NotMyRealName
28-01-2013, 03:12 PM
Hi guys,
As risk management goes, there is no complete risk-free way to prevent being caught out by family member or wife or people who knows who and can use the knowledge of you being a cheongster to ruin you.
I had been cheonging for a while, and colleagues and friends told me things to prepare or do in order to minimise risk.
Let's start by list of things to do:
1. Prepare a reason for staying out late, if you were not the staying out late type.
2. Prepare another story to explain the lady companion if you're having outings in public such as dinner/window-shopping etc, rehearse it in your head until you are convinced yourself. Of course that is only if you two are not holding hands in public, then the story won't work. For example, working meal and meeting, shopping for company stationary after a late meal, she is an intern etc. Movie is the toughest so suggestion is to have late timing and not family animation / English shows if your friends prefers these genre of shows.
3. Do have a second mobile phone and a second pre-paid SIM card. Delete all messages and have it SIM-locked and phone-locked. Prepare a story if you are asked why you have a second phone.
4. Do change your credit card to e-statement type so that you don't get your hotel booking info onto your credit card statement seen by family
5. Bring driver's license to register for hotel, and fill in either a fictitious address or worst case your old company's address, carry your old company name card or better yet, print new fictitious name card (I don't know if it is illegal to carry fictitious name card but you evaluate your risk-rewards)
6. Try not to use your own car, use taxi. If you can afford, use a car rental or car sharing club if you must drive. But don't borrow your colleague's car in case they found out.
7. Find out where your wife and your wife friends usually frequent. Go to the exact opposite.
8. Do scan and check your surroundings regularly, especially if you are going to a hotel or her apartment, but remain confident and not be looking suspicious.
9. If you do it in your car. Have SOP to do one round of checking. Use air-freshener spray, wet tissues to clean up, picked up the stray hairs.
10. If you do go overseas for fun or meet-up, do prepare your story, it is tough to organise to include weekend because family member will question why company will pay for your Saturday night stay. You can explain a stay of Friday due to cannot get confirmed seat lah, plane delay lah etc etc.
As risk management goes, there is no complete risk-free way to prevent being caught out by family member or wife or people who knows who and can use the knowledge of you being a cheongster to ruin you.
I had been cheonging for a while, and colleagues and friends told me things to prepare or do in order to minimise risk.
Let's start by list of things to do:
1. Prepare a reason for staying out late, if you were not the staying out late type.
2. Prepare another story to explain the lady companion if you're having outings in public such as dinner/window-shopping etc, rehearse it in your head until you are convinced yourself. Of course that is only if you two are not holding hands in public, then the story won't work. For example, working meal and meeting, shopping for company stationary after a late meal, she is an intern etc. Movie is the toughest so suggestion is to have late timing and not family animation / English shows if your friends prefers these genre of shows.
3. Do have a second mobile phone and a second pre-paid SIM card. Delete all messages and have it SIM-locked and phone-locked. Prepare a story if you are asked why you have a second phone.
4. Do change your credit card to e-statement type so that you don't get your hotel booking info onto your credit card statement seen by family
5. Bring driver's license to register for hotel, and fill in either a fictitious address or worst case your old company's address, carry your old company name card or better yet, print new fictitious name card (I don't know if it is illegal to carry fictitious name card but you evaluate your risk-rewards)
6. Try not to use your own car, use taxi. If you can afford, use a car rental or car sharing club if you must drive. But don't borrow your colleague's car in case they found out.
7. Find out where your wife and your wife friends usually frequent. Go to the exact opposite.
8. Do scan and check your surroundings regularly, especially if you are going to a hotel or her apartment, but remain confident and not be looking suspicious.
9. If you do it in your car. Have SOP to do one round of checking. Use air-freshener spray, wet tissues to clean up, picked up the stray hairs.
10. If you do go overseas for fun or meet-up, do prepare your story, it is tough to organise to include weekend because family member will question why company will pay for your Saturday night stay. You can explain a stay of Friday due to cannot get confirmed seat lah, plane delay lah etc etc.