Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[notti4u]

Originally Posted by (o)(o) Tuner

Marriage is a long journey, everyone has to go thru some difficult times including myself. When my first child was born, wife was very inactive and reluctant for sex. The frequency was like twice a month, if I am lucky.

I still remember 1 incident whereby I was so desperate for sex and I couldn't get to sleep. Wife was asleep, so I turn to my computer and watch porn. Wife woke up and saw me, she asked me "這麽晚了你還不睡，你真的那麽需要嗎"? In my heart I was "thinking of course la, which man dun like to fuck"? Before I can even reply and ask her for sex, she went back to the bedroom to sleep. That moment I banged my balls, I was so pissed off.
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Bro, me too was caught by her watching porn and she said Man are pervert and dirty and went back to sleep. Next day, she scolded me for sleeping late and not helping her to do the kids.

[Shadow_warrior]

I always watch porn in front of her, to let her know I am not satisfied

Why let someone say you are dirty old man who only want sex "from anyone"

when the one you want sex from is not giving you any attention?

[v-factor]

Originally Posted by notti4u

Bro, me too was caught by her watching porn and she said Man are pervert and dirty and went back to sleep. Next day, she scolded me for sleeping late and not helping her to do the kids.

I once suggested missus to watch porn with me, so that we can learn something to satisfy each other, and she can also understand more on what are the areas she can work on to become more sexually attractive.

Ended up with her telling me " I don't even understand why is there a need to watch porn. It is just plain tasteless"

[analog]

Originally Posted by (o)(o) Tuner

Marriage is a long journey, everyone has to go thru some difficult times including myself. When my first child was born, wife was very inactive and reluctant for sex. The frequency was like twice a month, if I am lucky.

Twice a month? Bro, are you kidding? Most guys on this board would think they're in heaven if they got pussy from their wives twice a month and you're trying to make out that's a bad thing?

Mate, you should try my wife......after kids it was MAYBE once a year.
Twice a month, you lucky bastard.

Cheers,
jim

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by v-factor

Bro, perhaps you can ask her to choose between you being a pervert towards her or other ladies. That was what I asked my missus. And her friends also not frequent? You mean she discuss sex lives with her friends? That's awkward.

Girls do discuss,like we guys at times.

Their topic quite surface la, like my husband have sex freq/ or not etc. But no details...

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

damn aweful

your woman said these things to you?

ALL these women doing stuff like this will end up with the following results (purpose of our club get togethers)

1. We will get even, meaning either we find a new love, affairrs, or we find FL, ONS
2. We will regain our dignity as men, and head of the house, you either understand we are men with needs, or we stop being loyal to you, or we leave and Divorce you

One way or another we will make our lifes normal again, because sex is a bloody part of marriage, and we are not Beggars. Wives have a obligation to fulfill their husband needs, its a part of marriage, and an important part. Woman need to understand how important it is for men to get love and acceptance from the wife. Otherwise, we turn bitter, and we ask why are we hanging around for?

Dont complain your man is pervert, sex crazy, or wants too much, hassle

I know of a true story a bro, his wife said all these to him, but guess what? His wife was a really slut when she met someone in the office she liked
She even give her virgin asshole, swallow(she never do it for her husband of 8 years)

Bro nice said!

Nowadays like totally woman dominates...
We do more household chores now, we can't make decisions, financially we have to support, and in bedroom we beg.

Welcome to modern day hubby

[bernardlee]

Divorce? Stay in marriage do more housework hoping to get sex once or twice in a year? Eat outside? I feel so pathetic to end up at this stage of life.

[bernardlee]

Now my wife asked me to go Geylang. This is pure misery.

[LovePotion]

haiz... thats why sometimed people mentioned that marriage is like hell

[Stormz]

Originally Posted by gilagila100

Not so simple sometimes ... this is a very tricky question to answer ...

But I heard this from a lao jiao,

Make love to ur wife ...
Have sex with FL ...

Go chiong, bring $$$ & 2IC but dun bring heart ... No matter wat must go home to sleep

Not everyone is lucky to be able to have sex and make love with the same woman ...

*clap clap clap* golden words..

[tantan1234]

this thread is almost dead.

Anyway. My wife wanted a divorce nw, saying this is not the type of married she wants.

And she wants to bring away our child. I can't fight for that because I confirm lose.

Now feeling so sad, tat I can't live with my child anymore.



Even if I try to salvage, will i be kicking the can down the road? The can can never disappear. It is the character and the stuff she already did. The actions already caused the hurt and the drift.

I am thinking so hard. Shld I close one eye, or even both eyes so tat the family can stay, so tat i can do away with the dreaded paper works, the process, and to keep my child with me?
Eternity blinded?


What shit life throws at me!

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by tamtam

As for me, I have tried so many ways to salvage my marriage, example : Go holidays without childrens following, go out dating after children slept, heart to heart talk, etc....

It never worked !

So now i have made up my mind, i only live for my children...She is not in this equation anymore. I felt cheated the moment i marrys her.

Now i just make myself very happy bonking any kind of ladies i want, then go home be a nice father, there is no need to be a nice husband anymore.

My marriage really sucks big time !

The followings realities are what i have suck up all these years:

1) Buy a car for wife to use : you dont get to fuck her
2) buy and stay in condo : you still dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays with kids : you dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays without kids : She shopped till drop, too tired, she wont allow you to fuck her.
4) etc....still dont get to fuck her

On the other end...
1) If you willing to buy a car for fb, you will get alot of fb queueing up...
2) rent a condo for fb/girlfriend...They let you screw her anytime of the day, 24/7
2) provide fb/gf with some living expenses...they stick to u like glue.
3) Bring then for short cheap trip....they worshipped you, probably let you screw any hole on her body.
4) She bathed and powder herself while waiting for you to come over to spend time with her.

I will happily spend my money on my mistress and get good returns.
I used to go home with my sperm tank full and cannot release...how frustrating ! But now my sperm tank is always empty hehe.

I go home happy nowaday. Not a good solution for all, but it works for me.

I like what you wrote

Woman we marry take us for granted

women outside know they have to work for our affection

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

this thread is almost dead.

Anyway. My wife wanted a divorce nw, saying this is not the type of married she wants.

And she wants to bring away our child. I can't fight for that because I confirm lose.

Now feeling so sad, tat I can't live with my child anymore.



Even if I try to salvage, will i be kicking the can down the road? The can can never disappear. It is the character and the stuff she already did. The actions already caused the hurt and the drift.

I am thinking so hard. Shld I close one eye, or even both eyes so tat the family can stay, so tat i can do away with the dreaded paper works, the process, and to keep my child with me?
Eternity blinded?


What shit life throws at me!

You sound like a good man who tried to be a husband and father

I know its hard bro, but move on if you really cant salvage

you might find someone who loves you like you love them

[ColdBlood99]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

this thread is almost dead.

Anyway. My wife wanted a divorce nw, saying this is not the type of married she wants.

And she wants to bring away our child. I can't fight for that because I confirm lose.

Now feeling so sad, tat I can't live with my child anymore.



Even if I try to salvage, will i be kicking the can down the road? The can can never disappear. It is the character and the stuff she already did. The actions already caused the hurt and the drift.

I am thinking so hard. Shld I close one eye, or even both eyes so tat the family can stay, so tat i can do away with the dreaded paper works, the process, and to keep my child with me?
Eternity blinded?


What shit life throws at me!

think positive, go salvage your relationship. you should fight for your familiy.

[Camel]

I do not know if anyone notice this, but i realise a pattern.

If have certain good friends say 6 of them all of them chinese males, now 3
of them married chinese girls and the other 3 married girls of other races 2 of
them malay and 1 with an ah neh girl.

Now those that married with the chinese girls, their situations are the same
as you guys, no sex after marriage and etc.

But the guys that married the other races seem to have sex many times. One
colleague, he married a malay (he is chinese), he strained his cock due to
over sex, he told me his wife wants sex atleast 4 times a week and he cannot keep up.

Now this is not 1 or 2 of them but seems like everyone who marries a non
chinese girl, could it be a pattern?

Any thoughts on this phenomenon?