Hurting someone who is deeply in love with you - Page 4

oxilary · #46 10-04-2005, 01:17 AM

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Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

Move on!!!

i've been feeling vv differently at all the different stages of my life. been lovelorn for a good 3 years. Always wondering whether i'll see her when i'm in her area. yearning to see her but at the same time afraid.

i've never seen her for at least 4.5 yrs. Finally sometime ago, told her my feelings and let it all out. Told her i wasn't expecting anything, just wanted to get it off and close that chapter. Of cos i was hoping for something to happen but it didn't. Felt so much better, but there are still times, i really hope to be with her..

hopefully i moved on or can move on. thanks

Deztruct · #47 10-04-2005, 01:20 AM

take care and as cliche as it sound
hope time can heal ur wound

oxilary · #48 10-04-2005, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

take care and as cliche as it sound
hope time can heal ur wound

urs as well

time for sappy old love songs..

banker · #49 10-04-2005, 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by oxilary

life is full of regrets.. the only thing we can do abt it is to try to have lesser of 'em.

nice phrase

i will try to lesser one regret soon,

i going to tell her I LIKE HER VERY MUCH.
even she is now attached. who cares,
at least I TRY.

oxilary · #50 10-04-2005, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by banker

i going to tell her I LIKE HER VERY MUCH.
even she is now attached. who cares,
at least I TRY.

yesh.. let her know. never suffer in silence

else u'd be giving urself extras and confinement only

Forgiven · #51 10-04-2005, 01:49 AM

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Originally Posted by MachoDevilX

I personally find that knowing the fact that we have hurt someone deeply (emotions and feelings) is more hurtful then someone hurt us. Does anyone has the same view as me?

I personally find that I would rather someone to hurt me then I have to hurt someone who loves me deeply. In reality, it is often the case that none of us can have the best of both worlds and we often have to make decisions to disappoint other parties in order to be together with another person.

Any bros have experienced the feeling before, please share your story.
Thanks!

My experience is that somehow we can end up hurting deepest the one we love the most......at the moment the pain and remorse can really drive us crazy........

but I also come to realise this, this shows that we love ourselves more than we love the other party. Cheers.

oxilary · #52 10-04-2005, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Forgiven

but I also come to realise this, this shows that we love ourselves more than we love the other party. Cheers.

i agree with this to a certain extent.. sometimes i find myself a tad too narcissistic.

Deztruct · #53 10-04-2005, 02:03 AM

i always believe in telling the person tat u love her even if circumstances doesnt allow it..after all how many chances do u hv to tell a person tat..

tats y even up to now..i still sms her i love u or i miss u to her once awhile..who care if she doesnt reply...she can dun love me but she cant stop me from loving her

oxilary · #54 10-04-2005, 02:08 AM

i realised that, when i was almost knocked down, having the hesitation to try again. life really seems to just flash past u when u're having a near death crisis.

although the answer was painful, leaving me when i was. i am still glad i asked. And years later after i told her how i felt. I was so much relieved.. what a big burden off the chest.

Eternity_Gal · #55 10-04-2005, 02:53 AM

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Originally Posted by oxilary

I was so much relieved.. what a big burden off the chest.

Good to hear that you are much better after letting it out. Life still goes on, hmm..you are lucky to be' able to 've a small grp of them here for u to lend their hearing ears..

oxilary · #56 10-04-2005, 03:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Eternity_Gal

Good to hear that you are much better after letting it out. Life still goes on, hmm..you are lucky to be' able to 've a small grp of them here for u to lend their hearing ears..

cest la vie~

yeah i guess i am. been telling the same story so much to ppl that i bottle it up. don't want to keep whining to the same grp of ppl over the same matter.

Thanks ppl

arizona · #57 10-04-2005, 03:20 AM

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Originally Posted by traummy

yes...i must confess that i did hurt some people in my life until now...and i believe i am still in this same shit....sigh..and these people i hurt are the people who loves me most....

i hate myself for not able to keep my love to One.... i had been thinking lately...how, when and who i will be hurting if things keep going on like this on me....

my wife(6years) who loves me deeply...my mistress(malaysian) (4years)who madly in loves with me for years....my PA (1year) in Indonesia who loves me innocently.....a divorced teacher (2months) who getting to loves me deeply....a copywriter/editor(KL) (1month) falling for me.......

WHAT THE FARK HAVE I DONE!!!...........i know i am a good analyser..balancer...but........all these women...I asked myself DO I LOVE them...and answer is YES!...........

Give this man a Thaigirl...ops I mean Tiger!! or did u mix too much with Adam King...all women luvs him...look at the Guiness ads !!!

arizona · #58 10-04-2005, 03:32 AM

Bro MDX...

All I can say is either wifey/GF or Lover...and that cums wif a price...knowing what u can give or cannot give to neither one ..then u hv to decide ...

Love is a funny thing...it can spur you...made you ...encourage you..yet it can also lead U to heavy lust...lose of direction and worse of all ...lost of Trust in the process

Hurt one heal two... or Hurt 2 heal zero

Heart hurt deep deep urself...U still hv to made decision...

3 - 1 = 2...

thisisatiko · #59 10-04-2005, 03:55 AM

Hey ppl...
yeah... read ur views on being hurt by gals whom u really love..
well.. i'm in a similar situation.. was in a r/s and somehow felt like i was the happiest man in the world.. and when she wanted to end the r/s, my whole world jus came on me.. hai~~ everyday cannot eat and sleep as well.. used to cry myself to sleep...
oh well.. life still has to move on.. dunno is a gd or bad thing tat i still see her everyday.. hai~~...
jus hope tat she will always stay happy

to all the samsters who r happily attached and married.. do treasure ur partner!! Cheers~~!!!

thisisatiko · #60 10-04-2005, 03:57 AM

Everything Changes.... But Beauty Remains