Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[smay]

Brother,

2 of you are a good match, treasure your wife. She has a good mindset to please the husband. You must also try to satisfy her.

My wife and I are just same like you, but we have kids and elder at home. Every time we "do" we have to be discreet.

Originally Posted by FRwriter

Guys, I don't know am I lucky or what..

My wife like more "gian" than me into having sex. I'm 31 and she's 34 this yr. In a week, we have sex about 7-10 times. Be it a quickie or a long sex session.

But last month, the gynae diagnosed my wife as infertile. I did some research that women who are "infertile" tend not to be so sexually active.

Some times while watching tv, I will be hugging her while we watch. She can suddenly touch my dick tickle it and it hardens. Next thing she will say she want to have sex.
At times, in the morning when she have no meetings, she will put her hands into my shorts and see if my dick harden, if yes, she will strip naked and expect me to give her a shot.

Ok lah, at times I want to do she also allow. Got a few times when she was washing the dishes, I from behind huged her and my hands unbutton her hot pants and touched her. She will stop her washing and let me do it with her.

Btw, we stay alone.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by smay

Hearing so much from all of you, is this the reason your wife don't want to make love with you:

"If you gave your girl a foreplay orgasm and are able to give her penetration orgasms she is going to want you to keep going. It is very simple, when it feels good she wants more. (When it’s the best of her life, she can’t get enough of it.) If you can’t last long enough to give her a penetration orgasms (usually AT LEAST 10 minutes) then she is going to become frustrated and start making up excuses for not having sex." - 2 Girls Teach Sex

I would like to share what I have read from the report.

Bro I did everything there is to do to make her feel good in bed and I know each time we do it I always make sure she has an orgasm...i know cos she will hug me and claw my back each time she coming....but the fact is she is just don't feel sex is an important part of our marriage...she honestly think that a marriage can be sustained with just emotional bonding...but the problem is if you don't have any physical bonding how are you going to develop a emotional bond?

[bernardlee]

My wife wants emotional bonding first, but sex is not guarantee.

[bernardlee]

Mind you change that avatar. I got freak out when I see the Frankenstein.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by bernardlee

Mind you change that avatar. I got freak out when I see the Frankenstein.

Don't be there is always a monster within all of us....anyway I can't believe that there are wives like mine who is either so naive or choose to think that a marriage can be strengthen just only by emotional bonding...even a plant that has only sunshine but no water will wither away...

[bernardlee]

When my wife shows disrespect for the husband, it is a real turn off. The romance and GFE all goes down the drain.

Can't they learn from Japanese / Korean housewifes to treat their husband with some respect? As a husband, I just do not feel good. Her motherly part of her is so BIG, that she treats be like her kid. It hurts my male ego badly.

Now I understand why my friend chose to marry a pretty China wife and then found a job, working for a Singapore company, but re-located to China office in Suzhou. I believe he is living more like a "man" in China now. I really envy him.

Hmmm. Another colleague also doing the same thing. Got a wife in China and never come back.

[tttk3388]

Maybe this article can give some bros here some ideals. No harm trying but if you tried and it doesnt improve you lose nothing either! For me, changing of environment and having some alcoholic drinks do spice up things alittle.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa...e_secrets.html

[Wizrd]

Originally Posted by bernardlee

When my wife shows disrespect for the husband, it is a real turn off. The romance and GFE all goes down the drain.

Can't they learn from Japanese / Korean housewifes to treat their husband with some respect? As a husband, I just do not feel good. Her motherly part of her is so BIG, that she treats be like her kid. It hurts my male ego badly.

Now I understand why my friend chose to marry a pretty China wife and then found a job, working for a Singapore company, but re-located to China office in Suzhou. I believe he is living more like a "man" in China now. I really envy him.

Hmmm. Another colleague also doing the same thing. Got a wife in China and never come back.

Errrmmmm...not so sure about that bro...

My experience with prc is not that great.

Yes there are some subservient ones but most of them are nice and gentle outside (peel prawns and wipe sweat for you) but mean and nasty when at home (scream, yell, 一哭二闹三上吊)...

Don't forget that its the Chinese wives that came up with making husbands kneel on abacuses...even the CIA deemed that to be too harsh to apply in Guantanamo bay..

Takes a lot of scouting, assessments and re evaluations before can commit to a prc...

Personally, I can't even stand how they talk normally...talking with their friends is also like a life and death arguement...Thais, Indons and maybe Viets are the new way to go...even the Japs are too modern and not very male-centric nowadays..

Methinks the only way left is to go find the smartest woman in a small village then slowly groom her to be a somewhat modern woman...mind you...if you overdo this and actually make her a modern woman, then it will back fire...then you must hide all the canes, sticks, knives and abacuses you see in the house...

Oh bro...best if she is a mute and semi deaf...can only make sounds but cannot speak type...If she is also a football fan, can cook well and is happy to learn how to brew beer...plus willing to go through plastic surgery....we have our perfect woman!
Heh heh heh...create your own wife enterprise...

Sorry to add humour into a thread of such misery bro...But must 苦中做乐 a bit right?

Hope things are better at the home front...

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[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Just want to share that in laws can really cause a wedge between husband and wife. How it should be handle is case to case. My friend's case quite drastic solution.

This is really bad. The kid will gow up being brainwashed by the MIL into believing daddy is a terrible person. No other possible caregiver?

I've a friend who left his 10 month old baby with his in-laws. Husband and wife went to tour Europe for 2 weeks. Kenna complained for throwing the kid behind of course but the trip seem to work wonders for the husband-wife relationship. I think married people need to sometimes separate the husband-wife role from the daddy-mummy role. Seems like a lot of ladies see themselves primarily as mothers and not wives once they have kids.

[smay]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Bro I did everything there is to do to make her feel good in bed and I know each time we do it I always make sure she has an orgasm...i know cos she will hug me and claw my back each time she coming....but the fact is she is just don't feel sex is an important part of our marriage...she honestly think that a marriage can be sustained with just emotional bonding...but the problem is if you don't have any physical bonding how are you going to develop a emotional bond?

Brother,

I agree with you to a certain extend. There are many factors contributing to a happy marriage life: sex, care, children, ... , emotion bonding and etc. It is important that the couple must manages them well to strike a balance. When the balance is off, the foundation of the marriage would be shaken. Many of us are unprepared to get married but they did marry. My wife and me are like some of you, struggling to balance all the controllable and uncontrollable factors. Since there are a controllable factor like having good sex, why shall we let it slip away. To date, we are still walking on a string in the sky -- to balance it.

[Nokia69]

I mentioned my predicament in an earlier post.. No sex before marriage (6yrs), a little sex in the first few months, and thereafter less than 2-3 times a mth. No bj, no touch golden pussy, just fj in missionary or from the back lying down. A slight mention of other position means a quarrel and unhappiness, even when both stark naked.

Well, i got 2 kids now (somehow) and get intimate about once in 2 mths. The idea of sex (with the wife) is a turn off for me now...all these talk abt satisfying her emotional needs is a bullshit. It all stemmed from her family upbringing. Typical local chinese family where sex is a taboo thing.

I feel no more emotional bond now, all i am glad is to get on my daily life and see the kids grow up.

Some Bros here at least enjoyed wild sex before marriage....not me though.

[Tomthefucker]

bros, do you actually think emotional bonding is a half excuse for them?

My thoughts are, male or female, there are bound to have times when there an urge. So how can they always be passive and not interested in sex.

One of the reason i can think of is that i am probably not attractive to my wife anymore.

Same like us, when they are in office, there are bound to be males they might be attracted to or secretly admiring..what do you think?

Its damn frustrating that years down the marriage, my best partners are actually my left and right hand..

[bernardlee]

Agree on the point that wife may be secretly admiring other handsome young men. Wife asked me to backup her photos from her mobile phone. Accidentally, I saw a photo of handsome young punk celerating his birthday with my wife. WTF!

There are so many temptations out there in the office. Who knows that while we are not having sex, she is secretly masturbating thinking of other men.

[FoolInLove]

Originally Posted by bernardlee

There are so many temptations out there in the office. Who knows that while we are not having sex, she is secretly masturbating thinking of other men.

Bro bernardless, to me I will rather check out with my wife rather than to keep that doubt, for a small harmless doubt has no killing power. However as the days goes by, more and more are accumulated. Till one fine day, all hell break loose, that will be too late to clarify any issue already.

[5ag1_Boar]

Was conversing with a female email-pen-pal who is frustrated by her sex life with her husband. Summary of a few of her complaints:
1. She has kept herself attractive, but he has let himself get fat and unhealthy.
2. Foreplay very little. Very reluctant to paint her.
3. Cums too fast.
4. Does not care whether she cums or not.