Is it wrong to want so much sex???

[elina]

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all. I have to always make the first moves, when I do, he always finds something wrong like "its too cold, its too hot, your ass stinks, get the cover, etc". There are times when if i suck his dick, he starts screaming and tells me to get off of him."it tickles" how can 4play tickle... If he do finally got his penis inside of me, he'll cum and that will be the end of the show meanwhile i am sitting there horny still ( i mean he'll let me cum, but he has stop moving and i have to do all the work) To talk about that, for me to get him on top to ride my ass, to get him to do any other positions other than me on top is like mission impossible. he has gone down on me all of 95 times in the past 12 months and i try to coach him on that and he just gets upset. Now, i eat him out and do a damn good job, he coaches me and i listen because i want to satisfy him. ( he is my husband) WHY CANT HE DO THE SAME FOR ME????? It can not be me because i am a very attractive gal who is in nice shape, i have a great job and we have a grt house and i couldn't imagine a better life. I just want a good sex life. i want to come home one night and he wears a sexy number and just fuck me and sex the hell out of me. (i tell this is what i would like but he will not do anything) I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?

[MMM88]

yo....wow...the BIG age gap....27 yrs ....try ROLE play ...mayb tat will excites him.....:)
btw...wat is grt house ??? garden house ???..:confused:

[Castrol]

There are times when if i suck his dick, he starts screaming and tells me to get off of him."it tickles" how can 4play tickle...

why, you got a moustache?

btw you say he's already 49, you cant expect him to be like a young man in heat or something right? give him a break. :D

[Know_yr_role]

sad to say, many failed marriages are due to the lack of sexual energy between couples...i know a few frz in tat situations.. its very impt to commnuicate with yr spouses.... if really cant work out pls seek professional help, go for counselling, if all else fails, i think its time to find another manz....

alot got to do with yr age gap also..u are young n full of sexual energy, u are at yr peak while yr husband sexual desire/drive is lowered due to age....

jus my 2 cts :D

[randyboy73]

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all...... I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?

Hey little sister...

i do think that you and your hubby should attend some counselling together.. usually when the man is not too keen on sex it could be one of the following reasons:

1. He has a mistress that he is bonking on a regular basis so he is spent each night he comes home
2. He is not attracted to you physically (you may be young and attractive, but he prefers your intellect over your body contact)
3. He is having a realy stressful time in the office, such that he is drained of any energy for love making
4. He fancies variation in lovemaking sessions, ala as bro MMM88 said, try role play
5. He goes for WL, FLs and PTMMs... (maybe he also has a nick with SBF)

Key is you will probably be able to get him to admit to points 2, 3 and 4.. good luck if it is no.1 or 5 ... Talk to him and if need be get the counselling session.. sometimes it is better this way.. alternatively, get him to read the erotic stories in SBF, maybe that will teach him a thing or two about how to treat a lady....

I am not making fun of you as i really believe that the above 5 points could be valid.. Bros out there, feel free to add on as I believe I missed out on some other possibilities.

[wildbeast]

My empathy to you gal. Sex is always mutual and a spiritual things. I feel is the mind that denotes FUCK or NOT, SEXY or NOT, STINK or NOT..... Physically arouse him like role-play, toys, Porn... does help. But not long run. One year alone already you must think of 365 "patterns" liao. Let alone forever together.

It would be TOUGH, but mentally arouse him would be permanent solution. Try! Hope you would get out of this sucks problem soon.

Nevertheless, please do factor in the 22/49 age difference. U r in ur prime. Ur hubby may not..... Also, dun neglect work stress, fatigue, fear in unable to sextisfy u, problems he has not tell u......

All the best to u!!! :)

[SharkMan]

...I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?

Hi Elina,

Excuse me if I'm a bit blunt, first thing first, your husband is an ASS!
Sounds like a typical MCP to me.
Secondly, is he a man??? You a sexy wife with good body, and he's not even excited? Maybe he's gay? and only like little boys? Or maybe he only like old woman with saggy breast and lots of cellulite? Or maybe he wank himself in secret too much that he doesn't need the real thing???

FUCKIN COM'ON!!!

I think the department manager IS REALLY INTERESTING!

Have a talk with your husband, seriously ask him "WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?", and make him feel guilty. Get him to talk, ask him what turns him on... It is really sad that you'll have to do this, but guess you've no choice. If he's not talking, you'll have to make the first move. If he's even half the man you think you've married to, then he should wake up! If not, bail OUT! You've many more years to go, he's more then half way into the box.

THIS IS REALITY.. What Love???? Yeah, love is important (I do believe in love), but hey, what about physical needs???

Do what makes you happy girl!

Best of luck, and pray you married the right man.

:cool:

[qw2op]

... I am only 22 years and he is 49 ...
if u dun mind my asking ... wat hv u married him 4? :)

[Getz]

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all. I

Hi, sorry to hear that.

Maybe you can go out party with your frd.

[slider_72]

I'm impressed. After so many replies, nobody out there has yet to offer his services to Ms Elina :D When I read her post, I half expected 90% of the replies would be from bros offering to provide relief.

[gilagila100]

Ermm errmmm ... he's oledi 49 lehh ... ofcoz engine not tat good plus maybe sometimes hard to start oso ...

Suggest the following for you two:

a) Go see counsellor. Do therapy together.

b) Get him to see a specialist for his tool. I think he might need external help like pills or other stuff to get the engine goin n running hot.

If all fails, ermm ermmm ... I knw this sounds immoral .. but either u leave him or u eat outside ... get urself a fuck buddy ...

if u decide the later, u can always pm me. :p

[Castrol]

I'm impressed. After so many replies, nobody out there has yet to offer his services to Ms Elina :D

better dont anyhow offer service, sekali she's sherine then you will have an unforgettable time in bencoolen hotel 81... :D

[geckoSG]

I think he no longer have stamina already... That's what happened to my friend, her hubby who is near 50 cannot make it liao and she had to look for a fuck buddy.

The hubby knows about it but resigned his fate and allow her to satisfy herself. She is beautiful and has nice body shape.

Too bad, i too close to her and she doesn't click with me, else i sure onz her
one. She is only 27 leh.

So, threadstarter, U think carefully first. If u have high sex drive and need to satisfy your desire, then maybe a fuck buddy would help you. Else, live on life with this situation til he officially "dismissed" from his duties and you can officially seek a new replacement. :o

[tunkudon]

why dun go and find a fuck bubby:)

[misterjoy]

Sorry to hear about your mishap.

Well there some suppliments that may prolong his ejeculation eg

Horny Goat Wheat. Can be found in nature farm
Tongka Ali capsual. Guardian pharmacy

Then there is some counciling that i think you and your hubby should go. Maybe he's stress out with work etc.

You should just ban him from sex with you for a period of time, meanwhile u just have to service urself with you own toy. Maybe that will make him more horny.

Good Luck

Cheers

[ti_ger007]

I think best to see a doctor. Man are abit different when older

[shaunting77]

Yes-man, One-Man

[Schmi]

Your problem seems rare but I believed it's not the end of the world, take it easy

[KingBong]

Think is problem discussed before. Usually the person effected will tend to blame themself, and wonder is there something wrong with them, or even the other party. There are quite a number of factors, so to tackle the problem you need to find out the cause and work on it, of course the best way is always a heart-2-heart talk between the couple. Also need to understand that everyone is different. If before u were married, and you were doing it like rabbits, and now he changed, then it shouldn't be a medical problem, unless from Day1 is like that, then may have to see the doc.
Here are some other reason I can think of:
1. stress form work, pressure etc.
2. he's having side desserts, after a 3hr session with someone else he may have lost interest after that
3. he's gay
4. depressed e.g. when he realises he is gay but cant tell anyone
5. the ambience may be wrong; lights, colour,sounds and smell have affect
6. foreplay, this is important for some guys, to get them in the mood
7. roleplay, sometimes they fantasise of a schoolgal so maybe dressing like one helps
8. food, diet may affect the libido
9. illness,not sure about other guys but if i have a 40degree fever sex is the last thing on my head
10. he doesn't know what to do, i've read of real cases when the couple saw the counsellor they realised that the guy doesnt know where the hole is...:o

HTH.

[KingBong]

sorry double post :confused:

[asdfghjkl]

u want him to be like a young man?? *sigh* time and tide wait for no man.. many men longed for such a drug but all they have had was only disappointment.. i had seen many such cases.. some even resulted in death.. :o

[no_faith]

may i ask is ur husband age 49, very very very rich?
(juz curious)

[bhoven]

Think is problem discussed before. Usually the person effected will tend to blame themself, and wonder is there something wrong with them, or even the other party. HTH.

Don't know why but my hunch is that threadstarter is not even a female and is taking all of you for a ride! So don't bother to take this thread too seriously....

[ass_robber]

Real or not real also never mind lah.... cos nobody ain't donate any $ to her. Maybe some will want to donate sperm, I duno.

Well, we can't comment about your sex life as we do not have much details about the background of you entering into married with a man that is twice your age. Maybe he is a divorcee with a couple of kids, or maybe because he has temporary impotence and is embarress to tell you about it, and thus pretend to be not interested.

Maybe you should seek some professional help, and also try going for a holiday somewhere.

good luck...

[GLHunter]

Don't know why but my hunch is that threadstarter is not even a female and is taking all of you for a ride! So don't bother to take this thread too seriously....

yeah, bro.. i have the same feelin.. a bit dramatic.. :rolleyes:

[loppp]

maybe you can intro "magix" the natural Enhancer to him..check our advertiser in this forum :p

[sinbad01]

Talk to him nicely bah. Worst case senario, if he wants u to look for other man to satisfiy ur sex drive at least you know he wants it that way.

I think there are some ppl who cannot perform but wants ur significant half to be satisfied. Moreover you are still so young, it is normal that you will want more too. Communicate with him.

[broatsamforum]

Did you test that his sex drive is okie before marriage??
Thats why so many ppl wants pre-marriage sex :D

[orangeapples]

Hi there, I happen to be that Dept Manager who really is waiting for you to make a move......... :D ... Just kidding.. Well I think that the age factor really matters. I guess what your husband probably is suffering from is diminishing libido or simply a destrudo complex? Would suggest that he can consider taking hormone injections. He can see a urologist for this and go for a proper check up. There should be a proper medical explanation for his lack of sex drive unless he is cheating on you.... :p Then you really should consider the allure of the Dept Manager..

[cdr_bly]

2 words. Trophy Wife. All the same you are young, you want to have great sex, that's to be expected.

[thomas88]

Don't know why but my hunch is that threadstarter is not even a female and is taking all of you for a ride! So don't bother to take this thread too seriously....

I feels the same way as you bro bhoven the minute I read the post. I may be lost touch of the world.....but I think normally a man that age if married a gal so young like the thread starter is because of sex as most older men dream of having sex with young gal.

No offence to anyone here as this is just my 2 cents worth. ;)

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

its nv wrong.its natural to feel horny.:o

[bobosooter]

I'm impressed. After so many replies, nobody out there has yet to offer his services to Ms Elina :D When I read her post, I half expected 90% of the replies would be from bros offering to provide relief.

this was wat i thought of also...muahahaha!

[Red-Card]

its nv wrong.its natural to feel horny.:o

Horny....that's why we are here in this forum.

[Frankiestine]

Hello, MY question/situation is like this. I am married now for 1 years and my husband has no sex drive at all. I have to always make the first moves, when I do, he always finds something wrong like "its too cold, its too hot, your ass stinks, get the cover, etc". There are times when if i suck his dick, he starts screaming and tells me to get off of him."it tickles" how can 4play tickle... If he do finally got his penis inside of me, he'll cum and that will be the end of the show meanwhile i am sitting there horny still ( i mean he'll let me cum, but he has stop moving and i have to do all the work) To talk about that, for me to get him on top to ride my ass, to get him to do any other positions other than me on top is like mission impossible. he has gone down on me all of 95 times in the past 12 months and i try to coach him on that and he just gets upset. Now, i eat him out and do a damn good job, he coaches me and i listen because i want to satisfy him. ( he is my husband) WHY CANT HE DO THE SAME FOR ME????? It can not be me because i am a very attractive gal who is in nice shape, i have a great job and we have a grt house and i couldn't imagine a better life. I just want a good sex life. i want to come home one night and he wears a sexy number and just fuck me and sex the hell out of me. (i tell this is what i would like but he will not do anything) I am only 22 years and he is 49, i feel like i am married to a monk... can you give any help because honestly the dept manager is starting to look very interested in me, i dont want to him to wear green hat. "understand"?
Lady if a man have no interest in sex with his wife, there can only be only three reasons
1. He is a faggot
2. He is getting his feed from outside
3. He is impotent

But based on what you wrote, we can rule out 1 and 3 but then again cannot totally rule out 1 as there are faggots that are bi....so maybe 2 is the reason...

Geez here we SBF cheongsters complaining in another thread our wife not interested in sex but it seems that the some of our ladies friends have it just as tough...

[Frankiestine]

why dun go and find a fuck bubby:)

yeah and without a doubt you willingly offer yourselve..

[Dicky88]

Either way out: 1) Your hubby lost interest in sex, or, 2) Your hubby lost interest in (or dont wanna) having sex with you (there might be many reasons behind it, provided he's healthy for sex life) :confused:

[surfer888]

Lady if a man have no interest in sex with his wife, there can only be only three reasons
1. He is a faggot
2. He is getting his feed from outside
3. He is impotent

But based on what you wrote, we can rule out 1 and 3 but then again cannot totally rule out 1 as there are faggots that are bi....so maybe 2 is the reason...

Geez here we SBF cheongsters complaining in another thread our wife not interested in sex but it seems that the some of our ladies friends have it just as tough...

4th reason. It's the school holidays and the forum starts receiving unbelievable posts.

[HighXDrv]

4th reason. It's the school holidays and the forum starts receiving unbelievable posts.

wahahaha.. I agree.. no wonder SBF lately high traffic flow tht i cant get in.. nbz:mad:

[flowerpot]

im 101% sure shool holiday started...

n merry x'mas...

[astrozz]

somehow I just dont think this elina is real .

[D!ckster]

...shool holiday started...
Hmmm...what's the world coming to nowadays...how come we all not so bo liao when we were in school? times are certainly changing...:D

[Castrol]

i think our 22 year old elina elung with a samster already. its time for the 49 year old husband to post his story. :D

[randyboy73]

Hmmm...what's the world coming to nowadays...how come we all not so bo liao when we were in school? times are certainly changing...:D


bro.. this is called progression of time....

[randyboy73]

i think our 22 year old elina elung with a samster already. its time for the 49 year old husband to post his story. :D

the story will be entitled... my horny wife and the grumpy old goat....

[@Wendy@]

can't believe that is men who don't like sex esp. with such a young and a women with beautiful shape of body, and why is it a big gap on the age? you married him coz of what reason?? mind to share?

[carnivore33]

can't believe that is men who don't like sex esp. with such a young and a women with beautiful shape of body, and why is it a big gap on the age? you married him coz of what reason?? mind to share?

maybe he is able to quote Tang Dynasty poems while making love to her.. the intellectual aspect of his being is so fascinating that it becomes an absolute turn on... Wait a minute.. aren't they having love making problems? Oops... Kindly ignore my insensitive post....

Just kidding. Actually my point is that there is always a need for sexual and mentality compatibility.. It is pointless for a marriage to be based entirely on sex or on the mental maturity alone... My best guess is that her husband is probably having additional services on the side and due to his age is unable to peform his husbandly duties.. the only ay for him to avoid her is then to make excuses and show an indifference.

If this is indeed a true situation, my heart goes out to you my dear...

[surfer888]

can't believe that is men who don't like sex esp. with such a young and a women with beautiful shape of body, and why is it a big gap on the age? you married him coz of what reason?? mind to share?

It's the school holidays... anything can happen.

It's the time of the year where men don't get horny for sexy pretty women, mice have sex with elephants and of course, pigs fly.

[randyboy73]

It's the school holidays... anything can happen.

It's the time of the year where men don't get horny for sexy pretty women, mice have sex with elephants and of course, pigs fly.

another saying for you to add.. if "cocks" can talk, CBs can "ka" pager....

School hols and we are always inundated with wierd stuff. notice there is no response at all from threadstarter? Bros... guess we've just been taken for a ride mano!!!!

[curiosityz]

firstly, sex is wonderful so why not want so much sex? haivng much sex won't harm you btw :)

[da dick]

at his age, might be possible he have erectile dysfunction dun want to tell you. try tricking him into going for medical checkup, if he won't give me any good reason.

[mptan]

Ya, totally agreed with. When school holiday comes, alot of funny posting do come out. :D