Why do men stray

[Stud00]

TS,

Both Men and Women strayed..
and i had the awesome priveledge to experience a women straying.
i think end of the day, is the individuals value system. that is about all.
Some guys/gals just won't stray while others think its perfectly ok!

Cheers

[cheongsterjon]

I think it would be unfair if you said only men stray....you can always take a seat at those coffeeshop seats near hotel 81 or fragrance hotel (those frequented by locals) during lunchtime and you would be surprised how many married women (local OLs) are checking in with their ''boyfriends''..things i can observe is these women are married because they wear a wedding ring on their fourth finger and there may be a possibility that these men they are with are their husbands who want a quickie but highly possible that they are only office colleaugues who they are having an affair with....

I think if their husbands have been eating behind their back, this is karma for their wives to be doing the same but if their husbands have been faithful..then wearing a green cap maybe too much to bear

[jasdude]

This question is a classic . However , the LADIES nowdays had jumped onto the bandwagon and is a growing trend .

There are many reasons for "Partners" to stray ;from proof of self ,lack of sex , love or companionship to failure to resist temptation . Reason or excuses , we have to think back , cos relationships between two persons is a continous building block . Although the higher it is , the slower it gets and the higher the difficulty to keep it from toppling . It does not mean you stop . It just means you must work doubley hard to keep it going .............

[hickeybites]

Dear TS,

My personal 2c as someone who's unfortunately been on both sides of the fence: my newly coined 2 words - I've been both the the "strayee" & the "strayer".
Asking the question "Why Men & Women stray? " (let's be fair here) is akin to asking the questions like
- "Why can't there be peace on earth?"
- "Why are there starving children in the world?"
- "Why does bird poop seem to always aim for my car?" *just kidding ~ but it's really my personal fav question at outdoor carparks*

I'm not saying that it's right to stray... but it's very common (note that I'm using the word "common" not "normal").
We are human beings - imperfect, weak & vulnerable to the last pore. Moreover life's not black & white - so many nuances of grey & colour...
Rather I personally think the more crucial issue would be how both the "strayee" & the "strayer" addresses & handles the infidelity.
Do we choose to behave with grace/class/discretion/composure or act like Neanderthals?

Somehow TS's question made me think of the song "Ironic" by Alanis Morissette....

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by hickeybites

- "Why does bird poop seem to always aim for my car?" *just kidding ~ but it's really my personal fav question at outdoor carparks*

Thats a question I can relate to !

[rokhard]

Its interesting to use the food analogy.

We know we like home-cooked food: it is healthy and definitely cooked with love (because someone slaved to produce this home-cooked food).

Now we like variety, but here is where I disagree with the logic. Do we need to eat out for sake of variety? Surely, the home cook can produce any variety of dishes. I am a man and I cook, and I can produce a staggering variety of cuisines and cooking styles.

It can't be variety because we don't involve the cook in the eat out. Why not?

If you look carefully at this analogy and the real world of cheating, the drive to eat out is not about variety but the need to please ourselves. This straying is self-centered. It is only about me, myself and my needs. My intention is not to pour cold water on the parade, but I am trying to be honest. When I eat out, I cheat. Coming home again to eat home-cooked food does not make me less unfaithful.

We try to 'blame' our spouses for going out to eat because 1. the cook doesn't cook everyday (sounds like a damn good reason) or 2. home-cooked food is not so tasty anymore (well she used to cook well but not now, sounds like another good reason). But did behave like that when our spouses/partners were once the whole world to us?

I believe (and this is my personal take on fidelity and cheating) that we have lost sight of what it means to be together. For those of us who started out with sex as the only reason for being together, I can't help you here. But for those of us who entered into a serious relationship, surely we remembered it was love that brought us together. Love is about really wanting to spend our lives together: good times and bad times. It needs communication and constant watering. If cooked well, you should have a bond that goes beyond what is on the menu tonight. And for the lucky few, the sex gives birth to a family that should have love at the heart of the menu.

[Chanelfingers]

Many many reasons... Main answer she is not really what he wants at that moment of time..So he eats out...

He want pink nipples, she dun have
He want slender waist, she Lost them
He want D cups, hers is A B C
He want moaning, she scared children hear
He want threesome, she laughs at him
He want variety, she Ask him to do dishes instead of sweeping
He want Cosplay, she won't fit
He want OL, she housewife
He want lingerine, she say costly
He want foreign talent, she is not
He want bbbj, she says smelly
He want Syt, she milf
He want rough sex, she hits him
He want variety, she is not versatile

[Yaphets]

I'd like to answer this question changing it to "why do I stray"?

I used to be someone whom thought that I'd never stray in a relationship. But recently I just went for my first commercial sex. And I know that once I step into it, there will definitely be a second and a third time. So why did I stray? Simply because sex at home is unbearably mundane. I'm not accusing my partner of not being able to pleasure me enough. I'm accusing her at not trying to. So thus sex between us is totally boring for me. But it is not boring for her at all because I'm doing a great job satisfying her needs. How do I know? Because I've talked to her many times on the topic already. Until I find it really screwed up then I finally decided to go for commercial sex. So for me, it's because I'm being I'll treated and starved at home that's why I choose not to torture myself and eat out instead.

[blohsg]

Nel : this limerick should be posted in 2centsworth "Girls-who-are-cock-teasers" ...

How do you plan to deal with yours in the future if he wants to eat out ? I'm assuming your listed reasons may apply to you in some ways ?

[Chanelfingers]

Guys OT

Originally Posted by blohsg

Nel : this limerick should be posted in 2centsworth "Girls-who-are-cock-teasers" ...

How do you plan to deal with yours in the future if he wants to eat out ? I'm assuming your listed reasons may apply to you in some ways ?

Blohsg, can u type chanel instead of nel?
Nel reminds me of purple line...
If he wants to eat out, I can't stop him...
But if he is satisfied, why should he eat out?
Regards The listed reasons... I'm quite open with most requests...I dun have much rules/ restrictions
I have lotsa ideas,Just that the guy may not be ok... Lol

@4horseman
U heard of pink nipple cream, lightens n pinks the nipple in two weeks

[rob_onny]

2 make massages interesting & 4 illustration purpose... no discrimination intended...
Nevertheless, we guys really really luv Abalones...

Originally Posted by Cchansey

Sheesh i dont know why u guys like to compare women to food -.- they're human right?
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Wow, must ensure that these raisins r wash clean clean...
If not, mouth & tongue may turn pink 2... lol...

Originally Posted by Chanelfingers

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@4horseman
U heard of pink nipple cream, lightens n pinks the nipple in two weeks

[Reoxy]

Men and women stray because they cannot/ do not control their cocks and pussies.

Simple answer for simple question.

There is no need for sugar coating.

[hoA123]

imho, it's all down animal instinct - our nature.

some might say it's the chase.
some might say it's boredom.
some might say it's vengeance.

given an opportunity, people would stray.
we have it in us to have multiple partners to better increase our chances of producing a better offspring.
some of us might disagree, saying it's just for fucking fun. (or fun fucking)

well, Reoxy got it right. we stray coz we can't control the animal in us.

[Chanelfingers]

Wow, must ensure that these raisins r wash clean clean...
If not, mouth & tongue may turn pink 2... lol...

no la, the cream whitens n tints it pink.

[Chanelfingers]

Originally Posted by fourhorseman

Nope. I have sensitive skin. Not sure of these creams will cause rashes on my lips anot.

Girls buy it to tint the lips pink too..