EXIT STRATEGIES
Alright wise guy... You have followed the Rules of Engagement. You have done your homework and executed the techniques/strategies to the best of your abilities. Slowly but surely she started REALLY taking notice of you... Not only in bed... but also out of bed. She floods your SMS inbox, calls you every other hour and QQs you every other night. You start dating her for makan, shopping, pubbing etc. You enjoyed the well-deserved attention initially but it seems to be getting dry and draggy after some time. Or perhaps you find yourself unconsciously getting smitten by her personality and her charms with each RTF/outing, the chemistry between you both growing undeniably stronger. Shit!
Could she be THE ONE? Am I in love?? Or worse, she starts hinting you for some additional $$$ support, some "gifts" to her folks back in their hometown etc. Your alarm bell starts to ring!!
How to handle this crucial juncture of your KC adventure? Here is what you can do to exit with minimal pain:
1.
Be Decisive. Don't be a wimp and procrastinate till the cows come home. Decide firmly whether you want to continue or exit. If you choose to continue playing this game despite all the warning signs, my blessings to you. My advice is
if you can't afford to cross the line, don't be a hero and cross the line! Forget RAMBO. Remember that in this KC game the KC hero always "dies" first. Save your sanity to enjoy other areas of your life. This is especially true for those bros who are married or are in a committed r/s.
2.
Stop Reasoning. No if's and no but's. WLs are who they are - They operate on 2 objectives: First, they aim to satisfy you sexually; then they aim to hook you emotionally for long-term benefits. 放长线，钓大鱼。End of the day, it is all about $$$. Most WLs are very streetsmart, they know how to touch the unsuspecting cheongster's heart to open his wallet and cry buckets of crocodile tears to win his sympathy. You really think that they will be damn hurt when you exit from their lives?? Just take a minute and think, dude:
If they can pass through the painful shame of selling their bodies for a living, what other threshold of emotional pain can they not bear with??
3.
Go Cold Turkey. The fastest and most effective way to exit is to stop all forms of contact immediately. No RTFs, no SMS, no calls, nothing. Very hard to do, I know. If she presses you for some answers, just say that you are broke/retrenched/jobless/bankrupt. Period. No $$$ no Honey. Unless she is plain stupid or extremely green in this line, she will be likely to persist to "hang on" with you a little longer if she has invested much KC on you and waiting the reap the "fruits of her KC labour". So look from that perspective and tell yourself:
长痛不如短痛! Just bite the bullet and move on.
4.
Deal with the Withdrawal Symptoms. Unless your heart is made of steel, it is likely that you will experience some degree of withdrawal symptoms (ie. You miss her). Accept it and deal with it like a man. Denial will just send you back into her arms again. No offence to smokers here but it is exactly like quitting smoking. During periods of withdrawal your neuro-senses will be triggered acutely by your body's pleasure chemicals to seek for the next puff; and in this context, the next KC feeling that you have once shared with her. The best way to deal with withdrawal symptoms is to
get distracted: Find a new hobby, a new passion in life, a new cause to pursue, or someone to give you emotional support etc. (Preferably a non-WL)
5.
Leave no Traces of Her Behind. Erase away all her SMSes, for goodness' sake! Throw away all the pics you've taken together, and change your QQ account! Do the mental exercises which I've written in
THE AFTERMATH section
here to
erase the remaining emotional trace that are still deeply entrenched in your memories. Depending on your level of KC experience and mental fortitude, you should be fine after 2 to 3 weeks.
But should you still decide to cross the line and get burnt badly, please come back for the Recovery Strategies I'll be writing later.
To be continued...