Safe to travel alone with PRC GF back to China?

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

Erhh... but u are getting into debt mah..

There is NO FAIRNESS in the world. Choices are made by man.

Also, try to lose some weight. 90KG not very healthy

It is your life so live it your way... we can only share but ultimately, u make the choice

Haha my GF is telling me to do that also.

As she quote "During these times when I am not around by your side, you should use your spare time to exercise and lose some weight as I want you to look your best for me."

[azzaro23]

My lack of trust for her is playing havoc with me again.

Call her just now didn't get through a few times, got worry try call her another number.

Finally got through she pick up background is noisy sound like karaoke room she say she is singing karaoke with her sis.

During the week I am there with her & her sis, her sis and her told me she doesn't like to sing nor go to karaoke.

Am i right to be suspect that is she telling the truth? Should I send a sms to question her how come she never sms to tell me that she going to such places?

Am I too control over her? Why I am paranoid again?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

My lack of trust for her is playing havoc with me again.

Call her just now didn't get through a few times, got worry try call her another number.

Finally got through she pick up background is noisy sound like karaoke room she say she is singing karaoke with her sis.

During the week I am there with her & her sis, her sis and her told me she doesn't like to sing nor go to karaoke.

Am i right to be suspect that is she telling the truth? Should I send a sms to question her how come she never sms to tell me that she going to such places?

Am I too control over her? Why I am paranoid again?

Here are some golden rules you must follow:
1)Never call anyone else not in your circle to verify anything...99.99% all are cahoots on this!

2) All phone numbers there are prepaid....why would anyone need more than one number?

3) Never be too over anxious...yes you will be but never show it...better they get excited than you

Actually, what you are worried about are already answered by yourself above....a normal girl would tell you where she's goin and wif who....then again, PRCs may use that to give you false security...the only only way to excel in this is to outwit them.
See, you have all the traits already above, but you choose to lie and look for comfort zones........honestly, i was never so jialat like you!
Think you will end up more jialat than me..........won't be surprised if you may end up committing suicide....and trust me, i've heard of SG guys hara kiri becos of situations like yours!
The worst thing is to get bankrupt and loose everything and left our to dry!
USE YOUR BRAIN USE YOUR BRAIN...let your heart go on a holiday & i'm sure you'll see clearer........
Better still, start penning down all the wierd things that doesn't make sense and then go thru them ever so often..........you may just see what you were hoping not to see!
Fark, you starving yourself out & she going karaoke......nabei, got logic?????


Good also lah, the start means the end is near.....then this episode will be over.......

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Am I too control over her? Why I am paranoid again?

You're paranoid becos 1+1 doesn't add to 2...here's your first UNEXPLAINED or riddles or loopholes.........hahaha...dun worry...more to come bro...photostat

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

You're paranoid becos 1+1 doesn't add to 2...here's your first UNEXPLAINED or riddles or loopholes.........hahaha...dun worry...more to come bro...photostat

Jialat the feeling is eating me alive inside....

Send her a sms asking her why she go sing karaoke with her sis never let me know? As she know that I always call her around 10 pm every evening.

I am not controlling her but at least send me an sms so I can call her later and won't panic if i can't get through her number.

Am i wrong to ask her to do that?

Anyway she claims that she went dentist to fix her teeth so there might be pain & discomfort. If so still can go karaoke sing?

All doesn't add up man cannot tahan the feeling starting to shivering uncontrollable again....

[airbrush]

bro DO_YOU_BJ it very rare to read story you had posted here I enjoyed reading them and also enlightened by your personal experiences which you have the gut to share them here. Not many people has this kind on courage, confident and ability to do it. Do enlightened brothers here with more of your experiences. Cheers

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

All doesn't add up man cannot tahan the feeling starting to shivering uncontrollable again....

Hey dude, spend some small money to hire a private detective over there to check her out and get it over with. This will save you not only big money but all these BS.

In case u dun know, it's very common to find such detective that specializes in checking on partners over there. Do something like a man and stop whining here

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Hey dude, spend some small money to hire a private detective over there to check her out and get it over with. This will save you not only big money but all these BS.

In case u dun know, it's very common to find such detective that specializes in checking on partners over there. Do something like a man and stop whining here

Any idea how much it would cost me to hire one? If so where can I look for one?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by airbrush

bro DO_YOU_BJ it very rare to read story you had posted here I enjoyed reading them and also enlightened by your personal experiences which you have the gut to share them here. Not many people has this kind on courage, confident and ability to do it. Do enlightened brothers here with more of your experiences. Cheers

Bro airbrush, tks for your upps.....
Actually, there's more to the story...but nitty griity parts that seems to be surfacing from azzarro's case liao.
There's no shame if one dares admit and move on...there's only shame only if one decides to hide it.......
I know bro, face value......

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Hey dude, spend some small money to hire a private detective over there to check her out and get it over with. This will save you not only big money but all these BS.

In case u dun know, it's very common to find such detective that specializes in checking on partners over there. Do something like a man and stop whining here

Eh bro GP...errrrrr dun think it's a good idea to suggest any additional financial expenditure for this dude liao.....by his comments...errrr he kinda jialat liao

Also i feel, if you resort to PI, dun even need to continue liao cos the trust factor is too darn little already.
This was suggested to me when i was in it & this was how i answered my bro who of cos, agreed..........
Why pay to get a punch in the tummy rite?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Any idea how much it would cost me to hire one? If so where can I look for one?

Actually no need to spend...very simple
She's coming back right............
Ok, all you need to do is engage someone here to sian her...that'll proove how loyal & truthful she's to you liao.....someone stronger minded than you!

I've heard of PIs in cahoots with the suspect too...heard in from my local friends in ShenYang

[azzaro23]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Actually no need to spend...very simple
She's coming back right............
Ok, all you need to do is engage someone here to sian her...that'll proove how loyal & truthful she's to you liao.....someone stronger minded than you!

I've heard of PIs in cahoots with the suspect too...heard in from my local friends in ShenYang

Thanks for the tip bro....

although she say going to send me a sms when she get home and I call her up to chat.

Doubt so she will even send the sms.

Anyway taken a sleeping pill going to force myself to sleep if not I will keep thinking & thinking...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by azzaro23

Thanks for the tip bro....

although she say going to send me a sms when she get home and I call her up to chat.

Doubt so she will even send the sms.

Anyway taken a sleeping pill going to force myself to sleep if not I will keep thinking & thinking...

Sigh, seeing you say this makes me really feel sad for you.

Since you're at this state, allow me to now elaborate on the recuperating part..................

Days went by...started to feel very empty.....my other 2 women were always by my side...total depression....crying like a leaking tap...my general manager called on me one day & wanted to see me...she's same age as me & my right hand..she heard what was happening but didn't want to interfere for fear loosing her job...but being friends for over 10yrs liao she came to me............
She was shocked to see me at the state, totally empty, lifeless...just smoke & drink that's all...no appetite....sad state....at 1st she tot it was my number 3...but after i told her everything, she didn't know how to react for this was one she didn't know.
Anyways she tried comforting me but didn't work....she just told me, the palace needs a king...time to wake up & come back......then left

Days and nights went past...cold chills, tearing sessions, dreams, visions...the tot of never being together again.......the battle of logic & hopes.......it was tearing me apart....my number 2 was helpless...me always being the leader to guide her through everything personal and work...........
2 weeks passed, my best bro finally came back & visited me...he's a specialists and a private hospital here also the one who went up with me on my last trip.......
He stared at me....speechless......ok here's the deal...you need to go for a medical checkup BADLY! you're gonna have a breakdown soon if this goes on.....told him ok ok will do so....
Then my number 2 suggested I go to church for healing sessions....me roman catholic FYI & hv attended many healing sessions......REALLY WORKS! Darn, how did i forget? Shit, i've done everything humanly possible liao but still so cloudy up there.......heart beats were scary...punping so fast that you can actually see the shirt thumping.....sometimes i think this is it...tonight is the nite i return to the maker

[DO_YOU_BJ]

The next few days were unbearable, already almost 2weeks passed, less than 6hrs sleep..........
A bro came over one day & said, dude, sell this place & move back home to your wife n kid....it'll help.......this place too many bad memories liao, staying here will keep bringing up the tots and will tear you away slowly but surely......my 2 other wives were there but the agreed with his suggestion....also anything that can bring back a tot, throw it away.........OK!
That night, literally threw everything away, left the furniture only.
Sent me 2 wives back n went home.
My kid was thrilled to see me & honestly, i have really missed her.....hugged her & said, BABY, DADDY MISS U......started crying.....she started to cry too.......my mom came out & hugged me...welcome back son..........u've lost weight.........apparently, a bro have already kinda told them what happeded & they were never a step away from me.....eagerly waiting to be by my side.......the power of family bros.........only in my mid 30s married for 11 years then i learnt that............somehow, just looking at my kid calms me down.............
Well, then came the night....the time i fear the most...tots of her will bring cold chills, butterfly in the stomach feelings.......increased heart rate....nausea totally can't control........but i had to bear wif it...........

Finally went to church...so happy...help....almighty, pls help me.........as the healing started, i nearly died...my heartbeat was so fast that i cant take it anymore.........my 2nd wife saw my face and said, let's leave.......once we were at the car...i lit a cigarette and she asked me what happened?????? Your whole face turn blue........I nearly passed out...i said...dunno why, suddenly got this anxiety attack...like something wants to come out but something keeps pressing it back...........she was so darn worried she called my doc bro who asked her to drive to his clinic immediately..................

[antlau]

sometimes you just have to let go, and let natural takes its course...what is yours, will come back to you. You cant change what is going to happen, especially since both of you are miles apart, might as well take this chance to calm down, re-evaluate your life priorities, and TAKE GOOD CARE of your own self

There are a whole big lot of forest out there, i am not asking you to play around, but just telling you to get your eyes opened, dont be fogged by a tree in front of you..

All the best.