feel better

[kittymeow]

Originally Posted by sane

Hi gal, the main focus now is not on your marriage but on your baby. Concentrate on your health, then focus on your baby. Once the baby is out, it's very mentally and physically draining. Have a good confinement to regain your health and figure. Be confident, have self esteem.
Perhaps u can take this time to bond with your hb too. If he prove himself to be a good dad, good hb, it's up to u whether to give him another chance. Once given, don't harp on the past or look back.
Make it clear to him. If he foil it again, u might want to decide on the next step. That might be the ultimate.

So meaning if a man does his duties as a 'good' dad or hb infront, whatever that is going behind my back shall be ignored, is excusable?

Then do i still let him know that something is wrong or just keep mum about everything and move on.

He knows that the last thing i want is a husband who visited pros. I have lost respect for him already but i couldn't deny the fact that he has been caring all these while.

[kittymeow]

Originally Posted by Subaru75

I strongly agreed,now most important is to give birth to ur baby and after. Giving birth if ur husband are taking good care of both of u mother and baby just forget abt the past and move forward ,some time u will have to forget and forgive .who don't make mistake .maybe u also did but not so grave type and nobody know abt it .my advise is u need some one to talk to before u kanna depression .talk to ur friend open up so u will feel better

so the question here is.. do i still let him know that i have found out that he is actually not behaving himself as he seem to be? Or just keep quiet and move on.

Depression? think i'm having it.

[sane]

Originally Posted by kittymeow

So meaning if a man does his duties as a 'good' dad or hb infront, whatever that is going behind my back shall be ignored, is excusable?

Then do i still let him know that something is wrong or just keep mum about everything and move on.

He knows that the last thing i want is a husband who visited pros. I have lost respect for him already but i couldn't deny the fact that he has been caring all these while.

Focus on your health and baby first. Once settle everything after regaining your confidence n self esteem then deal with him.

There's so many more important things in life. Find yourself back, the former you who used to have so much drive in life.

He should and never be the main priority in your life.

[Subaru75]

[QUOTE=sane;8213611]Focus on your health and baby first. Once settle everything after regaining your confidence n self esteem then deal with him.


Agreed take care and recover first anything can talk after you give birth.Most important dont get depression due to all these stress that you are undergoing now .So don't think of anythig except for the small little life in you waiting to be due

[bionogne]

HI Kitty,

Juz finished reading through all the posts in your thread.
It came to my attention on a few things & here are my personal opinions coming from a man.

1. The emphassis you have here seems to be only only SEX. What about foreplay & masturbation? I think the SEX life you both are leading has lost the edge of LOVE & DESIRE.

2. Men & Women alike requires release. It's a physical thing but studies have shown the Women has much much higher tolerence. "Ever known a man that did not masturbate / get off for one month? How about women that doesn't engage intimacy for over 1year?

3. You have certainly read some of the FLs posts / threads... Ever done a BBBJ / CIM / HJ / COB with him? Nothing about FJ etc... Imagine getting yourself hyped up as a FL doing all those & stir his curiosity & passion...

You may think it's very demeaning, but when SEX life loses their desirability, it loses attention...
Anything I said was not intended in any way to hurt you...

Cheers...

[Foreva]

Originally Posted by kittymeow

Hi Foreva

how did your wife make you to say all your stories to her? my man is super good at talking, sometimes i do not know what i should believe. 'cause when i start taking his words, i will find stuff that will contradict.

and i think my man will just deny everything that i am going to ask him.

good to hear things are going well for you.

What's a JG btw?

She did nothing, I confessed. I feel that sometimes, what is past you have to let it pass or you will get 心病.
Then no matter what he say or do from there on will always be on your suspicion list. Just let go.

If he deny then deny lor. Take it that it is true if he still cares for the family and you. Start from now onwards cos you have one very innocent being coming soon. Kids with 2 parents and kids with 1 experience childhood with very big differences.

JG is 抓根. A massage for guys pubic area. Helps to clear the passage for the groin, bladder and testicles; so that blood circulation better in the region =
It is clean and it is NOT PCC by auntie...

[man2man]

Kittymeow
can get him to consult sex therapy..meaning , guide him back to sex within marriage..give it a try..if still fail..then consider otherwise...can?

[kittymeow]

Originally Posted by bionogne

HI Kitty,

Juz finished reading through all the posts in your thread.
It came to my attention on a few things & here are my personal opinions coming from a man.

1. The emphassis you have here seems to be only only SEX. What about foreplay & masturbation? I think the SEX life you both are leading has lost the edge of LOVE & DESIRE.
we do have foreplay and i do even help him to masturbate, when he said he wanted that.

2. Men & Women alike requires release. It's a physical thing but studies have shown the Women has much much higher tolerence. "Ever known a man that did not masturbate / get off for one month? How about women that doesn't engage intimacy for over 1year?
i can't imagine that as i do enjoy and love sex, or rather physical intimacy is very important to me.

3. You have certainly read some of the FLs posts / threads... Ever done a BBBJ / CIM / HJ / COB with him? Nothing about FJ etc... Imagine getting yourself hyped up as a FL doing all those & stir his curiosity & passion...
all these are done? i'm open and game to try anything in sex, as long as it's safe.

You may think it's very demeaning, but when SEX life loses their desirability, it loses attention...
Anything I said was not intended in any way to hurt you...
no worries.

Cheers...

Hi bionogne

1. we do have foreplay and i do even help him to masturbate, when he said he wanted that.

2. i can't imagine that as i do enjoy and love sex, or rather physical intimacy is very important to me.

3. all these are done? i'm open and game to try anything in sex, as long as it's safe sex.

no worries.

[kittymeow]

Originally Posted by bionogne

HI Kitty,

Juz finished reading through all the posts in your thread.
It came to my attention on a few things & here are my personal opinions coming from a man.

1. The emphassis you have here seems to be only only SEX. What about foreplay & masturbation? I think the SEX life you both are leading has lost the edge of LOVE & DESIRE.
we do have foreplay and i do even help him to masturbate, when he said he wanted that.

2. Men & Women alike requires release. It's a physical thing but studies have shown the Women has much much higher tolerence. "Ever known a man that did not masturbate / get off for one month? How about women that doesn't engage intimacy for over 1year?
i can't imagine that as i do enjoy and love sex, or rather physical intimacy is very important to me.

3. You have certainly read some of the FLs posts / threads... Ever done a BBBJ / CIM / HJ / COB with him? Nothing about FJ etc... Imagine getting yourself hyped up as a FL doing all those & stir his curiosity & passion...
all these are done? i'm open and game to try anything in sex, as long as it's safe.

You may think it's very demeaning, but when SEX life loses their desirability, it loses attention...
Anything I said was not intended in any way to hurt you...
no worries.

Cheers...

1. we do have foreplay and i do even help him to masturbate, when he said he wanted that.[/COLOR]

2. i can't imagine that as i do enjoy and love sex, or rather physical intimacy is very important to me.

3. all these are done? i'm open and game to try anything in sex, as long as it's safe sex.

no worries.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by kittymeow

1. we do have foreplay and i do even help him to masturbate, when he said he wanted that.

2. i can't imagine that as i do enjoy and love sex, or rather physical intimacy is very important to me.

3. all these are done? i'm open and game to try anything in sex, as long as it's safe sex.

no worries.

You're really a good sexual partner, sis kittymeow !!....wish all LSD wifeys r like you...so rare to find...ur hubby doesn't seem to appreciate such a good find of his...Btw congrats on ur recent baby delivery ! ...issit a boy or gal, wt...baby is doing fine, we believe...if u dun mind sharing wif us ..hope u resolve ur problem wif ur hubby soon...best wishes !